“A moment’s reflection will show you that you play many roles in the
course of a day … and that who you are from moment to moment
changes. There is the angry you, and the kind you, the lazy you, the
lustful you — hundreds of different you’s. Gurdjieff points out that
sometimes one “you” does something for which all the other “you’s” must
pay for years or possibly the rest of this life.”
When somebody provokes your anger, the only reason you get angry is because you’re holding on to how you think something is supposed to be. You’re denying how it is. Then you see it’s the expectations of your own mind that are creating your own hell. When you get frustrated because something isn’t the way you thought it would be, examine the way you thought, not just the thing that frustrates you. You’ll see that a lot of your emotional suffering is created by your models of how you think the universe should be and your inability to allow it to be as it is.
When you go out into the woods and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some of them are bent, and some of them are straight, and some of them are evergreens, and some of them are whatever. And you look at the tree and you allow it. You see why it is the way it is. You sort of understand that it didn’t get enough light, and so it turned that way. And you don’t get all emotional about it. You just allow it. You appreciate the tree. The minute you get near humans, you lose all that. And you are constantly saying, ‘You’re too this, or I’m too this.’ That judging mind comes in. And so I practice turning people into trees. Which means appreciating them just the way they are.
Unconditional love really exists in each of us. It is part of our deep inner being. It is not so much an active emotion as a state of being. It’s not ‘I love you’ for this or that reason, not 'I love you if you love me.’ It’s love for no reason, love without an object.
“Most of us go through our entire lives experiencing unnecessary, personal suffering without ever truly waking up. The prison that we are trapped in exists only inside our heads; a mind-created construct
of a fictitious “I” entity (separate ‘me’) and its conditioning.” ~Anon I mus (No-self)
The only thing you have to offer another human being, ever, is your own state of being. You can cop out only just so long, saying, ‘I’ve got all this nice stuff, I know all this and I can do all this.’ But everything you do, whether you’re cooking food or doing therapy or being a student or being a lover … you are only doing your own BEING … you’re only manifesting how evolved a consciousness you are. That’s what you’re doing with another human being. That’s the only dance there is!