Please don’t pass judgement on something you don’t understand.
I just read an article about a sorority recruitment video that “is worse for women than Donald Trump”–I read the entire article and watched the video, expecting some horrendous taboo recruitment video. I didn’t get what I expected. It was a complete run of the mill plain Jane recruitment video. The article states"It’s all so racially and aesthetically homogeneous and forced, so hyper-feminine, so reductive and objectifying, so Stepford Wives: College Edition. It’s all so … unempowering,”. When in reality it shows a group of girls goofing around, having fun and bonding with each other to form a sisterhood. Sisterhood is ultimately the reason a girl joins a sorority in the first place, so showcasing that is an extremely important part of the recruitment process. Speaking from experience, the making these types of videos is sometimes choreographed and sometimes someone just pulls out a camera and starts filming friends joking around, sitting and talking.
Do the girls all have on nice outfits, their hair done and makeup on? Yes! Of course! Why would somebody post a video of their sorority looking like crap? That’s not going to attract PNMs. In many sororities, including my own, sisters pride themselves on appreciating beauty, both of themselves and their surroundings. This isn’t in vain or for shallow reasons, but simply because when we look our best, we feel our best. We are confident and ready to conquer anything. When we wear our letters or represent our houses, we are encouraged to spend a little extra time grooming in the morning to look put together. Similarly when I went on field trips in high school, we were instructed to wear nicer clothes and be nicely groomed because we were representing our school. There’s nothing wrong with taking pride in yourself.
Thirdly, the author tells us that the video is lacking : any mention of core ideals or service and philanthropy efforts”. Recruitment videos are meant to be supplemental. They are shown to PNMs DURING the recruitment process. These PNMs are also talking to the sisters about their values and philanthropies. In fact, when I went through recruitment, the video was shown during our philanthropy round. We met with the girl who was recruiting us, talked about the philanthropy that house was involved in, watched the video, and did a small craft for the philanthropy (i.e. making sugar free iced tea lemonade for the JDRF walk when the philanthropy is Diabetes Research and Education). We don’t see it in the 5 minute video, but we talk about the values of the houses for 4 days, each time we visit.
The author concludes saying “It’s the kind of thing I never want my young daughters to see or emulate.” That’s very sad, I want my daughter to emulate sorority women. Women who share a bond that lasts a lifetime. Women who seek wisdom, who aspire to keep their bodies and minds healthy, speak kindly with those who they meet and cherish the friendships they make along the way. I want her to be a woman who looks for ways to contribute to her community and show respect for herself, her home, and her beliefs. I want my daughter to be honest, kind and sincere. I want her to have high ambitions and find a way to reach them. That is the kind of woman I want to be, I want to raise and that is the kind of woman that is in a sorority.
RANT OVER. Please, just do research and find the appropriate information on a subject before you pass judgment. Not everything about a system can be shown in a 5 minute video that’s meant to be an advertisement.
🎨 get the look: how to paint sorority canvas shoes! 🎨
Painted sorority Keds and Toms are super fun for bid day, big/little reveal and any day! Get the look with these step-by-step instructions for creating your footwear works of art. They are totally wearable and a FAB way to show your greek pride all around campus.
❉ THINGS YOU WILL NEED:
Pair of white canvas sneakers (Keds), or white/ivory slip-ons (Toms), or similar brands.
1-2" blue painter’s tape
Paint pens and/or Sharpies
Firm small brushes
Pencil for tracing or penciling freehand
Tracing paper for preferred technique
Nail polish remover & Q-tips
Clear matte sealing spray such as Krylon
❉ STEP 1 Prep the Shoes:
Remove the laces if you are painting Keds.
Tape all around the sole with the blue painter’s tape, protecting the edges from stray paint.
Stuff tissue paper in the toes of the shoes to keep your painting surface firm.
❉ STEP 2 Lightly Trace Your Design:
With a pencil, lightly freehand your design. Or trace one using your favorite tracing technique. Please refer to the sorority sugarLetter Tracing Guide for different ways to trace.
Another option is to print a design from the computer, cut it out and use it as a “stencil.” Secure your stencil with pins and lightly trace around it.
❉ STEP 3 Paint the Design:
Using firm, small brushes paint your design on the canvas surface.
A light touch works better than a heavy application.
Accent and outline with paint pens and/or colored Sharpies.
If there are multiple layers to your design, allow for drying time.
❉ STEP 4 Finishing Touches:
After shoes are completely dry, spray clear sealant over the painted surface.
Remove the blue painter’s tape.
Touch up any stray paint spots with a Q-tip and nail polish remover.
I thought I knew exactly what Greek life was about. I was certain it entailed paying huge sums of money in exchange for fake friends with rich legacies who drink their brains out weekly for “philanthropy.” I expected ridiculous and humiliating hazing activities all conducted under the reasoning of earning acceptance or proving one’s loyalty to a snobby elitist club. I mean, I had to be right; I finished all four seasons of ABC Family’s Greek…
So I dutifully attended all orientation activities ready to make real friends, not “sisters.” As the week progressed I became quite close with one girl in my group. When she expressed interest in Greek life, my orientation leader revealed that she was involved in a sorority on campus and loved every second of it. If people such as these two women in my orientation group were interested, shouldn’t I give it a chance?
So I did, and an inspiring group of women graciously accepted me as their sister with open arms. They are smart, funny, talented, and incredibly warm. Never have I felt more of a community than I have in my sisterhood. My perception of the world changed dramatically in those first four months. My new sisters possessed a tangible excitement and drive that inspired me to rediscover my community at school.
The chapter gives women accessible role models who are constantly available (and more than willing) to go out of their way for their sisters, whether it be supplying Mac chargers at 3AM in Library, passing along fantastic internships, or even lending dresses for Spring Formal. For me, Greek life has facilitated my involvement with a variety of philanthropic organizations. It consistently challenges me to maintain high grades.
However, what gets to me is the negative side of this commitment: the stereotypes. I hear people who know me very well accusing me of becoming a “sorority bitch.” I constantly try to tell people that my experience has been nothing but positive, but somehow I find myself exhausted from constantly speaking against the stereotype. I can’t pretend this doesn’t bother me.
I fail to understand why people see Greek life as something to be frowned upon and ridiculed. Just as participating in theater, club volleyball, or a political organization on campus, joining Greek life is a personal decision, one well worth respecting. At a university that pledges to stand for diversity and tolerance, aiming to create “citizens of the world,” shouldn’t tolerance and acceptance be valued above all else? We should learn to respect everyone for their unique way of feeling like they belong and not incessantly judge each other.
One of the most important things we can do is accept people and their life decisions. We need to constantly realize that even though we may not make the same decisions as our peers, as long as they’re not hurting anyone there is no need for disdain. We should hope that one day students will realize everyone has their special way of finding happiness and friendship. Whether they find it through a team, club, relationship, or special community, we need to accept each other and move forward. College only lasts four years, and at the end of your time you want to be proud of the person you’ve become, not the judgment you’ve dished out to others.
Not every women knew she wanted to be in a sorority, not every one of us thought we belonged in this life, or that we were the ‘sorority type’, and indeed, many of us once ridiculed or scoffed at the very idea.
I’ll just leave this here for anyone considering recruitment come fall…