Let harry grieve!! Let harry feel empty and sad and bitter and angry and frustrated and nothing and everything!! Let him cry!! Let him scream!! Let him punch a wall!! Let him acknowledge his more than likely PTSD and learn how to find his inner peace and who he truly is other than a war martyr!! Please!!
terrifying your own child into submission makes you an abuser.
watching your child cry and screaming at them to stop and invalidating their pain and reasons for crying makes you an abuser.
staring at your child in disgust and contempt after they displease you makes you an abuser.
threatening to your child to take away their basic resources if they don’t give you exactly what you want makes you an abuser.
forcing your child to feel ashamed for not living up to your ideals makes you an abuser.
using slurs, hateful names and insults on your own child without any regard to what it does to their mental health makes you an abuser.
forcing your child to chase impossible expectations and making them feel like they’re worthless for not achieving them makes you an abuser.
acting like your child is a burden and a waste of space and blaming their illness/disability/depression on it makes you an abuser.
behaving like your child will never amount to anything and isn’t worth any resources and nurturing makes you an abuser.
making your child feel like they’re never good enough makes you an abuser.
if your child’s heart is hurting because they know no matter what they do and how hard they try they will always be a failure in your eyes, you are an abuser.
if your child can’t look at themselves without self hatred because they had to look at themselves from your perspective and all they saw is disgust and hatred, you’re an abuser.
If your child is struggling to believe they have the right to live and to be cared and loved, if they can’t stop hearing your hateful voice putting them down and using their every action to prove they’re worthless, you’re an abuser.
If you watched your child in pain and assured them they deserved it, you’re an abuser.
If your child can’t love themselves from how badly you hated them, you’re an abuser.
if you have a mental illness keep this in mind: you don’t have to self harm to be valid you don’t have to display every symptom to be valid you don’t have to face discrimination to be valid you don’t have to have panic attacks to be valid you don’t have to share your trauma to be valid you don’t have to tell people that you have a mental illness to be valid you don’t have to be suicidal to be valid you have the disorder and that’s all you need to be valid.