Guys!!! Trini may be an A+ student but I can also see her having OCD or dyslexia. She’s constantly double checking to see if she has all of her notes and they have to be in the right order. At first the rest of them don’t think anything of it, until one day Kimberly is hanging out at Trini’s house and Trini repeatedly checks to make sure that all the windows and door are locked properly and that Trini checks twice to make sure her homework is done correctly and in the right folder for her classes.
Trini notices that Kim has picked up on it, and Trini’s embarrassed and just mumbles, “It’s a habit, sorry.” And Kim is so quick to tell her she doesn’t need to apologize for it, and Trini just shrugs and says, “My parents are just glad I don’t do it at school. I guess I forgot to take my pills today.”
Or if Trini has dyslexia, Kim picks up on it almost immediately because Trini struggles with learning and memorizing the vocabulary words in Biology (their entire class does, but Trini spends hours trying to remember how to pronounce them)
Trini also struggles with reading out loud so whenever they’re in class together, Kim always reads out loud if the teacher calls on Trini because she knows that Trini hates the attention, not because she thinks she can’t do it.
When they do homework together, Trini gets frustrated easily, especially if there’s a lot of reading to when she has math homework, even with how much Trini enjoys that class, it’s hard for her to get it down and memorize things, so Kimberly tries to find ways to help her.
There’s a lot of stuff on the whole “the idea of an FP is abusive” lately and I just wanted to give my way of thinking about it.
I think of an FP like a crush, in a way.
You can’t help if you have a crush. It’s not bad to have a crush, it’s not inherently creepy. If your crush likes you back, perfect! That’s awesome.
However, if your crush doesn’t like you back, that sucks, but you aren’t entitled to their affection, they don’t owe you anything just because you have a crush on them. Sure, seeing them date someone else hurts, and it’s okay to vent about that to others! But making them feel shitty about that isn’t okay; they don’t owe you anything.
You also shouldn’t use the fact you have a crush on them to take hold power over them. Things like “but you’re my crush, you have to reply immediately to me” for example aren’t okay. They didn’t ask to be your crush. You shouldn’t use them being your crush to control others either, you shouldn’t say things like “stop texting them, they’re my crush”; you don’t own them. And also, if they don’t consent to you referring to them as your crush- don’t do it.
But also, as you have a crush on them, they hold power over you. They could more easily get you to do things for them because of your feelings- and that’s not okay either.
If your crush likes you back, or just wants to be close friends, that’s awesome! If you communicate well and recognise each person as their own individual, awesome! Crushes can be nice, when they text you it feels amazing if they like you back, even better! As long as you know that they’re their own person- and they know not to use your feelings to their advantage, there is nothing wrong with having a crush, just like there’s nothing wrong with having an FP.