Dear straight people,
I understand that you mean well, and I appreciate the attitude you’re showing. But after finding out my orientation(s), repeatedly enthusing about how tolerant and accepting you are, and how everyone should just be allowed to be themselves and isn’t it great that there’s diversity in the world…
Look, we don’t need your permission to be ourselves. We don’t need your permission to be queer, gay, bi, pan, poly, ace, aro, trans, whatever. I appreciate what you’re trying to say. But what you’re really saying is that we are only allowed to exist in (semi) peace because it is being generously allowed.
Better? Just say “oh, cool” and move on. Or “oh, do you have a girlfriend?” Something benign and quick - don’t make a big deal out of it! Part of what makes us cringe to come out to even friendly people, is the knowledge that we’ll probably have to navigate a whole long conversation about ourselves, and it’s tiring.