Do you think a person could be still happy without ever coming out?
Without coming out at work/in school? Yes.
Without coming out to family/relatives? Sure.
Without coming out to their partner/s? Doubt it.
Without coming out to their friends? Maybe.
Without coming out to people on the bus? Absolutely.
Without coming out to staff at the hospital? Could risk their health.
Without coming out to ANYONE EVER? …No.
There are so many different times and ways you can “come out” when you don’t fit into the categories presented by the norm, it’s not really a one time event but a process and a way of living. There are people you feel a big need to let see you fully for who you are, and others who you couldn’t care less what they think of you. There are situations which require you to tell your history whether you want to or not and other situations in which it’s not important at all.
Some people are easy to tell and in other cases it’s straight out dangerous. Sometimes you “come out” to people without even meaning to. Sometimes people categorise you as non-normative without you even knowing. Sometimes you tell people about the way you differ from their expectations and they misunderstand completely due to their own limited knowledge about the particulr way you experience being human.
“Coming out” is a process, not a one time thing. To someone, coming out can be presenting a new relationship. Someone else ends a relationship as a way of coming out. Someone wants to study something different than thier family has expected of them. Someone might chose to dye or cut their hair a certain way. Someone dresses in a certain way to signal something about their interests and/or identity. Someone changes their name and/or pronouns.
Many of these things are ways of coming out that have very different impacts from one culture to another, and end up being interpreted differently by the person’s surroundings from one point in time to the next. But they are all equally important. And the only one who can define what “coming out” means to you is you.