I don't want to have children

“You say that now but wait till you have some!”

“You say that but watch you’ll end up with four!”

“What so you don’t like children?”

“Why do you hate children?”

“So you aren’t giving your parents any grandchildren?”

“Why are you so selfish?”

“Children are a blessing, how can you not see that?”

“Who will take care of you when you’re old?

"Haha, wait you aren’t kidding?”

“But you’d make such a good parent!”

No Children
The Mountain Goats
No Children

the Mountain Goats - “No Children”
Live at City Winery 12/04/2015

And I hope when you think of me years down the line
You can’t find one good thing to say
And I’d hope that if I found the strength to walk out
You’d stay the hell out of my way

I am drowning
There is no sign of land
You are coming down with me
Hand in unlovable hand

List of decisions I’m deemed responsible enough by society to make by the time I’m 21: 

Joining any military branch

Owning a house/property/car/etc

Going into debt (house/car/credit/medical/college/etc)

Choosing a lifelong career in highschool or at the beginning of college. 

Getting engaged/married

Becoming pregnant and having/raising a child/children

Adopting a child/children

Choosing contraceptives (in some societies)

Having an abortion (in some societies) 

Choosing to refuse medical treatments like chemotherapy/radiation/etc. 

Choosing to have an organ(s) taken from my body and placed in the body of another human being. 


And yet? I’m not deemed old enough, responsible enough, experienced enough, to know that I never want children and to choose the option of permanent sterilization. Everywhere I go, I’m told I don’t really know what I want, that I’ll regret it, that it’s too drastic for someone so young, that I should have a kid or two and then come back… It’s funny what kinds of things society and doctors - and even your own family - will tell you what you’re ready for or what you’re allowed to do with yourself. What a twisted thing the society I live in is…