Okay so, I have a kind of odd question that you might not be able to answer. So, I'm trying to write a heart to heart thing. Like, the comfort part of HURT comfort, but I just don't really know how to go about it since I usually just write the HURT part. How would you usually go about it, generally?
My friend, I am not sure what to say. When I write the comfort part of hurt/comfort, it’s generally the stuff I want, the things I wished had happened to me. The things I wish people had said to me when I was depressed and suicidal and having flashbacks and didn’t know how to deal with my past. The things I learned, from my friends and my family and my counselor and my role models, the things I now repeat to myself when I have down moments or hours or days. It took me more than a decade to confront the bad things that happened to me, but it was so freeing, so amazing, that I just wish it had happened sooner. So that’s what I do with the characters in my stories. I give it to them sooner.
This is not to say that you have to go through something awful and heal from it in order to write good hurt/comfort. Far from it. I just don’t know what kind of advice to give, because it always comes from such a deep, deep place for me. I guess maybe…imagine that you’re in the character’s shoes, and think about what would be the best thing for you to hear? The most important? The most comforting? It doesn’t have to be perfect. No one is perfect, and offering imperfect comfort in bad situations is still amazing and wonderful and beautiful. Just love your characters and let that show. Let yourself show how much you care and how much you want them to heal. Do your best and let them do their best, too.