To questioning people : continue to explore your gender.

Do what makes you comfortable, at your own pace.

If it turns out you’re cis, it’s okay, you’ll still have gained a better understanding of yourself.

You’re not appropriating anything, or stealing anything from “”actual”” trans people. Go ahead. Seriously.

anonymous asked:

So i am a girl, i alway identified as hetero. I recently discover that being attracted to more than one gender was not what people qualify as"heterosexual". my all life I thought people were attracted to people in general weigher them being male

(Part 2) female or non-binary. It made me question weigher or not I’d like to identify as bi. But I’m new to this “not-in-fact-straight” thing so I don’t really know what I am anymore. Any advice ? X

I think this is actually a pretty common experience. You grow up feeling normal, and you are told that normal=straight so you must be straight and straight people must experience attraction like you do. It can be strange when you realize that straight people don’t actually experience this generalized attraction to people of multiple genders. If you are attracted to more than one gender, you can identify as bisexual if you want to. If you’re not comfortable with that label, you don’t have to use it. There are others: pansexual = attraction to all genders, polysexual = attraction to multiple but not all genders, queer = not straight. Your label should make you feel comfortable.

anonymous asked:

Okay, so recently I have been questioning my gender bc I feel like a boy sometimes, and a girl at other times. When I was younger, I was more on the girly side, so I'm wondering if this is just a phase or something. A doctor once told me that trans people feel like a different gender their whole life, so its probably nothing. I want to look like a boy, but at the same time I want to be a girl. Any advice? Sorry this was so long.

Far from all trans people have known their gender their whole life. Personally I only really figured out I was nonbinary when I was in my later teens.

If you feel like you are a girl sometimes and a boy other times, you could perhaps be genderfluid. Of course there are many other possible labels that might suit you, but that is the first one that your message made me think of.

And if you have the time and energy, you are more than welcome to go through my tagged/questioning and see if something from there is helpful to you. I know I should at least have a few good resources linked in the posts there.

anonymous asked:

Hello there! 17yo girl here: I think I'm ace, but I'm not sure about the romantic part yet. I had my first kiss last month: not only was it rather gross, but I found out I react pretty badly to romantic behaviors in general. I realized I'd brainwashed myself into thinking I had a crush on the guy just because he was nice and easy to talk to. It wasn't the first time I mistook platonic feelings for romantic ones, either. Do you reckon I might be aro? Thank you for your help! ♥

Hi lovely :)

Congratulations on starting to figure yourself out! You’ve already found out you probably don’t enjoy kissing and don’t like romantic gestures in general. That’s great!

In this hetero-amatonormative society we live in, it is very common for people to mistake platonic feelings for romantic feelings. Compulsory heterosexuality makes it very hard for women in particular to figure out whether they are attracted to men in a romantic/sexual way or not. Consciously try to remind yourself that you don’t have to attracted towards, or attractive to, men!

It is possible that you are aromantic or on the aro-spectrum, or at least not heteroromantic. Give yourself plenty of time and space to explore things and use whatever labels feel comfortable to you. There is no imperative to choose a label that you must stick with forever, or even choose a label at all if you don’t want to.

Good luck! -Mod Michy

Asexual bi hermione after the war becoming friends with aro/ace spec questioning pansy //H

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Hermione and Pansy both end up hanging around the Ministry of Magic a lot, so they have to learn to get along. It involves a lot of apologizing on Pansy’s part. At first she’s reluctant, but as the years pass, she begins to see how the Ministry has improved with Hermione pushing it too and she lets go of old prejudices. Hermione’s goal is to bridge gaps between wix to get them to accept each other. So even though it’s an incredibly difficult task, she begins to see a genuine change in Pansy. And one day, Hermione realizes that she actually regards Pansy as a friend. It helps that they are both asexual. It is one of the first conversations the two of them have where Pansy actually talks to Hermione like an equal. It’s after some of these conversations that Pansy begins giving genuine, sincere apologies.

~Hufflepuff Mod

It’s never too early to realize you’re nonbinary.

It’s never too early to come out, if that is something you want to do.

It’s never too early to look into medical transition, if that is something you want to do.

It’s never too early.

It’s never too late to realize you’re nonbinary.

It’s never to late to come out, if that is something you want to do.

It’s never too late to transition medically - if that is something you want to do.

It’s never too late.

anonymous asked:

Hello, I'm a really confused girl. I refer to myself as questioning (well, only in my own head, tho) but I think I feel sexual attraction towards more than one gender, so I'm probably bi. Also, I don't think I feel any romantic attraction in general (but I have a platonic crush). Does this make me aro bi? I know I chose my own labels, but I'm terribly scared of misusing them. Thanks.

If you feel sexual attraction to multiple genders and no romantic attraction, that would make you aro bi, correct. I know the idea of misusing labels is scary, but don’t let that deter you from labeling yourself if you want to. You are perfectly valid in identifying that way. 


Happy National Coming Out Day!

Whether you are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, asexual, pansexual, demisexual, omnisexual, fluid, polysexual, questioning, or anywhere in between, you are all valid.

Stay safe and stay awesome!

anonymous asked:

(1) Hi! I'm already 22 and I consider myself bisexual since I was fifteen, bu sometimes I have doubts. I wonder if I didn't just like this label as more modern or "rebelious". I've never been in relationship with a girl (but I've never dated a lot: frankly, I had only 3 relationships, and only one "serious" - I'm with my current boyfriend for 4 years). I used to have crushes on girls but I was always too afraid to come out to them and I was on dates with girl few times.

(2) When I imagine romantc relationships (whegter with me or with fictional characters) their are mostly hetero (but not always). However I think I’m more often physically/sexually atracted to women and it turns me on more. Am I really a bisexual? Or maybe I’m heteromatic, but bisexual? What do you think?

Well, it’s up to you to label yourself, but I can tell you what I think. Firstly a lot of bisexual people internalize biphobia, which can include excessive self-doubt, or applying bi stereotypes to ourselves (attention-seeking, greedy, etc). If you’ve identified as bisexual for seven years and had crushes on girls, you are probably bisexual. Crushes are often a sign of romantic attraction, and you are also romantically attracted to guys, so it doesn’t sound like you are heteroromantic. It’s okay if your attraction to girls and guys feels a little different, and it’s okay if you’ve been too afraid to pursue anything with girls. That doesn’t make you any less bisexual. I think you are really a bisexual, and you have internalized a ton of biphobia that’s making you doubt yourself. 

hey just a reminder to all girls that it’s totally ok to love girls, to have crushes on girls, to find them attractive or cute or enchanting. it doesn’t make you gross or bad or broken; it’s not predatory or backwards to have feelings for women. if you were straight but now think you might like girls that’s totally fine, you don’t have to make a decision about how you identify before you’re ready and it’s ok to be uncertain — you’re completely free to explore your feelings and try out iding as bi or a lesbian and you’re also free to not pick a label at all. it can be scary sometimes but you’re not alone and you’re not doing anything wrong and there are so, so many lbpq women out there — myself included — willing to be your mothers and big sisters and cool gay aunts. we love you and you’re perfect just as you are and as whatever you decide to be 

This week’s pride dragon is for those who are questioning their gender and/or sexuality!  This one was a little tricky, since there isn’t an official symbol or flag for it.  I hope the design I came up with is okay!

The other finished pieces of this series can be found here, and the to-do list here.

This design is also available on TeePublic and Redbubble.

When I first started to come to terms with not being straight, I remember not knowing how to tell if I was faking it.  I knew LGBTQ+ people existed, but they always seemed too distant from my own life for me to belong to the community.  I was Me Over Here, and they were Those Other People Over There.  They were different.  I wasn’t.  The community and their experiences seemed so far removed from my reality that I just couldn’t imagine I could possibly be one of them.

So here’s something I wish someone had told me when I was questioning:  You can be one of us.  We’re people just like you.  You don’t need to wait for a sign from the God Of The Others to tell you that your feelings are real.  Because the truth is that there will never be a sign.  You get to decide whether your feelings are real or not.  If you feel like you might belong here, it’s probably because you do, and we will welcome you into the community with open arms.