If I have to think at just one word to describe those two scenes, this is betrayal. Yes, because, this is just what Jane and Lisbon must have felt in those moments. First when you see the woman you trust with your life, revealing your most important secret, exposing herself to a deathly danger. Then, thinking that you’re just a mark for the man you care about more than anything, who treats you just like others, making you fear for him with all your heart.
This is the reason why I find those scenes among the most meaningful to me: their feels are so exposed, so true; but most of all because through their rage, their resentment you can clearly see their love for eachother.