Love-to-Hate

Mind your words (Please stop the hate)

There are days where it feels like I’m standing in the middle of a busy street, screaming my lungs out and only a handful of people hear what I have to say.

But a handful of people hearing me is better than no one hearing me. So I will continue to speak out against the anon hate, begging for it to stop.

 And it needs to stop. 

I’ve made previous posts here and here about all the hate going on, only to see it seem to be getting worse.

The varying levels of hate that I have seen in the last few days is just heartbreaking. From being mad that one-shots are being posted and not a series. To sending messages scolding writers about their fics (which they chose to read, no one forces anyone to read fics). To sending rules to a writer/blogger about what she is and is not allowed to write about and post about on their own blog!!!! And lastly, to hating a writer so much that a blogger made a blog with the name I-hate-______ (I am not going to name the blog, out of respect for her victim, who has been humiliated enough. The hate blog has been reported by me and several others), who then sent messages to everyone that their victim is following, telling them to boycott that blog. It’s just heinous.  

My point is that when there is so much hate out there that blogs are being made just to target and very publicly announce how much they hate certain blogs or people…. then it’s gotten out of hand. 

What if you told someone to kill themselves becuase you hated them so much over some little slight that you think they did to you? How the hell would you feel if someone killed themselves over words that you said? How would you live with yourself???? 

The words that you say can have a lasting effect on a person. A good or bad effect? That rests solely on you and the words that you chose to say. 

So please make the right choice. Because something has to give. This hate needs to stop. It takes so much more time and energy to spread hate!!! Spreading love takes so much less time to do and the benefits are so much, much better. You feel better about yourself. Other people feel better about themselves. Tumblr is a safer place to escape too, and it makes the real world easier to deal with. So why spread the hate?????? Spread love, say nice things, be a good person and you will be so much happier!!!!

Before you make the choice to send hate mail, or bully a person, think of this:

And would you want it said to you? 

Chances are that you wouldn’t, so why say it to someone else? Why treat someone else like that? Treat others the way you want to be treated. Kindness, love and respect go a long way in this world. More so than hate, lies and bullying. 

And at the end of the day, at the end of your life. You can look back over it and say to yourself…. I made a difference. I had the opportunity to spread hate and negativity throughout the world, but instead I chose to spread love and kindness. If you do that one tiny change, you will change the world. All it takes is one act of kindness to start a change, even if you don’t see it, it’s there. The kind words you said to someone encouraged them to keep writing, keep going and they go and write a best seller that helps change the way people view themselves. Or your kind words could stop someone from killing themselves, someone who could make a groundbreaking discovery. Or be the parent to a child who makes the discovery. You never know if it will happen or not, but do you want to take that chance that your hateful words and actions deprived the world of someone they needed?

I don’t want to take that chance. 

And you shouldn’t either. So stop with the hate. Instead focus on yourself and why have so much hurt and anger that you feel the need to send hate mail and bully people who have never hurt you before. And work on getting past it. Reach out to someone for help. Because there is always someone willing to help.

And if someone did hurt you, they did not mean it. It was not intentional. And maybe talk to them and let them know what happened and how you feel. But do it without sending hate.

There is only one world, this one. So lets make it a better place.

Stop the hate. Spread the love.

Tagging some blogs once again, so we can help spread the word. The hate needs to stop @everyjourneylove @theimaginesyouneveraskedfor @chaos-and-the-calm67 @marvelfanuniverse @averil-of-fairlea @thing-you-do-with-that-thing @girl-next-door-writes @leatherwhiskeycoffeeplaid @ilostmyshoe-79 @manawhaat @mamapeterson @fromthedeskoftheraven @ozhawkauthor @lark-cale @meganlpie @lucifer-in-leather @wayward-mirage @winchester-writes @iwantthedean @atc74 @faith-in-dean @letsgetoutalive @dragonkitty @writerlivinginadarkworld @babypieandwhiskey @fizzy-custard @lady-kaaesien @writingsofa-hobbit @drabbletastic @growningupgeek @hobbithorse19 @motleymoose @luckynumber1213 @heilith @thetalesofmooseandsquirrel @goldenangelbloodcastiel @aerisawriting @beaflower77 @kaykayvoltage53 @guhnerketeer @torn-and-frayed @a-daughter-of-durin @sdavid09 @paigeinastory @crushing83 @buckysmetallicstump @nichelle-my-belle @howdidthisevenhappenanyway 

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Tumblr Kindness Challenge

Ok, so my son is in a Great Kindness Challenge at his school, which is a challenge to do 12 acts of kindness towards friends and strangers. So after seeing all the appalling hate and making some posts here and here about the hate…. I got inspired to try a new approach. I know that there is only so much that we can do on here, but as I said before: Words are powerful and can build a person up on tear them down. A kind act goes a long way, even if it’s a small message saying how loved the person is. We can all make a difference, if we try. 

Reach out to someone when they seem down

Send love (on or off anon) to several blogs

Send compliments to a writer or artist that you admire

If someone has a Buy Me A Coffee button, then buy them a coffee

Write a post saying kind things about a blogger

Write a fic or draw a picture for someone if they need cheering up 

Make new friends 

Help promote new blogs 

Offer to beta for someone

Thank someone who has helped you

If someone wrote a fic for you, show your thanks. 

If someone is feeling discouraged, help encourage them 

I challenge all of us to be kind. To make a difference. 

I love me because… I was tagged by @bulletscrossbowpie. Thanks sweets! I had a lot of selfies from our trip to San Antonio last week, but Hubs is in all of them!  :)

Rules: Post a selfie and list five to ten things that make you love you, be sure to say I love me because before the reason. Then tag ten followers you want to know why they love themselves, cause honestly sometimes we all need a little reminder.

I love me because I am creative.
I love me because I am the best wife I can be.
I love me because I have made some amazing, life long friends.
I love me because I know the importance of education.
I love me because I can sew.
I love me because I am brave.
I love me because I am a good listener.
I love me because I was a good mom to my foster kids.
I love me because I can now accept my flaws.
I love me because I always keep fighting, because I know what it’s like to be one of the people left behind.

I’m tagging anyone who wants to play, as well as a few friends and a few folks who’ve been dealing with a lot of anon hate lately and may need a reminder that they are loved and they are good, amazing people: @kittenofdoomage @thing-you-do-with-that-thing @bringmesomepie56 @lipstickandwhiskey @ilostmyshoe-79 @littlegreenplasticsoldier @mamapeterson @babypieandwhiskey @winchesterprincessbride @percywinchester27 @nothin-after-79….love you, ladies!

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Make me choose: Jemma Simmons or Leo fitz: 

“Hi, I’m Jemma Simmons. I’m from S.H.I.E.L.D. and I am here to help you.”

  ↳ Asked by @crystabelshalott

those of y'all saying you won’t listen to harry’s music bc you don’t like the way it’s promoted or bc you think harry is being bad to his fans need to seriously take a breather and quit running your life on hate… just saying. like it may be shady but really?? that’s just unnecessarily bitter