LGBTQIQ

No matter how many Affinity or Ascend meetings I go to, I still view myself as an outsider surrounded in bias

even within the LGBTQIQ ‘alphabet soup’ community… But I still go anyways. I guess to better understand the community as a whole. I don’t know.

I’m an outsider everywhere and that’s nothing new. And I guess that’s ok with me.

Observation

One small, nagging, part of being gay is everyone’s assumption that you are straight and intend to live life as they did or wish they had. I am sure you have all had those encounters where the person, a teacher, a relative, a stranger on the subway, starts talking to you about life, and their wisdom can be very powerful and moving, but then you get hung up on that annoying little miscalculation.

I was just speaking to an elderly man who served in the US Marine Corps, he talked about how I seem to have a good head on my shoulders and will be successful if I spend my time and money right, I was really into his advice, but then he starts talking about settling down with a nice woman and having children, and it completely throws me off. Being gay doesn’t change the partnership goals in my life, many gay men fully intend to settle down and have children, but not with a wife, they’ll have a husband.

It is just one of those common things that happen every now and then that kind of slaps it back in your face that our ‘lifestyle’ is considered different. This isn’t a complaint, because this little factor is the least of our worries as a community, but it is there, and it never fails to stop me in my tracks. This is why representation is so important. Young LGBT people have to be reminded that our lives, whether it be settling down and having children, or traveling the world with loose direction for the brief moment we have here, are normal.

Just a thought…

Help Two Queer WOC move to the DMV!

So I’m moving out of the south, yaaay! 

so here’s how it happened:

My best friend got this awesome job opportunity, probably a once in a lifetime thing and she was about to move all by herself to a new city. Me being me I volunteered to tag along because I didn’t want her to be alone and well I felt it would cause her great anxiety and shit.

I don’t have a job secured in the DMV yet I’m optomistic about finding one soon ( if ya’ll anyone hiring help me out with that too lol) and moving cross state is super expensive.

So,I created a GoFundMe page to help with moving expenses because, well that shit can get pricey and all help is greatly obliged!

Here’s the link gofundme.com/k5eb64

I’d love, love, love you forever if you’d help us out. Thanks in advance! :)