Live-In-The-Present

Everything that will ever happen in our lives will happen in the present moment, this thing we’re in right now. It’s important that we to learn how to be present, how to be mindful, how to be where we are without wanting to be somewhere else. If we refuse to pay attention to the moment, if we’re perpetually looking for ways to escape it, we end up missing the whole show. If we don’t live the lives we have, we end up not living at all.

cobwebbing  asked:

tfw u remember kylo ren is probably highkey obsessed w/ rey bc their connection in the force is the first bit of connection he's felt with ANYONE in a long time after separating himself from his family. mAKE ME SUFFER WITH YOUR FICCAGE, O GRANDMA OF FEELS

He never understood why his Force sensitivity was supposed to be a good thing. Both his uncle and his mother tried to explain it to him, the feeling of being harmonious and resonant with all living creatures in the universe, both past and present. What an honor it was supposed to be.

But it never felt like that to him. If it was supposed to feel like a light, it was only a mistaken glimpse seen from behind the shadow of clouds.

The Force had always felt murky. Dark and menacing and overwhelming. He got claustrophobic thinking about it, of the feeling of it reaching deep within him searching for a home.

After years of fighting it–perhaps out of curiosity or exhaustion or some mix of the two–he gave in, and it didn’t feel like choking anymore. It’s hard to feel like you’re suffocating if you don’t remember what it’s like to breathe.

So how curious it was when he met the girl and melted into her mind and the Force sang–it actually sang–between them. She was a desert rat, but her aura smelled like spring meadows and flowers and–had there always been this much green in the universe?

He felt himself breathe deep into his lungs, felt the full shape of them in his chest and was stunned to feel how the oxygen vibrated in his cells and how that vibrated with the rest of the world.

For the first time, he heard the choir of the Force.

For the first time, he was no longer afraid.  

The fact that I have had ZERO suicidal thoughts after starting risperidone last week is truly remarkable. No crying fits, meltdowns, or abysmal pitfalls of hope and reality. I am living totally present and super chill. I hope I can take this medication for the rest of my life.

I’m so ready for stories about childhood friend groups and school friend groups that aren’t all one gender. Not a group of only boys or only girls who see the others as a completely different species. No more stories with young boys who always say to each other, ‘don’t be a wimp’, who are so concerned about their masculinity from a young age, who see girls as distant things to maybe be acquired but also to be avoided. No more stories with young girls whose lives either revolve around boys, without boys actually being present, but existing as the girls’ life purposes anyway, OR stories where girls have to reject interaction with boys altogether to keep their independence, as though any interaction with boys would automatically make them less independent, as though they don’t have the right and reason to expect to be able to have a conversation with a boy in which both of them are still real people. I’m ready for groups of girls and boys who are all close with one another, who feel safe around each other and who have fun together without worrying about any of this. I’m ready for stories about childhood friendships where neither gender nor interactions with the opposite gender are the main concern. There can be stories about friendship, childhood, growing up, and even relationships that don’t have to focus on this idea of a gender duality. I just want some stories with childhood friend groups with more than one gender.

silver-stargazing  asked:

Wendy for the ask?

Oooh, someone I haven’t really considered song choices for yet! Hmm… 

Well, I took a gander through my music library and I think the song Silver Lining, by First Aid Kit would fit her pretty well.

Some lyrics of choice: (Man, I should have done this for the other asks! Oh well.. too late now ahah)

“Gotta keep on going, looking straight out on the road
Can’t worry ‘bout what’s behind you or what’s coming for you further up the road
I try not to hold on to what is gone, I try to do right what is wrong
I try to keep on keeping on”

I saw these lyrics and especially began to think about how Wendy said she felt stressed, 24/7. But yet she hides that really well, and… we never really hear much about her mother’s absence either. I feel like she tries really hard to live in the present, by not overly dwelling on those she misses or stressing, but it’s a hard wrought battle for her most of the time.

(Ask meme)

The sun
  • Chris: you know my dick has a lot in common with the sun
  • Victor: why? Because nobody likes to look directly at it?
  • Yuuri: because it gives people cancer?
  • Phichit: it rises at the crack of dawn?
  • Michele: it disappears at night?
  • Seung: direct exposure to it often leads to nasty sunburns?
  • Yurio: it needs to stay approximately 92,960,000 miles away from me?
  • Otabek: nobody will ever touch it?
  • Chris: gee thanks you guys! You're all such supportive friends!
  • Victor: we try
  • Everyone: *grunting in agreement*
Do not pursue the past.
Do not lose yourself in the future.
The past no longer is.
The future has not yet come.
Looking deeply at life as it is
in the very here and now,
the practitioner dwells
in stability and freedom
We must be diligent today.
To wait until tomorrow is too late.
Death comes unexpectedly.
How can we bargain with it?
The sage calls a person who knows
how to dwell in mindfulness
night and day
“one who knows the
better way to live alone.”
—  Bhaddekaratta Sutra                      
He said, ‘There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other is called tomorrow. So today is the right day to love, believe, do and mostly love.
—  Dalai Lama (via OptimisticallyAstray)
How do you go beyond a dysfunctional relationship with the present moment? The most important thing is to see it in yourself, in your thoughts and actions. In the moment of seeing, of noticing that your relationship with the Now is dysfunctional, you are present. The seeing is the arising Presence. The moment you see the dysfunction, it begins to dissolve. Some people laugh out loud when they see this. With the seeing comes the power of choice - the choice of saying yes to the Now, of making it into your friend.
—  Eckhart Tolle, ‘A New Earth’
Let’s face it: I’m scared, scared and frozen. First, I guess I’m afraid for myself… the old primitive urge for survival. It’s getting so I live every moment with terrible intensity. It all flowed over me with a screaming ache of pain… remember, remember, this is now, and now, and now. Live it, feel it, cling to it. I want to become acutely aware of all I’ve taken for granted. When you feel that this may be good-bye, the last time, it hits you harder.
—  Sylvia Plath