TT I need advice I told my datepartner it's okay that they're poly and that I just dont want to know about their other relationships but I'm not I'm really not okay with it and I don't know what to do and I'm just really hurt and upset and I know this probably isn't the kind of thing to ask a hp rper but i dont know who else to ask because as dumb as it is cause you dont and will not ever know me you're my best friend I dont know who else I can turn to please help me
(( OOC: I have a very strong opinion on this, so forgive my bluntness.
Be. Honest. With. People.
This goes for any type of relationship. If you are not alright with something, if you have concerns, or if someone you love does things that make you upset or uncomfortable… talk to them about it. Be open with them… discuss it (Do it in a kind, loving, open-minded way, but talk to them).
If you are in a romantic relationship with someone, and you are not comfortable with their preferences or how they view relationships… then there must either be compromise/change… or the romantic relationship should end, because you cannot provide each other with the things that you value most.
Relationships are built on trust… if you don’t have trust, you don’t have a relationship. If you aren’t honest with others, or if they are not honest with you, then you will be building a relationship with a stranger.
If you are not truthful about who you are, and what you want out of life… then the person you are with will be falling in love with someone that isn’t real.
They will love the image you put forward and not the real you, because you’re not allowing them to know the real you. You’re catering to what you think they want, and sacrificing yourself in the process.
If you feel like you can’t be honest with someone, for fear of them leaving you…
That is not a real relationship. That’s pretending. That’s playing. That’s nothing.
(( OOC: Not really involved in other fandoms. My old art blog was all Disney, and at one point I had a bunch of Supernatural blogs (I was Winchester trash), but I don’t really get super involved in a lot of fandoms.
If I were to get into another fandom it would probably be LOTR… because fucking LOTR is life. ))
S: “Well look at that! Guess my rusty talking sword just beat King Arthur! Heheh!”
SH: “… Hold on…”
K: “ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?”
Thanks to @neonnautilus for drawing that hilarious idea from me, them, @verdoiier and @bitter-fell-child !!!!! Where Sonic and the Black Knight is actually an elaborate game of DND and Sonic just keeps rolling perfect d20s despite not even making a proper character!