It’s gonna be one post a day for the next few days because I’m going away to the land of no wifi :( And that’s all I had time to queue up for you guys! But I’ll be back Wednesday evening and then I should be able to get in game! <3
theres this really cute moment in one of the always sunny commentaries where kaitlin says that the reason mac will sometimes say a big word that he really shouldnt know is because “rob is so smart in real life and it just bleeds through” and danny devito just goes “AH JEEZ youre so in love” and then eats a handful of chips
Friendly reminder: Not all Nonbinary people want to look androgynous. Nonbinary doesn’t mean you can’t have boobs. Nonbinary doesn’t mean you don’t want genitals. For some it does. For some it doesn’t. Nonbinary can look feminine. Nonbinary can look masculine. Nonbinary can look like both. Nonbinary can look androgynous. But Nonbinary doesn’t have to look like anything. Nonbinary looks nonbinary. If you are nonbinary then you look nonbinary. There is no specific look you have to have.
Just because we complain about the difficulties that come with being autistic doesn’t mean we want a “cure”.
Do you complain about how light skin burns so easily because you want a cure for being white? Do you complain about police brutality against people of colour because you want a cure for being darker-skinned?
So why would you assume we complain about autism because we want to “cure” a part of who we are?
Being autistic is just a much a part of who someone is as their skin colour.
Of course we bitch about it. We’re human.
Whining is humanity’s unofficial universal pastime. If it’s summer, we whine about the heat. As soon as it gets cold we whine about that too.
It’s like when you wish your skin was lighter so you were less discriminated against or wish your skin was darker so you didn’t burn as much; you might say that it’s what you want, but if you were to actually wake up tomorrow with a different skin shade I’ll bet you’d feel like part of your identity was taken from you.
Then there’s the reason why we complain.
We don’t bemoan the trials of being autistic because autism makes our life hard.
We complain about the trials of being autistic because non-autistic society makes our life hard.
We live in a world designed solely for non-autistics and which is unwilling to make even minor adjustments to accommodate us.
There’s tons of tiny little things that can be done that has little to no effect on you but to us makes a world of difference, but society just can’t be bothered.
Y’all have nearly unanimously decided that we’re not worth caring about. And that’s what we’re complaining about.
When we complain about autism the problem we’re complaining about isn’t us.
* Some examples of simple things you could do:
- Not telling an autistic person that they’re using their autism “as an excuse” for not being able to do somethingor for doing something you don’t like (e.g. being overly clumsy, fidgeting, stimming, not making eye contact, etc)
- Not judging us for quietly stimming when we need to (playing with fidget/stress toys, biting our chewy jewelry, playing with our fingers, etc)
- Not calling us “broken” because we’re different than you and we don’t meet your expectations.
- Not calling people who murder their autistic kids a “guardian angel” and “good parent”
- Not giving a parent who has murdered their kid a platform on tv to argue about how killing their perfectly healthy kid was “euthanasia”.
- Not treating non-verbal autistics like they’re dumb and incapable of functioning.
- Not saying “I sometimes think about killing my child” near your child. We all can hear and understand everything you’re saying, regardless of whether we can vocalize a response. When you say “sometimes I think about killing my child” near your kid you just told your kid that you fantasize about killing them.
- Not treating autism like a disease. It’s a harmless genetic variation. We don’t “suffer” from autism and we’re don’t “have” autism. We ARE autistic. That’s like saying we “have whiteness”.
- Listening to autistics when they say that groups like Autism Speaks are hate groups and that they don’t speak for us.
- Supporting autism societies run by autistics.
- Not firing us for being autistic.
- Not placing fully capable 30 year old adults in a home for seniors with dementia just because they have autism.
- Not calling autism an “epidemic”. It’s not a disease. It’s been around for millennia, the rise in diagnoses is because we’re starting to understand more about it.