Since becoming aware of O Magazine’s comments on flat bellies and crop tops I’ve been thinking a lot about how women’s clothing is policed and how much turmoil that causes within the many different subgroups of the feminine identity experience. I’m going to talk about that more in the future, but piggybacking on that, I want to say this:
That statement ripped open an old wound for me as I’m sure it did for many others. I don’t have a flat stomach. In fact, this is the smallest my stomach has ever been. I remember being young and feeling like I didn’t deserve to explore the physical aspects of my womanhood because it was co-occuring with morbid obesity. It’s statements like these, published for all eyes, that make girls and women succumb to the allure of unworthiness. It’s statements like these that make wet pillows at night and starving stomachs during the day. It was statements like these that made me stop believing in myself time and time again.
Body equality is important to me and I don’t ever want to stop challenging those old and harmful ways of thinking. I want to help shape a world where a woman doesn’t have to defend her right to be in a crop top or in her underwear if she so chooses. I’m sending good vibes to everyone who has been negatively impacted by the media’s harsh regulations on your freedom of style and I hope you never stop wearing whatever the f*ck you want.
Sorry for any typos. Typing this on the fly.
As we talked about strong female role models, Oprah offered the perhaps surprising verdict that in her view the strongest female role model in the world today is the singer Taylor Swift.
“She makes my eyes water, the way she handles herself, I’ve never seen any woman handle herself the way she does. She manages the whole fame trip, what it means to be in the spotlight, so when you think about all the things going wrong in the world she is the true great role model.”
Oprah Winfrey thinks the strongest female role model in the world today is Taylor Swift (x)