LOTS AND LOTS OF THERAPY

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      I face death in the hope that when you meet your match, you will be mortal once more.

Today marks 9 months since I was admitted into Havenwyck Psychiatric Hospital. I was cutting every night, thinking about suicide every single day, drinking myself to death, smoking so much weed I was almost never sober, and popping so many pills I didn’t even know what I was taking half the time and I didn’t care. That’s the thing. I didn’t care. I didn’t care about myself. Not one bit. But, after 9 months of a lot of therapy, many different medications, and a lot of cognitive changes, I’m a lot better. I mean I obviously have my bad days, but who doesn’t? I realized that it was just a really fucking shitty patch in my life, and that it wasn’t a bad life all together. It gets better. It takes hard work, but it really does. Hang on and I promise you, it will get better. Just stay strong

Useful Tips for People with Borderline Personality Disorder: People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) usually exhibit behaviors, feelings and thoughts in drastic forms. Try these things to help you manage impulsive behavior and extreme thinking when dealing with BPD. Slowing down impulsiveness & Cooling down extreme thoughts:

  • When a question or comment upsets you, wait at least five seconds before responding and repeat “calm down” in your mind several times first.

  • When you feel a strong impulse, remind yourself that taking action at those times usually results in bad outcomes.

  • Discuss with your therapist any new, big plans you might have for your life before taking action.

  • Practice breathing exercises often.

  • When you have a hot thought, ask yourself how a friend or family member may look at the same issue differently.

  • When your thoughts are strong and extreme, ask yourself how you may view the triggering event six months down the road and notice the difference.

  • Remember that extreme words and phrases such as always, never, can’t stand it, awful, and horrible are almost always inaccurate. Try to find the shades of gray.

iamonlyatiger  asked:

I honestly think that Jack did care for Kent a lot, just as a friend, not romantically, and now he's had the time and space and the healing to realize they weren't always healthy so he can sound really detached. And he kind of assumed they were on the same page, and Kent assumed they were on the same page, and they /weren't/ but they never talked about it properly.

YEAH BASICALLY.

Like Jack was into Kent as a friend and sexually, but not romantically, and they’re not super compatible

and meanwhile my son Kent is Borderline so he’s in continual low-grade psychological pain (flaring up intermittently into The Fucking Worst), and when he was with Jack it felt so good and swamped his brain with so many chemicals that for a few weeks or months that all went away

and now he thinks that if he and Jack can get back together then everything will stop hurting so much, he thinks life hurts and he’s lonely because he doesn’t have Jack, he thinks Jack can fix him.

Oh god it’s all so unhappy.

Except for Zimbits.  And because Zimbits is so pure, and because Kent is wrong about what will fix him, none of us really want Kent to get the thing he thinks he wants.