Rushing

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You know my name really isn’t all that important, because what I’m going to tell everyone is so much more important than who I am.

You can’t always rush things, but sometimes things have to be rushed, like right now I’m rushing this message because my husband is going to be home soon. Other things you really shouldn’t rush, like I’m 18 years old and I’m married and I just got married and it’s hard. It’s really hard. And I should have waited. That doesn’t mean that I regret anything I’ve done because I don’t. But rushing things like life — sometimes it doesn’t always end up good, and you really need to step back and take a look at the mirror and think to yourself, “You’ve got all this time” and even if you don’t have all of the time that you think you have, rushing is still not worth it. Ever. It’s not ever worth it.

You need to take time and enjoy every single part of your life — every tragic part of your life, every beautiful part of your life. And appreciate yourself, because if you don’t appreciate yourself before you start trying to appreciate someone else, appreciating yourself will not come easy, I can guarantee you that. It’s been 18 years and I’m still trying to figure out how to appreciate myself. And I probably will well into adulthood and probably until the day I die, I will still trying to be figuring out — try to figure out how to appreciate myself and that’s a little sad.

But don’t rush yourself and don’t rush these beautiful moments in life, because they are so much more beautiful when you wait and you let the opportunity present itself to you. So my name isn’t important. My story really isn’t important. Not — not for this. Your name and your story is important. So don’t rush it. Thank you and I hope you guys all have a good you know, new year and whatever. Bye.

No matter how careful you are, there’s going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn’t experience it all. There’s that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should’ve been paying attention.
—  Chuck Palahniuk