Allah ﷻ tests different people with different trials, because everyone has a different level of patience, tolerance, and faith.. Trials are a truly blessing in disguise. All He wants from us is for us to turn towards Him in meekness and humbleness and for us to be patient.
These tests actually differentiate us believers from one another in terms of ranking in the eyes of Allah ﷻ and therefore we should know that those who are tested and are patient are forgiven of their sins as sins falls off a person who is patient through trials. Therefore we should realise that us being tested with trials and tests will never go unrewarded for Allah ﷻ rewards how much he wants to those who are patient through trials and those who turn towards Him in humility and meekness.
We should also approach hardships and tests as in that it is the decree of Allah ﷻ so we should never ask Allah ﷻ “Why” has He given us such trials!
For questioning Allah why He has decreed something will mean that not only have we gone through so much grief and torment from these trials but that we have actually added to our sins by questioning Allah ﷻ and we will be accountable for that.
Patience is one of the greatest attributes a person can acquire and Allah ﷻ is with those who are patient.
Sometimes when we go through great trials we get decieved into thinking that other people around us must be living a happy and content life. We are wrong to think in this way for we do not know what goes on in peoples lives on a day to day basis. Shaitaan is our eternal sworn enemy and Only wants us to lose hope and faith and to go away from Allah ﷻ but we should reject our enemy who only wants our destruction. We must realise that if we continuously strive and keep turning towards Allah ﷻ and be patient then the final victory will be ours.
So be grateful for the hardships, because they are decreed in order to purify ourselves, our hearts, and to make us turn to Allah ﷻ with humbleness in repentance; hardships endured with beautiful patience are rewarded with sins forgiveness and an increase of imaan, by the will of Allah ﷻ. At least, we should be grateful for it could have been much worse.
Sa'ad ibn Abi Waqqas (ra) asked the Prophet (saws) “Ya Rasulullah, who amongst people are the most tried (subject to hardships)?” Rasulullah (saws) said: The Anbiyyah (messengers of Allah) and after them the Salihoon (righteous) and then in accordance to your iman, taqwaah etc, there will be more hardships, not less. Every mu'min will be tried by difficulties in accordance (proportion) to their deen. If in this person’s deen is solidity (their deen is deeply rooted) the balaa’ will increase, to purify, cleanse, strengthen, elevate the person. And if in the deen in this person there is riqaa (weakness, thinness), then that persons balaa will be weakened, until the person walks on the earth cleansed of sins until they meet Allah.
Ya Allah ﷻ make us amongst those who attain sabr. Oh Allah provide us the strength to remain steadfast in Your cause and the wisdom to place all of our trust in you.