Pro-Network

* F I R S T  M E M B E R S *

hey there, i’ve finally choosing the first round of members for this but if you still want to enter it’s never too late, i’ll be constantly adding people. you’ll find the original entry post here.. without futher ado….

* members *

@danneelsbitch
@pretredean
@moaningmish
@asexualcas
@dirtymish
@pro-foundbond
@waywardlullabies
@whisperdestiel
@keylimedean
@vintagesam
@lovelybenny
@joelhammnd

* next steps *

submit to me an icon, your name and a short description for the network page
- if you wanted to be added to the group chat, keep an eye out for a message 
- you can now track and use the tag #brianalovenet for all edits, selfies, random posts you throw out into the world

that’s it! congrats on loving briana y’all 

To anyone who doesn’t like Spaleb

..I’m not saying that you should, after all you can’t really choose what to like. Just please, don’t consider it WRONG, because it’s not. The main reasons people hate it is because of Haleb and Spoby and the fact that they consider it to be rushed and unexpected.

Please, try to think about it. What can be wrong in two people loving each other? I get why you think Spencer betrayed Hanna, but there are no rules in love. And I’m not talking about sex or crushes. I would totally agree with you if Spencer and Caleb only slept together out of attraction, but they didn’t. Try to put yourself in her shoes.

What if you were the one who was stalked in high school? If someone made your life a living hell for two years after the death of one of your closest friends; if someone tried to frame you, kill you and your best friends, if you couldn’t remember what you did the night your friend disappeared. Add all of this to the nightmare adolescence is in itself, with all the problems it causes to the relationship with your family and try to consider what kind of family Spencer had..two demanding parents too invested in their job to see their daughter was struggling, but at the same time always ready to praise her older sister for being smart and perfect. An older sister who did not seem to care about her at all.
In the end, after high school ends, your stalker finally has a name and gets arrested. You can be free at last, follow your dreams, move away from a city that reminds you too much of the dark period you’ve been through, and you do it. You’re finally free, and as much as you love your friends you feel the need to distance yourself from them as well, because of what they make you think about. Or maybe just because you can now, just because you can leave them out of your sight without being terrified about what could happen to them.
So you move to a city far from home, where nobody knows you, and of course that’s great; but sometimes it’s hard, when you wake up in the middle of the night crying for help, or when you see someone wearing a red coat, just accross the road, and you start to panic because it doesn’t matter if A is in jail, some wounds never heal.
Above all that, you also break up with your boyfriend of two years. You move to Spain for a semester abroad and one day you’re waiting for the train like you’ve done so many times since you’ve moved there, when suddenly a well-known voice calls you. You look around but it can’t be him, right? He’s in NY, this wouldn’t make any sense, you’re probably just imagining things. But then you see him, on the opposite platform, waving at you with a big smile on his face. For a moment everything comes back to you.. fear, panic, pain, horror.
But then you spend the weekend with him and it’s all so natural. You don’t have to think about how to act, and you can just be yourself, for once. He gets you, he knows you, and it’s refreshing after years spent trying to hide a big part of who you are.
So you’re back in DC now, and he moved from NY after breaking up with his girlfriend. You’re in the same city, and that week end in Madrid was so liberating that you decide to give it another shot. You meet for dinner and everything goes well, actually more than well. You start to hang out every now and then, you talk to him about your new job, your collegues, everything you feel the need to share, and he does the same. Of course, you don’t have much free time but when you can you save part of it to catch up with him. Your nightmares are still there but now when you have a bad night and you wake up crying you know you can call him, and that makes you feel safer than ever. You don’t even realise you’re falling for him until it’s too late. One day, he shows up at your apartment with pizza and beers and his familiar lopsided smile, and suddenly it’s there, you finally understand why you feel the need to see him more and more, why you can’t wait to finish working when you know you’re gonna see him in a few hours. You understand the reason why you get that funny feeling in your stomach every time you hear him laughing.

Well, now what? Of course he’s your best friend’s ex and you didn’t mean to fall for him, but you did.

What if he was your soulmate?

What if he wasn’t, but you could be happy with him for a few years, become a better person thanks to him?

You know your friend has now moved on and she’s engaged to a man that makes her happy. For some time, you try to put some distance between you and Him, but you’re in too deep. He’s not simply someone you have a crush on; he’s your best friend, he’s been your rock for years now, you understand each other, so much that sometimes you feel like you belong with him. Would you really give something like this up?

And what if you were Hanna? Would you really feel like preventing your best friend from being happy just because of “girl code”?

How come the only thing I can think about is a pregnant Spencer looking annoyed at his boyfriend because “Seriously Caleb, again? We’ll never make it to Aria’s book signing if we keep stopping”
And Caleb smiles but keeps taking pictures because he can’t believe they finally have a normal life where they can just walk around the city without watching their backs and thinks that maybe, if he keeps taking proof he can look at before going to sleep or just when he feels like it, he will finally let himself believe they’re free. And Specer tries, she tries to look annoyed, but every time she catches him smiling at her baby bump, lost in his thoughts, she feels like her heart could explode from how much she loves him and how happy she is right now.
So yeah, she’s rolling her eyes at him ‘cause they were supposed to be at the bookstore ten minutes ago and they still have to cross the park, but Caleb knows she’s just pretending because when she thinks he’s not watching, she takes his phone and scroll through his camera roll until she finds the new pictures he took and she stares at the screen with a fond smile on her lips.
And Caleb couldn’t be more happy of how his life has turned out to be.
If they had told him ten years ago that he would have lived in DC with Spencer of all people, with a good job and amazing friends, he would have thought they were crazy; but Hanna’s in NY with Jordan and their beautiful twins, Aria has just published her third book and is happily married to Ezra, Emily has finally found a job she loves and Toby is doing great in Rosewood.
And he’s 27, expecting his first child (something else he can’t bring himself to believe), and sharing his days with the most beautiful soul he has ever known and there’s nothing, not a single thing he would change about it.

Spencer & Caleb Compatibility

Before I move on with this rant let me set something straight. There are two scenes that are my favorite ones from PLL, from the ENTIRE show, and those are spody/toby related; season 1 the one with Toby on the street being avoided by kids and then ending up crying in an alley as Spencer watches and the other in season 1 again when Spencer looks out Emily’s window and Toby looks up from the street, Spencer declaring that Toby is just simply “different”. So don’t go ahead and tell me that I’m biased and hate Toby with no reason, cause I don’t; in fact he’s the one I was rooting for from the beginning even when everyone was calling him a murderer.

Now, on to my Spaleb rant. First of all, people are not meant to be with one person for an entire life. If they find that special person with the first try good for them but we are talking about reality here and nowadays this is not the norm, you feel me? Second of all, some people want to settle in early in their lives and live an easy, happy life with no bumps and bruises. It’s perfectly acceptable and 100% ok for them to do so. However, there are other people though that want another type of life, with challenges and romantic freedom, because they feel suffocated in the ordinary, in the life that everyone leads and for some reason is the acceptable one. In that second category I believe Spencer and Caleb belong to. 

Caleb from the first time he came into the Rosewood world it was obvious that a simple, ordinary guy etiquette didn’t suit his forehead. Spencer herself had called him dark (well, he turned out to be very caring and more sensitive than we thought but you get my point) and throughout the years he had proven to be a character that breaks limits and jumps in fire, wants to change his life for the better, puts goals and tries to achieve them. He was a neglected foster kid who did stupid things to get some very needed pocket money but he grew out of his old habits, he matured and became a man that Hanna could count on, that any of the girls could count on. He fought with his demons (his dad, Ravenswood) and got out as a winner and he wanted out of that Godforshaken town and he did it, he found a job in frigging New York to build the life he wanted there.

Spencer on the other hand wasn’t really much of an independent bird from the beginning. Sure she was driven and head-strong and wanted things her way but her dreams and future life were mapped pretty much by her family and their expectations. Spencer grew up and changed. And that’s pretty damn ok. It’s natural, it’s the way it happens in life. I’m twenty two now and I sure as hell can swear that I’m a totally different person than I was in high school. We grow up, we experience new stuff, we change our mind and it’s ok. It’s ok that Spencer didn’t want to go to college like she was expected to; it’s ok that she ended up going because that’s what she truly wanted in the end; it’s ok for her to be a woman in leadership; it’s ok for her to mix it up in her bedroom with various guys if she wants; it’s ok for her to travel; it’s ok for her to want more in her life than get stuck in Rosewood; and it’s more than ok for her not to want a June wedding and a white pretty little house with a fence and three kids with Toby. 

For me Spencer and Caleb are the most compatible couple that exists now in PLL for one and only reason; they want the same things in life. And when you’re in your twenties that’s what you look in a partner. Someone that doesn’t suffocate you, someone that shares the same way of thinking with you, the same lifestyle in hopes that maybe someday it will be your joined lifestyle. Spencer and Toby had an amazing high shool relationship; they offered the love they had been denied to each other. Caleb and Hanna had too an amazing high school relationship; they made each other a better, stronger person. But in real adult world? I don’t think that they would stand a chance and, as we’ve seen already, they didn’t. Toby is a small town boy and I don’t say that in disrespect or to disqualify him as a person; as I said before Toby has a very special place in my heart. But in my opinion he wouldn’t have survived a single day in DC because that isn’t him, it’s not in his mentally to follow Spencer in such path. And Spencer can’t and won’t abandon that path cause if she does her whole character would crumble. And Hanna even though she likes the big life she has in New York and her career, she still dreams of tulle wedding dresses and perfect wedding ceremonies under the sunset. As caring and as sensitive Caleb might be, that would never be him. 

I’m not saying that because I envision Spencer and Caleb as workaholic bastards that don’t care for any type of stable relationship whatsoever. I’m just saying that they like the freedom their type of relationship brings them. I believe they have marriage and kids and family in their plans for the future but that’s in their back of their minds because now they want to live like that; build careers that they love, live life by travelling and seeing places and partying around the world (as Spencer stated in 6x11) and fall in love, easy, recklessly, without fearing what people might say behind their backs. They have a lot in common, a lot of joined interests, they are physically compatible, they have sparks and fireworks, they understand each other, they encourage each other to do what they desire and they are there for every step of the way, they challenge each other, they know everything about each other but most of all they make each other happy. So where is the mistake in wanting them to be endgame? Because in my mind and talking with real life facts they have the most chances than anyone else…

anonymous asked:

people are allowed to want her to understand better, her answer didnt make it seem like she does and that's just the truth. of course she cant bad mouth him but understanding what he did is important

i think she understands. of course, there’s always going to people who want more but the fact of the matter is, she didn’t ask for this. she’s doing a job and that’s the bottom line. she never asked or even volunteered to be the face of our queer revolution. and i get that people want her to really get it, really understand our suffering and the history behind it, but she has to remain as diplomatic as possible if she wants to keep her career. i think for her to have said any more than she said would have put in her a risky position - put her in a place that could potentially get her blacklisted from any further work. hollywood is a fickle and very petty place. say one wrong thing and word spreads. we, as a collective, have to understand that she is a professional doing a job first and foremost. i know that in my job i’ve had to stay mum on things that are important to me because if i said anything different, i could lose my job and i’m not a position where i can do that. people stay quiet to keep their jobs all the time. that’s just the reality of the world that we live in.

i think instead of looking at the parts of the interview that maybe veered too pro-network, look at the parts that weren’t.  “I think any attention we can draw to a movement like that is an amazing thing, and is a great thing to pursue and keep working towards.” and “knowing that we would make the most out of what we had, ”. it’s the little bits right now that are going to keep driving this forward. she didn’t shoot us down, invalidate us, or anything of the sort. i think it was a good answer. of course we can always strive for hollywood, and the people who represent us in it, to be more educated and to be more knowledgeable but in order for hollywood to take us, and our information, seriously, we have to accept the little victories for what they are. baby steps in the grand scheme of a revolution. war isn’t won in only the biggest of battles, right? it’s about the little fights. we have to take those too.

Every single Cracked reader is a dynamic go-getter, a titan of whatever industry we choose. And if that isn’t you, then get the fuck out of here. Because the rest of us know that “good” isn’t good enough, and whatever acclaim we’ve received from the community is but a fraction of what we truly deserve. We must grow, and our careers must advance, and we must obtain more and more power, until we are bestride the world, and laugh as it begs us to watch where we go to the bathroom.

But advancing ourselves and our careers is a tricky business, often involving distasteful activities like “competence” or “being pleasant.” A better way involves a sinister activity known as “networking,” an ancient art filled with awful conversation and fake, teeth-baring smiles. You’ll probably have heard of this, and even heard of people who are good at this. I’m here to tell you that those people are monsters. Successful ones, though. Here’s how to become one of them.

“8 Networking Tips Used By The (Insane) Pros” by Chris Bucholz

Spaleb prompt, in honor of St. Valentine’s Day: Spencer and Caleb celebrate their first Valentine’s Day as a couple and reminisce about the other Valentine’s Days they spent together (but not as a couple). Thanks in advance!

Requested by spaaaleb. (This is a day late, I’m so sorry! But I hope you like it!!!)

“It’s cheesy.”

“It’s romantic.”

“For fifteen year olds!”

“Ten bucks that you are just chicken so you won’t do it.”

“Well, go back to sleeping on the couch tonight because I will.”

“Really? Go on then.”

Fine.

Fine.

Caleb straightened up his back and the silly crooked smile that was plastered on his lips from the moment he had come up with the idea now widened, stepping closer to the metallic fence before offering her his hand as an act of fake chivalry. Spencer rolled her eyes at his five year old behavior, her designer clutch bag coming to smack lightly his puffed chest in childish annoyance, but she didn’t manage to stop herself from snorting a chuckle in disbelief at the situation he was forcing her on once again. Her boyfriend tilted his head to the side and she could swear that stupid smirk curled more upwards on his cheeks, eyes slightly narrowed and eyebrows knitted while seizing her, obviously challenging her to show him what she got. Spencer’s round eyes found his teasing ones in the darkness and their steady stare had a competitive one-on-one for a minute that had her huff in offence and drop her palm on his with sound, offering him a side glance full of confidence and badassery before swinging her long, high heels clad legs one after the other over the railing.

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anonymous asked:

YOU SHIP SPALEB WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING TO YOUR LIFE??????

Hi. I’m currently studying English and Norwegian, plus English and Scandinavian literature, thank you for asking.

Oh, I also happen to be a Spaleb shipper, which has actually nothing to do with what I do with my life.
The only thing that being a Spaleb shipper says about me is that I like mature relationships based on a deep and long-lasting friendship between two people who know, respect and count on each other.