Relationship Break Ups

anonymous asked:

So I just got hit with Barriscowest feels and I'm just like, how do they handle the fallout in 3x07 and just Season 3A in general? Would the flashvibe part of their relationship break up resulting in a V relationship. Would Cisco take space from Barry as he sorts stuff out and Iris act as a buffer and intermediary to keep both her partners in as good a place as she can. I just, Season 3 would definitely affect their dynamic.

here’s the thing: due to flashpoint, i don’t think that barriscowest ever got together at all. barry was stunned by it-he promised he’d find them in every universe, every timeline, but cisco’s mad at him and while he still has iris, the first love of his life, cisco’s not there. it’s not the same. and he keeps trying to reach out to cisco only to pull himself back out of fear that he’ll be rejected.

and then they go to gorilla city and cisco suggests killing himself to stop grodd from going back to their earth. and barry hears him catch himself, stop himself from saying that iris is going to die too, and barry knows why.

he can’t lose both of the people he loves.

so barry tells iris that he’s scared for cisco, that on earth-2 cisco said some worrying things, and he doesn’t want to make anything worse but oh god he can’t lose cisco he can’t not when he might lose iris too-

they go to talk to cisco. talk all night, in fact. iris holds him while he cries into her arms, barry rubbing his back and holding iris’s hand the whole time. barry knows things won’t be the same. he accidentally did too many terrible things for it to ever go back to being the way that it was before and he knows it no matter how much he wishes he didn’t.

iris doesn’t know what’s gotten into her, but some old instinct finds her cupping cisco’s face and pressing their foreheads together (barry is right there he’s right there oh god what is she doing-) and asking if she can kiss him. asking both of them, really. barry and cisco both nod minutely and iris presses her lips to cisco’s while barry hugs them both from behind.

things aren’t the same as they were, but… he can try to fix it. and it starts now.

anonymous asked:

So I just got hit with Barriscowest feels and I'm just like, how do they handle the fallout in 3x07 and just Season 3A in general? Would the flashvibe part of their relationship break up resulting in a V relationship. Would Cisco take space from Barry as he sorts stuff out and Iris act as a buffer and intermediary to keep both her partners in as good a place as she can. I just, Season 3 would definitely affect their dynamic.

I think Cisco has always deep down doubted his place in their relationship because he met them both later in life, so when shit with him and Barry hits the fan, he’s worried Iris won’t want him anymore. But Iris is nothing but understanding and reassures him that she loves him. Cisco does pull away from Barry and Iris splits her time between the two, without pushing Cisco to forgive Barry and offering reassurances to Barry that Cisco really does just need time and space. Then one day during Iris and Cisco’s movie night date Barry comes in and breaks down in front of Cisco. He gives a genuine apology and asks what will help Cisco heal instead of just relating everything back to himself and his own feelings(he really has a bad habit of that) and Cisco tells him he doesnt know if things will ever be exactly the same again but he wants to try because trying to stay mad at the man he loves is tearing him apart. By the end Iris is teary eyed and she takes both of their hands in hers and they all stay there for a few moments just sitting together. There’s a shift in their relationship after that. Cisco is more vocal about his feelings and doesn’t push everything down under a smile, Barry is more understanding of the others struggles and is even more supportive and selfless than he was before, and Iris is more grateful than ever to have these men in her life because while she was holding it together for them she was really scared she might have to let one go and that terrified her. It was a long and hard road but they all came out stronger and closer than ever. Then Cisco and Iris give Barry a makeover.

Better to love too much than too little.

We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be unfollowed and defriended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings.
—  Ryan O’Connell, You Don’t Have To Be Friends With Everybody

You deserve someone who will love you the way you love them.

I miss you
But I shouldn’t
Because we’re told,
Not to miss people that have hurt us
We’re told to move on
But that must mean there’s something wrong with me
Because I miss you so much it hurts
I can’t eat or sleep
You consume my thoughts
We’re not supposed to want those people back
But it’s my little secret,
That I wish every night that you’d come back to me
—  Chapters from my life
I know it’s hard for you to talk to anyone right now, but how much do I wish I could tell you this: love isn’t everything. You don’t always have to live on the feeling of being in love. You are not a half of a whole seeking for your perfect other half; you are whole. You could be capable of creating masterpieces if you tried to reach for the sky. So please don’t get stuck in your hopeless circle, waiting for love - you are so much more than that person you said you are.

When you love, I think it’s better to love with your whole heart than to be safe and reserved. I know it might set you up for getting your heart broken which is no fun, but even if that does happen, at least you know that you gave it your all. If it didn’t work out, it wasn’t your fault because you were brave enough to say, “hey, I love the absolute shit out of you, I hope that’s enough”.