I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?
I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:
Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:
Reasons to move out of home
You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:
wishing to live independently
location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university
conflict with your parents
being asked to leave by your parents.
Issues to consider when moving out of home
It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving
home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t
anticipate, such as:
Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.
Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas
and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise,
especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything.
Debt may become an issue.
Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time,
sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay
anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user
flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.
Your parents may be worried
Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they
are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and
independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different
things. For example:
They may worry that you are not ready.
They may be sad because they will miss you.
They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.
They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.
Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly.
Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your
plans and support your decision.
Tips for a successful move
Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation
carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money
to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?
Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include
‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond
(usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and
Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and
arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with
flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too –
getting along is a two-way street.
Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.
Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t
like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather
than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking).
Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their
best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.
Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.
If your family home does not provide support
Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for
help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left
home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to
If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care
system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden
transition to independence.
If you need support, help is available from a range of community and
government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation
and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents,
call one of the associations below for information, advice and
Where to get help
Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800
Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44
Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325
Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277
Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50
Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577
Things to remember
Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because
of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.
Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses,
such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents
Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations.
(Btw I am using the Batman v Superman Bruce Wayne, y’all)
Not being entirely sure as to how it all even happened
On the off-chance that you’re one of Gotham’s minimal elite, you probably met Bruce at a charity gala and, for some reason beyond your comprehension, he picked you out of the other well-dressed women
In the higher likelihood that you don’t come from an affluent family, there’s a multitude of possibilities as to where you met: Maybe you were at a gala working as part of the catering company and he accidentally spilled red wine on you. Maybe you worked as an intern or temp or had a desk job somewhere in the Wayne Enterprise building in Gotham. Or maybe he just saw some assholes giving you a rough time and he stepped in and then offered to walk you home.
the only incompatibility i see is astrology and capitalism. the true purpose of the natal chart is so one can discover his talents, develop his passion, resonate strongly with his sense of self, and release his best qualities into the world. the idea is following your bliss so you are happy and make a living while exercising your joy. this is what you are HERE to do. astrology is the inner language that maps out a life direction that will celebrate your talents and teach you important lessons. a person with a tonne of virgo, pisces, and sixth house influence is probably here to work in health care. it FEELS good when they are in this industry because it vibrates with the same music as their soul. but maybe someone with a chart full of taurus and venus and neptune could be here to play music. but will he SURVIVE in this day and age if he plays music all day and does not participate in the working labor that brings in the money? can he really pour his talents into the guitar or the song book if he is forced to work 12 hour days just to get by? all his musical talent and passion is suppressed by the formula of modern day capitalism. or maybe he is profoundly intelligent, full of Sagittarius and ninth house planets and wants to be an academic. but he cannot afford higher education. he feels disconnected from his true self. he is working day and night and breathing but he is not truly living. it’s sad that chances are he can probably not change it right now. we are craving to exercise our joy in a world that is bound by materialism and the need to contribute economically to exist. his needs are neglected. i’m not turning this into an argument over whether or whether not capitalism is right or good. it’s the way its right now. astrologically, it makes it harder to follow the whims of our chart. this probably relates more to those who are here to practice in art, like writing, or painting, or even just those who want to work from home. there’s not many people in the world who can make a decent living doing an art, or being self ruling. this makes it hard. i’ve found people who are reflecting the direction of their chart in everyday life, prompted by astrology or not, tend to be more satisfied. it is a soul agreement after all. - cherry
Hey guys, now that it’s February Valentine’s Day is
slowly approaching so I thought I would make a post about this holiday and the
kinds of vocab and expressions you might use around this time. Do you guys have
any plans? I’m trying to plan a surprise event for my boyfriend!
On Valentine’s Day in Japan, girls give 義理チョコ [giri choco] to boys they often associate with, such as club members, co-workers, or friends. In Japanese “義理”means duty or obligation. However, they give 本命チョコ[honmei choco] to boys who they have serious feelings for and are confessing to! It’s important to know the difference between the two if you plan on handing out chocolate in Japan.
Expressions: 大好きです。 / あなたが大好き！ I love you.
好きです。/ あなたが好き！ I like you.
私と付き合って下さい。 Please go out with
彼に告白した。 I confessed to him.
イチャイチャしないでよ。 Stop flirting with
好きじゃない！ I don’t like you!
*Side note: 愛「愛してる」is commonly seen online and means “love” in
Japanese, but actually Japanese couples don’t use this word to express their
love for each other because it’s too formal, even between couples it feels
weird to say. 大好き is the most commonly used expression of
love in Japan.
Laurent made a point to sit up straight on the low bench he and Damen had been seated on and to keep his gaze politely on the singer.
No one would have blinked if he hadn’t. If Laurent had leaned into Damen’s side or rested slightly against his leg, none of the Patrans would have objected or been offended, and Damen himself would likely only have rested a warm hand on Laurent’s side in response. Torgeir’s wife was curled against his side on a separate low bench. Torgeir’s daughter Lisabeta was similarly leaning into her lover.
It was only Laurent’s own pride keeping him sitting carefully separate and upright; his ongoing battle (fought primarily in his own head) to refuse to be seen as Damen’s paramour and to insist on being seen as the King of Vere in his own right. He had probably half lost the battle already when he’d agreed to be seated on the same bench as Damen like all of the other couples, and he’d definitely lost a second half of the battle when he had let one of the servants pour him a second cup of the fortified Patran wine.
Torveld had told Laurent something of how they made it, when he’d showed Laurent one of the caves with the casks earlier in their visit, but the key was that it was much stronger than the wine traditionally served in Vere or in Akielos. Laurent could feel it going to his head. Infuriatingly, Damen had drank twice as much and showed no effects whatsoever.
The singer was a Patran woman. Laurent did not know if she was a slave and he hadn’t asked. She had dark hair and eyes and a beautiful clear voice. Laurent’s Patran was serviceable enough if his purpose was to flirt with Torveld at a dinner party, but the woman’s song was sung in an old style and Laurent could only understand one word in ten. It was not enough to be able to follow the narrative. He thought perhaps it was a love ballad from the occasional word he could understand – passion, lovers, remembrance – but it was hard to say. Also infuriatingly, Damen’s Patran was much better than Laurent’s and he probably knew exactly what the singer was performing. Damen had the gall to be seemingly effortlessly much better at languages than Laurent was, and even when Damen didn’t know how to say something he seemed to find effortless elegant ways to explain what he meant with other words, while Laurent had to go to elaborate lengths in his head to steer conversations only in directions where his vocabulary felt sufficient. Damen didn’t know any of the Patran words for the production of fortified wine when they started their tour of the caves, but by the end of the tour he was speaking easily with Torveld about the characteristics of the color as though he had known that language his whole life.
There were a lot of infuriating things about Damen. In addition to his alcohol tolerance and his linguistic ability, Damen was growing a beard. It was hideous; Laurent hated it. Damen insisted it was traditional for Akielon royalty to wear a beard, and that in fact Torgeir would expect it for their visit, and Damen had had the gall to be right about that also. Torgeir had remarked on Damen’s beard particularly when they met, saying it made Damen look like his father.
Laurent’s irritation had made him a bit petulant, so he was not kind when Damen and Torveld were reintroducing themselves after their last meeting.
“I am sorry I could not tell you who I was,” said Damen.
Torveld opened his mouth, probably to assure Damen that this was fine.
“He knew anyway,” said Laurent.
“What?” said Damen, as though his ability to disguise himself were actually convincing.
“I only suspected,” said Torveld politically.
Laurent still felt petulant. “You commented to me on the resemblance of my slave to the Akielon royal house.”
Damen was already smiling. “It is good to see you again nonetheless,” he told Torveld, and they were soon laughing together.
The woman’s song ended, and she curtseyed gracefully to a smattering of applause from the assembled nobility. Torgeir asked her for another song, and she agreed, swaying slightly as the musicians began the next introduction.
“Are you tired,” said Damen, under his breath.
“I am only sick of love songs,” said Laurent.
Damen smiled at him. “You can’t understand old Patran?”
It was apparently not a love song. Laurent decided to bluff. “I can.”
“The song was about wine,” said Damen. “And how it turns all men’s hearts to be fickle.”
“I love wine,” said Laurent.
“If you have more you will need help standing up later,” said Damen.
“I’m sure you will help me,” said Laurent feeling petulant and annoyed again for no good reason.
“Of course,” said Damen, infuriatingly kind even in the face of Laurent’s bad mood. Laurent sighed, and leaned slightly to rest against Damen’s shoulder. Damen wrapped an arm around him and settled him in comfortably. Damen was humming a little bit along with the new song the singer had started. Infuriatingly, Damen was probably also a good singer.
What does a word mean? And a life? In the end, it seems to me, the same thing. Just as a word can have many dimensions, many nuances, great complexity, so, too, can a person, a life. Language is the mirror, the principal metaphor. Because ultimately the meaning of a word, like that of a person, is boundless, ineffable.
Jhumpa Lahiri, “The Fragile Shelter,” In Other Words.
I do love you. I still love you.
I will never tell you that, though. There’s no use. Our time is over. Telling myself this is most difficult when I see you. When you speak to me. When I see you at that bar neither of us
gave up since our break up or the corner gas station. I hate how small this town is. I love you though.
You’re still so sweet to me. You say hello, with that smile that could melt thin air. Your eyes still look at me the same. Or is it that I only still choose to look at them the same? My heart beats out of my chest, if you looked hard enough you’d see it. You say hello, then we have a short conversation. But my heart knows no boundaries. My words are homesick and miss you being their home. I love you and my heart can’t keep secrets. So when we say goodbye, there’s nothing more my heart wants than to grab your hand and tell you I love you. I miss my lips on your forehead before you’d leave. Remember that?
I can’t say I love you. But I can’t say goodbye.
So instead I cope with this by using any other three word phrase. See you later, take care now, until next time. It’s saying it, without saying it. Those three words, each word replacing the ones I wish I could still use. I’m getting better at it. I’m getting better at loving you from afar.
You looked beautiful tonight,
You were never one to wear white. You’d always wear black. At least with me. You’ve curled your hair in a way I’ve never seen before. A bit more messy, good messy. You looked so alive. I’m glad we’re both still in this small town I hate, running into each other every now and then. Because you make me feel alive too.
Let’s talk for a second about how impressive Astro is, okay?
This isn’t about their widespread international popularity, their already dedicated fanbase despite being barely a year old, or even the fact that all of the visuals members have amazing vocal and dance skills.
No, this is about languages. As somebody who is very fascinated with language and language learning, I am both impressed and incredibly happy that Astro has covered 5 songs in foreign languages, including Japanese, Mandarin, Indonesian, Thai, and Spanish.
For any of you who have never tried to seriously learn a foreign language, let me tell you a little something to put this in perspective:
Pronunciation is very hard to nail down, especially for a language far from yours. When babies are born, they already have an understanding of language (including being able to recognize their mother tongue in the womb through its rhythm), and after birth they can even distinguish different sounds in other languages, for example the r and l sounds. As the child grows, they lose this ability, and when they are introduced to foreign language later in life, they no longer have the ability to distinguish the sounds, making it much harder to imitate the correct sound. All this, along with the fact that Korea is a very homogeneous country, and while they have their own beautiful and unique culture, it is not as if they hear languages like Spanish or Indonesian regularly. We (especially Americans) forget that its not a normal occurrence in some countries to go to the market and hear 3 or 4 people speaking something other than English into the phone. For Astro to be able to cover these songs, it undoubtedly took tireless practice in pronunciation and memorizing words in languages they don’t know, and for them to be able to do this and dance a routine (in the case of La Bamba), it is even more impressive. This is the highest level of effort I’ve seen from a kpop group thus far.
That’s not to say that other groups aren’t talented (or that other groups haven’t covered songs in another language), and I may or may not be a bit biased considering my love of foreign languages, but I am genuinely amazed at the amount of effort Astro puts into everything they do. They cover a song in the native language in every country they go to. They pay attention to the difference and they care.
They put in an incredible amount of effort to be able to communicate to Aroha in their native language through music, which is beautiful. They could sing just in Korean, because they’re from Korea and wouldn’t have to justify the use of their native language, but they don’t. They want to connect with Aroha on a larger scale. Could they do just English covers, considering many non-English speaking countries teach English as a second language? Most definitely, but they don’t, because it’s not nearly as personal, and they want to connect with Aroha on a deeper level. They (and Fantagio) understand that language is as much art as it is communication, and spoken language is a beautiful part of each culture and Astro is using that to be able to show Aroha how much they love us.
Long story short, don’t let Astro’s effort and talent be ignored because of the ‘cute concept’, and don’t think for a second that covering a song in another language doesn’t take dedication and incredible talent. Astro did that™, and they are continuing to do that™.
Not my gif. Gif credit goes to the amazing creators!
Anonymous said:Headcanons for being Darry, Soda and Pony’s sister would include please?
A/N: Heya lovely! I’m so happy to have been able to do this one! I love this fandom so much and I love the Curtis boys sooo much! Thank you for blessing our ask box with your request, it means so much! Hope you enjoy this! - Admin Kat 💟
Being the Curtis’s Sister Would Include:
- Do comprehend how protective your brothers are going to be of you? They don’t care if you’re older or younger, you’re the baby of the family (even to Ponyboy).
- You’ll never walk anywhere on your own, okay? Either themselves or one of themselves will accompany you you.
- NO BOYFRIENDS! They know what guys can be like and not even the gang will allow you, either.
- If you’ve got shorts on, you’re gonna be heckled to put some pants on and cover up like a nun.
- You’d be spoiled. They’ll find a way to do it, believe me. (Note: Being spoiled doesn’t always mean material wise.)
- They WON’T tolerate the boys (or any other boys, for that matter) whistling at you or anything of that sort.
- The boys would flirt with you just to joke around.
- Pony would always bring you to movies with him.
- “I swear, it’s a two minute walk to the drug store, Pony.” you’d insist persistently.
- “Yeah well, there’s another movie comin’ up that I’ve been meanin’ to watch…” Ponyboy would grumble out vigilantly and with red ears.
- “Wow! Get you, kid!” You’d grin incredulously, messing up his tuff hair. “When did you get so into girls? Or are you just listenin’ to Dar?” You’d taunt him.
- “Shut up…” he’d gripe.
- Sodapop would be the shoulder that you cry on, the brother who understands nearly everything that you’re going through.
- “S-Soda?” you called, half of your body stuck in the bathroom. “Can you come here for a minute?” your voice is quiet, but Soda senses it, shooting looks at Two-bit who makes comments.
- “What’s up?” he hums, brushing past you and into the bathroom. There’s kindness swelling in his eyes.
- “Can you get some lemon juice from the store and some uh… lady stuff?” you stare at your jeans, stained red on the floor and the feeling of being abashed swarms you. It’s almost suffocating.
- It doesn’t take Soda long to catch on, but when he does he has a kind smile. “Sure thing kid, I’ll get Darry to guard the door for ya from the knuckleheads in there.” he states like any big brother would. “I get this all the time with Sandy, so I ain’t embarrassed.” he says, getting ready to leave the bathroom. “And neither should you.”
- Darry being your protector.
- “You don’t understand!” you barked after him, heading to your room, slamming doors and such as you tirade through your house.
- “To hell I do!” Darry shouts back, stilling the boys in the house. “I don’t give a hang if Tim Shepard claimed to be the Pope, he ain’t goin’ out with you and that’s that! You can be friends with him, but he’s keeping his hands off of you! I swear to God, if I hear even a damn rumor that you two hook up, kiss in a parking lot in the North Pole or hold hands in an old folks home, I’ll belt him so hard he’ll be left half dead. You hear me?!” Darry’s word was the law, ain’t nobody go against.
- “He’s not like tha-” you whirl around to challenge him but Darry wouldn’t here it.
- “You can bet my boots and even Dallas’s boots that he’s exactly like that. There’s one thing that guys want nowadays! I know Tim’s good to us with a rumble, a good buddy of Dal’s, but if I can prevent my sister from hooking up with someone that’ll get her into trouble, you can bet your boots I will!”
- The gang all being brother’s to you.
- Like forreal, even Johnny would get tense if a guy comes near you.
- “Well buddy, I’d like to think you’re admiring that sign over there, because this chick is off limits, you hear?” Two-bit would drawl on, surprisingly serious.
- You’d totally know how to fight and would play fight with the guys, but they’d let you win, - even Dallas! -.
- Sometimes wishing that you had a sister, but loving your brothers regardless.
- The boys watching their language around you.
- You use any bad language and you’re grounded for life!
- When and if you ever get jumped, you’ll have most of the neighborhood hacking through the city to find whoever the hell hurt you.
- The gang and your brothers crashing all of your dates.
- “I hope you’re not thinking of hooking up with her, buddy. Her brother’s the size of Superman and will wring your neck out like a towel.” Two-bit would grin into your dates ear.
- “And why the hell should I ca-”
- “Because, if you don’t,” Dallas drops into the seat beside your date, the gang scattered around, looking all tough, “I’ll be the one digging your grave. You want it six feet deep or a little deeper? Because I sure as hell don’t want you crawling out.” he’d spit menacingly.
- Bringing Darry lunch on the weekends and any guy who looks at you is a goner! Darry will flex his muscles and have them running!
- Hanging out with Steve and Soda at the DX, getting free Cokes.
- The battle of Coke and Pepsi with Ponyboy.
- “I swear, Coke is sooo much better!”
- “That’s not true and you know it!”
- Strict rules not to go to Buck’s and if you’re found there by Dal, you’re in for some talking to…
- Two-bit and Dallas always pretending to be your boyfriend when people hit on you.
- Being the only girl that Johnny isn’t scared of.
- “Who knew you had a way with the quiet one’s, (Y/N).” Two-bit would tease.
- You’re going to get relentlessly teased all the time but it’ll be made up in other ways.
- Steve giving you free rides all the time.
- “At least you’re not a drag like Pony.” Steve would compliment you.
- “Oooh get you, threatened by a fourteen year old!” you’d grin.
- Anyone who breaks your heart is freaking dead!
- Being close to Evie.
- Dallas telling you stories about New York and keeping you away from idiots like Curly Shepard.
- Infinite piggy back rides.
- You getting a job so Darry has some help with the bills.
- Arguing with Darry a lot but he cares about you and you know it.
- Watching sunsets with Ponyboy and doing other things he likes.
- Sodapop going with you everywhere and always understanding you.
- Wrestling matches with Two-bit, to which you cheat all the time.
- Being tickled all the time and chased.
- Knowing how to do back flips and if it’s something you wanna do, going onto the cheer leading squad.
- Always getting to be on Darry’s team for football.
- “You’re such a girl, (Y/N)!” Steve or Dallas would tease.
- “I’ll make you a girl!” you’d throw your fist in the air and make them laugh.
- Getting off with quite a lot, but always taking up the blame for Pony because you think Darry is too tough on him.
- Saving up secretly to help Darry go to college.
- Pranking everyone all the time and being yelled at for it but they get over it. But it does start a pranking war!
- “Alright, who the hell put my socks in the ice box? They’re soggy now!” Sodapop would snap, only for you and Two-bit to giggle like school girls.
- “You guys are nuts!” Pony would grin.
- Borrowing your brothers shirts (part from Darry’s, unless you’re in desperation bc he’s huge!).
- “Okay, who took my sweatshirt with the sleeves cut off?” Ponyboy would call, as it was the last clean shirt he had.
- “It ain’t much of a sweatshirt now, is it?” you’d say, parading in with the sleeveless sweatershirt in name on.
- “I swear to God!” Pony would yell. “You’ve gotta stop doin’ this! I’m gonna end up goin’ to school stark naked!”
- “Well, I have a shirt with daisy’s on if you’d like?” you’d offer jokingly.
- If you ever forget a jacket, you’ll be bundled up with the gang’s.