• Showering when my husband is home: A stroll through the deepest existential corners of the mind. Who am I? What is the meaning of life? Time is an illusion.
  • Showering when I'm the only parent home: An Olympic event I have never trained for and can't possibly be fast enough at, where, at any point, someone may sound an air horn signaling that I've been disqualified and need to exit the field immediately.
Taking care of yourself after birth

It’s called the fourth trimester for a reason.
Taking care of your new love is a 24/7 job. Even though they are a sleepy newborn, the stress you’ll feel can be overwhelming. The first week Maya and I were home, I could probably have gone days without eating, drinking, changing my clothes, or showering.
It can be tempting to let all your self care go down the drain because your little one needs you so much. But please try and avoid that. Buy tons of filling granola bars and keep bottles of water by your bed. Take your medicine. Make sure your keeping up with your care for any tears and stitches. Ask someone to watch the babe so you can shower, do some laundry, and relax for a few minutes. Your baby needs you to take care of yourself so you can take care of them the best you can.

4

Realized I haven’t posted a picture of my babe in far too long, he’s just as cute as ever ❤ Little turtle was sanitized prior to touching the babe, he was a gift from Rocky’s niece since he got the new car. It’s sooo nice, haven’t bought the travel system but he said tomorrow morning we can go get it.

He’s 36+3 today, still on 4 liters which sucks but hopefully they can do a trial this weekend or next week to see if he can come down. I actually woke up to a crying baby too! Which irritated me later on because he shouldn’t have been crying for so long. I was dog tired from working all day and I heard his alarm go off, the lesser warning kind, and him making whiny noises. I woke up but was so tired I fell right back asleep thinking the nurse would tend to him.

30 minutes later alarm is still going off, he’s in full screaming crying mode and I jump out of bed as I hear the real alarm go off as he starts breathing 15. Go to his crib and he’s totally unswaddled with his arms and legs flailing around and his face is beet red. The nurse hasn’t come in the whole time so I try to calm him down and get him reswaddled with his pacifier and 30 minutes later he’s finally calmed down enough to fall asleep. I get back onto the couch with Rocky and just as I’m about to fall asleep his nurse walks in asking what he was crying about and starts unswaddling him and wakes him back up. I wanted to tear my hair out 😭 Then I was watching her do his cares from the bed and she didn’t do his exercises which pissed me off since they help with mineralization of the bones which he needs. I missed her name but next time we go I’ll ask the charge nurse about removing her. The first nurse I’ll have to kick but if she can’t do her job then she can’t take care of my son.

2

I was tagged by @canarydown to post my first and last bump photos from my pregnancy.

It honestly looks like I just gained a couple kilos and shoved a ball up my top 😂

First photo was taken on the Gold Coast at 12 weeks pregnant, when I first noticed my “bump”. The second is taken the day before I was induced.

I don’t know who to tag because I feel like everyone has done this already! Maybe @babybell2016 @babylump @raisingbrielle haven’t done it yet? (I haven’t been on Tumblr much so sorry if you have guys!)

I have been a childcare professional for almost six years and been a parent for ten.

Whenever someone says that children are too young to learn about ‘gay’ stuff, I practically die laughing because, ladies and gents:

I have seen small children do WAY more stereotypically ‘gay’ stuff than straight without a care in the bloody world.

I have seen little boys happily put on dresses, kiss each other, hug, take care of babies, expertly put a nappy on a doll and be completely unafraid to cry when they’re hurt.

I saw two little boys being Dads and when one of them asked me ‘Can you ask one of the girls to be the Mummy?’ I replied ‘Well, some houses have two Dads, why don’t you guys have two Dads?’ and THEY SHRUGGED, NODDED AND WENT OFF TO PLAY TWO DADS.

I have seen little girls declare loudly they will marry their best friend, marry two dollies together, play house with two mums, build aeroplanes out of lego, get angry and love dinosaurs.

Why? Because they don’t give a shit what you think and they haven’t been told any of this is ‘wrong’. Maybe none of these children are gay, but the fact that they think- KNOW- that this stuff is just stuff and any basis in gender or sexual preference is completely arbitrary, is so important and it gives me so much hope.

Also, I asked my daughter if she wanted to marry a boy or a girl, she said girl.

Because it’s an option. So there.

I want to share this badass new app with you guys. It’s called Mush and it’s totally free for Android and iPhone. So, it’s basically like Tinder for moms who want to find other mom friends to hang out with. It’s got some really cool features and your information like your name, email address, and location are totally customizable if you want more privacy. You create your profile that tells people what kind of activities you and your kids like to do, a little about yourself, how old and how many kids you have, and your city and it lets you search for matches based on any of those criteria. My tags are lgbt mom, outdoors, gardening, arts and crafts, animal lover, yoga machine, blogger, and bookworm. They have tags for adoptive parents, special needs children, preemie parents, single parents, step parents, and multiples. It also has a setting that tells others whether you’re available to hang out or not. I think it’s a really neat app since I’m a young mom and most of my friends don’t have kids and I have no idea how else to meet new people. You can arrange meet ups or play dates for your kids based on your area and what kind for activity you want to do. The Mush “Hub” is like a giant message board where people make posts about basically anything and anyone on the app can read it and respond. There are three parts of it, All (includes updates from the app and posts from all over), Local Chat (which are local posts), and My Activity (which keeps track of all your posts and responses). It’s a pretty new app and from their app description it seems like it’s only gotten traffic in the UK so I, for example, am out here in Idaho and don’t have anyone near me for 200+ miles, but I figured with how many followers that I can share this with and how active the mumblr community is we could populate this app with a ton of awesome people from Tumblr. @momcode want to spread this to your followers and other mumblr blogs? Everyone please reblog and help me spread this!!

Personal tip: Do not talk to me about a ‘cure’ for Autism. We need cures for Cancer, AIDs, and so many other diseases good people are stricken with. My baby is just fine. He feels more (& more beautifully, poetically-), he thinks (so intensely) & tries (so very much) harder, and he is likely not the 'same’ as you (it’d be so droll of he was)- but that’s why he’s beautiful… Not sick. My baby doesn’t need a cure. He needs love & understanding; which are both things he hands out ten fold. Love my baby; because he loves you… It’s up to you to be able to see it. I can…

Hey y'all please storm heaven for my friend Erin and her unborn child. She has an appointment tomorrow (her second) and they called this afternoon asking her to call asap for results from blood work that can’t wait for the appointment late tomorrow morning. Pray that she and her husband are at peace and that mom and baby are ok!