I was really struggling this week. Working way too hard, skipping breaks and meals, not staying hydrated, not showering, not taking my meds. it was bad. even at the busiest times, self-care is so so important. if I needed help, then I’m probably not the only one. all of these lil ideas are small and relatively easy and I highly doing something nice for yourself, even if it’s not on the list. hope you all have a wonderful day/week/year.
(my personal favourites in bold)
drink some cold water
wash your hands and face with cool water
make some tea
get a blanket and snuggle it around you
snuggle an animal/stuffed animal
buy your favorite candy from the gas station
close your eyes and listen to your fav song on repeat for 10 mins
put on some throwback jams (high school musical, mamma mia, 90s, u do u) and dance around ur room in ur undies
make a calming playlist
call a friend/relative just to say hi and hear someone else’s voice
rewatch cute/funny/happy clips from ur fav tv show/band/movie on youtube
put on a skirt and twirl (yes boys/agenders/trans u can do this too)
scribble really hard with black pen on a blank page and scream
look at the sky/moon/sunset/sunrise/stars
watch kitten/puppy/small animal live streams on youtube
go outside, even if its just by ur front door, and take some deep breaths
eat something - fruit, veggies are best
change ur contacts/clean ur glasses if you wear those
change your underwear
if u can’t get urself to shower, wash off w a damp washcloth/baby wipe
put on a cute/comfy outfit that makes you feel good about urself
dont put eye makeup on so you can rub your eyes & they wont feel heavy
stretch, do some yoga or meditate
get a breathing/meditation app and use it (headspace is gr8)
take a nap
go to bed before 11 pm
brush your teeth
turn off bright harsh lights and use smaller, warmer lamps
unplug. give your eyes/brain a break from screens for a half hour
get one of those pet/family apps/games and care for someone else for a change
find cool people on tumblr and send them anonymous compliments (that you actually think are true - spread love)
find a quote, write it/print it nicely and stick it on ur wall
watch a new movie
boil some cinnamon sticks/vanilla bean for 5 mins so ur house smells pretty. if in ur room, use essential oil drops or candles
make your bed
wipe down ur desk w some disinfectant
clean something - a backpack, small area, fluff ur pillow, put away one shirt
do your makeup all pretty and nice just because/dress up just because
research into your dream job/vacation/city/whatever
open up pages/canva/photshop/etc and make something just for fun
build a fort and crawl under it
find an easy diy and do it/ be proud of ur creative genius
make a list of things that make you happy. stick it somewhere you’ll see it all the time
print a picture of someone/thing that’s pissing u off and throw things at it (tape it to a dart board if u have one)
reread a book that makes you happy
clip your nails, clean the dirt from under them
send some good old fashioned snail mail to someone u like just for fun
take some selfies if you’re feelin it (see #40)
fuzzy socks. enough said.
make yourself a fancy meal/cocktail/coffee/tea latte/drink/whatevs
open ur window or put on a fan/air purifier. get some air circulating
draw, even if u think u suck.
reach out to kids help phone (canada) or a suicide hotline if you need to talk to someone about more serious matters. you deserve help and care and support. (message me if you need resources)
donate to a local animal shelter (if u have the means obviously)
go for a walk/run/bike ride
put on a face mask
take a bubble path
shave ur legs and moisturize
bake some cookies
go on spotify/youtube and find some new music you love
make a really fun upbeat playlist for next time u get the aux cord
scroll through some wholesome or funny meme accounts. whatever you’re in the mood for.
take some cool pictures of whatever you want
change up your room in any small ( or big) way that you can
teach urself a new skill on youtube (simple like a hair style, or complicated like an instrument, whatever u want)
sign up to volunteer at a library/homeless shelter/soup kitchen/retirement home/daycare center/etc. help those who need it. be giving.
put on sad music and cry. let ur mascara run. be dramatic. let it out.
put rock music on and stomp and scream throw (soft) things. let it out.
teach urself the words to a fast rap song thats cool right now so you can impress ur friends/classmates/family
print off some kid colouring pages and dont stay inside the lines
brush your hair, take it out of a ponytail if its been like that for a while, or put it up if its down and in ur way
diy a hair mask (coconut oil) and do that
exfoliate ur whole body and feel like a whole new person
clear out ur phone/laptop. delete old messages, numbers of people u dont like/hang out with, get rid of photos of shitty friends, apps u dont use, etc
find cards against humanity online (or if u have it use the cards) and play with urself - make funny matches just because
empty a drawer (or multiple) and fold ur stuff neatly
do something that will make u sweat (gym, dance, clean) then take a nice shower
take a second to listen to ur body. unclench muscles that are clenched, fix ur poster, massage/stretch tight areas
move to a different area of the house for a little while. clear ur head.
go out, anywhere. window shop, go to a coffee shop/library and work. people watch if ur broke.
update your planner
make Pinterest board/real life vision of things that make you happy for when in this situation again
find a youtuber you like and watch their videos
lie on the floor, listen to music and do nothing for a while
give yourself a pep talk in the mirror and then stand like superman for a few mins. sounds silly but it works. its called powerposing. look it up.
repeating this bc important: hydrate!!!
start a new tv show
order something online so u have something to look forward to
go sit with a family member and keep them company. u dont have to talk to them.
the app ‘trump dump’ will make u feel better about the current us political situation
read happy news: find stories of students doing something cool, women kicking ass, men being amazing, whatever. bonus points if this inspires u
sort your garbage from recycling and help the environment
smile at people you see just because. smiling is good and nice.
look at old pictures of u and ur fav people
go through old yearbooks and take a second to appreciate how far you’ve come
go to a park and watch kids play. remember what it’s like to be young. realize you are still young. go on the swings and go as high as u can
HAPPINESS in my bowl💛✨ sometimes, I have days were I feel empty, alone and really down. I don’t know why, but I do know that I am in full on control of how I choose to deal with those negative thoughts that try to creep into my mind and consume me. I can let them…or I can FIGHT BACK🌟
And by fight back I mean show myself some extra love, do the things that make my soul shine and surround myself with positivity.
For me, this means doing some yoga and stretching it going for a walk, spilling my thoughts onto paper and nourishing my body, mind + soul with some juicy, sweet fruit that never fails to brighten my spirits in some way🌻🌞🍉🍌 I’d love to hear what you do when you’re feeling down?
Sending love to each and every one of you❤️
hey friends!! this is an extension of my last post, which you can find here, where I talked about navigating high school when you have a chronic illness. Since then, I’ve gotten a lot of asks wondering if their health concerns counted as a chronic illness and what accommodations they were entitled to. Instead of answering everyone individually, I made this post so I could hopefully reach more people who need answers.
Disclaimer: I am not a medical doctor and am not aware of every possible limitation + accommodation. These are just the ones I’m aware of, and are a good place to start.
you will most likely need medical documentation to support your request for any of the following!! especially at public schools!!
in the classroom:
an individual learning plan - sometimes called an IEP or ILP
a classroom aide
the ability to record classes/lectures, either audio only or audio/visual
the ability to dictate class work
a notetaker, or access to teacher notes
double of every textbook - one to leave at school and one to leave at home
ability to eat and/or drink in class
ability to leave class without permission, or without fear of being forbidden
priority access to a seat at the front/back of the class for vision/sensory/hearing/etc issues
not having to take gym, or only being required to complete the health component and still be eligible to graduate
being excused from art or drama classes that are too physically demanding - these are grad reqs at some schools
being excused from classes that may be triggering - eg. a sexual assault unit or domestic violence lesson
being excused from hands-on science lab work - due smells, allergies, sensitivity, etc.
extra time on tests - 25%, 50%, 100%, or something custom to your needs
a separate test taking space - quieter or smaller space, a more casual space, a different chair/desk,
a test taking aide
the ability to dictate certain test components
a computer for essay or writing-based tests
ability to complete any work on a computer where possible, eg. essays on tests, homework, lecture notes
use of a calculator when otherwise prohibited
use of spell check when otherwise prohibited
an online/digital/pdf version of the textbook
permission to use audiobooks instead of physical copies
permission to use a digital ebook instead of a physical copy - zoom feature, inverse colours, weight in bag
in the halls/around the campus:
ability to use the elevator (many schools limit elevator access + elevators are only accessible with a key)
ability to carry medications on your person (this is often not allowed, even for over the counter meds like advil)
ability to take longer to travel from class to class
priority given for an accessible locker (eg. one that doesn’t require you to bend down)
a priority parking space close to the school
an extra number of allowed absences - ie. not failing out because you miss too much school
permission to take breaks in the nurse’s office when necessary - ie. naps, time to lie down, some silence
a different in dress code - ie. more comfortable shoes, leggings to accommodate stomas or sensory issues
ability to bring your own lunch - some schools (mostly private schools from my experience) forbid this
getting a chair during assemblies, pep rallies, or any school event that requires standing
outside of school (homework):
extra time to complete homework, or extra time only for big, culminating assignments (like major essays, projects)
reduced work load (every other question, only needing to complete enough for a sample)
the ability to dictate homework
ability to complete homework assignments on a computer
double of every textbook - one to leave at school and one to leave at home
examples (!!!!! as in not inclusive of everything) of conditions that could warrant accommodation
a mental illness that has been professionally diagnosed
a learning disability that has been professionally diagnosed
a sensory processing issue/disorder
a history of trauma (eg. sexual assault) that has been professionally evaluated
a broken bone - accommodations would definitely be temporary in this case
a handicap, eg. being in a wheelchair, having a feeding tube, an amputation
having a chronic illness, incl. chronic fatigue, chronic pain, diabetes,
having an acute but serious illness/disease, eg. cancer
an extenuating family circumstance, eg. a seriously ill family member who needs your assistance frequently
reminder: asking for accommodation, or having one of the above mentioned health conditions does not make you weak. it does not make you lesser. you are strong and brave and capable and deserving of success. you deserve an education. believe in yourself, ask for help when you need it. i’m always here to talk.
This time of year, (Elul, Rosh Hashanah, and Yom Kippur), Jewish communities stress the importance of teshuva, which is translated as repentance or return and generally understood as apologizing to Hashem and to other people for any mistakes made over the past year.
If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when? - Hillel, Pirkei Avot
But for anyone struggling with safety, mental health, abuse, trauma, or a variety of other things, the task of apologizing to Hashem and other people for your mistakes over the year is just not possible. You are important. Your struggles are valid and an important part of teshuva. You might not be doing the same teshuva as a lot of your community, but you are doing teshuva. You are working hard on yourself, work that is difficult and not to be underestimated. And it is work that must be done before you can approach the rest of the pyramid. Maybe in a few years you’ll be able to approach the high holiday season the same way as what can look like most other people are.
Thank you to those who I talked this idea through with.
🌊✨ Some weekend magic and some weekend lessons I learned ~ 5 things to quit doing right now:
1. Trying to please everyone
2. Fearing change
3. Living in the past
4. Putting yourself down
I stumbled across this message and it really resonated with me as something I struggle with a lot, and I thought I’d share it with you💛
No matter what we do, how generous and loving we are, what we look like, what we achieve, we will never be able to please everyone. But what others think says nothing about us.
This week I’m focusing on being unapologetically ME, practicing self love by taking better care of myself and letting go of some of my fears. Embracing every moment and embracing change. Change is scary, but from change grow an infinite number of new opportunities and possibilities🌻
Do you have any intentions for this week?💫
LOVE YOURSELF enough to do right by YOU🌻💛✨ I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently because of a lot of messages I’ve been getting and because I spent so many years of my life not doing this.
Not loving myself. Hating myself. Comparing myself to everyone else and picking at my flaws. Neglecting myself because I felt it didn’t matter and I didn’t need or deserve the food, rest, help from others, compliments…
IT IS NOT SELFISH to love yourself and put your own needs first sometimes. Because only when you are your happiest, healthiest + most vibrant self can you truly give the most to others🙏🏼
Looking after your body, mind and soul with enough wholesome foods, enough water, enough sleep + doing the things that bring YOU joy are the most important things. No excuses.
If other people tell you different, stand up tall and keep on going. Being unapologetically YOU🌟✌🏼️🐝❤️
🌞🌿 I just got home after another very long drive, my second last exam for this semester and a very stressful and all round not-so-great day. I’m exhausted and have probably cried my body weight in tears. This is a reminder that’s it’s OKAY not to be okay sometimes. Life can throw unexpected things at you. Life can be hard and uncomfortable. But without these negatives we might not appreciate and be able to recognise all the POSITIVES. All the wonderful moments that make life so special and amazing💫
Sending all my love to anyone else who’s going through a tough time or who’s just had a bad day. Go make yourself a delicious nourishing meal and curl up with your favourite book or movie like I’m doing now❤️
You got this.
We got this.
I see a lot of people complain that OCD is over-represented as a “quirky” illness focused on neatness and etc. While I definitely agree with that, it’s important also to recognize that many people with OCD do in fact desire straight lines, clean edges, specific numbers, and other more or less “stereotypical” manifestations. So yes! It’s very important to make people aware of the other forms of OCD that exist (like scrupulosity), but the more commonly-portrayed obsessions are 100% valid as well. They’re stereotypes for a reason.