Fish and chips! Er... I mean: Humans, Gems, and their roles.
By now it’s been shown several times that Homeworld Gems are trapped within their own caste system; they are expected to fulfil a role dictated by their type, and those defy such rules are “purged”. This is presented as a huge problem for those like the Crystal Gems and the Off-colours, who want to be different and pursue another way of life, but also for even the Diamonds themselves, who are struggling to conform to their roles as leaders because of their grief. This got me thinking.
So, I may laugh at this picture of Papa Fryman all too frequently, but it reminds me of the line that accompanies it:
“Being part of the Fryman family means you gotta sell fries… and be my son, which you are. So, you’re already halfway there.”
Note how he states Peedee’s role before being his son - and then how being his son already qualifies him for that role. I feel like as an early episode, Frybo is often overlooked. Not only does it introduce the Gem shards, how they are semi-conscious, and how they can “power” things, but this particular quote makes me think of how Gems fulfil a particular role according to their type. Y’know: an Agate terrifies, a Lapis terraforms. Pearls are servants, Peridots are technicians. But this line of Papa Fryman’s makes specific reference to humans of a particular family, and how he expects his sons to not only contribute to the family business but to also be happy about it. Clearly, this is not the case, as first mentioned by Peedee in the same episode:
“You pick up a job to buy a house, or raise kids, or to… impress your dad. You work away your life, and what does it get you?”
Peedee is around Steven’s age, and his worldview is very different from Steven’s fun-loving personality, at least at this point of the show! It shows how much of a pragmatist Peedee is but also that he is already rather world-weary because of it, possibly even depressed. As the series progresses, Peedee’s relationship with his dad improves and he seemingly wants to work hard in the family business, but this line keeps making me think that he’s only doing it out of loyalty to his family. Peedee confides to Steven that his suggestion to alphabetise the condiments was not taken well, which suggests Papa Fryman still runs a strict uh, shop. And this is elaborated on in episodes with his older brother Ronaldo, who repeatedly shows very little interest in the family business(!) This is something which draws a lot of ire from their dad, to the point where Papa Fryman says his eldest son can’t take care of himself!
It would seem from Future Boy Zoltron that their family dynamic is changing, but the question the boys asked “Zoltron” is not shown. I can’t help but think the Frybros worry that their father sees them more as employees rather than sons - his expectations of them are clearly tied to the business, and he doesn’t seem to be aware of his sons’ wishes. This was also the case with Sour Cream, who complains in Joy Ride:
“Ugh, my stepdad was all on my case. I’m just like, I don’t want to be a fisherman. Everyone knows you can’t rave in a raincoat, step-dad!”
Again this is a case of a human being compelled into a role because of their family - their “type”. Although Sour Cream is not related to Yellowtail by blood, they are still family and as the family’s figure of authority, Yellowtail has clear plans for Sour Cream to join his family business. We know that Sour Cream has another career path in mind, and this disappoints his Yellowdad! Separately, Vidalia tells Amethyst about how she is more supportive of Sour Cream’s self-expression, and that Yellowtail and SC not seeing eye-to-eye was a recurring problem.
Although it took a difficult set of circumstances with Sour Cream’s biodad, it was Yellowtail who came through for him in the end. It would appear now that Sour Cream has his family’s full support to do what he wants with his life. This would be entirely in keeping with Steven’s and the Crystal Gems’ ethos: that a person or a Gem is free to choose their own course in life, regardless of their background or type. The Yellow Onions and the Frymans are only the families whose stories deal specifically with expectations within the family unit, but other human characters also struggle with communication between family members. Unspoken expectations or perhaps second-guessing each other, and their true situations or feelings are at the root of these problems.
Sadie’s mother is overbearing but clearly wants the best for her, Buck has a very open, supportive dad who can also be quite patronising. Lars‘ relationship with his parents seems to be quite tumultuous. These are all difficult problems as teenagers become young adults; they begin to know themselves, their hopes and their dreams better and sometimes, these can conflict with the views of their parent(s). Parents might feel they know better, and have trouble adjusting to new boundaries as their role becomes less of a protector or an authority figure, and more of an equal.
All of this reminds me of Rose’s words on how every Gem knows who they are and what their role is from the minute they emerge, and that’s all they will ever be. Rose was enamoured with humans because the of their “power” to grow and change - as all these people show. But equally through characters like the Crystal Gems, we’ve been shown that this is not the case. Humans and Gems are not so different, and Gems have their own capacity to grow and change, too. They can learn new things, adapt to new circumstances, and they can forge their own paths, to become their own Gems! I wonder if Rose ever realised that?
“It’s just…” Draco sighed, looking down at his rucksack gloomily. “I’m
trying. I don’t know why he hates me so much. It’s not as if I’m not
trying.”–The Man In the Scarlet Cloak
Draco is elbows-deep in paperwork when the scent of fresh coffee
assaults him. None of that shit from the canteen; real, spiced coffee,
the steam of which makes his muscles tense with longing. He looks up to
see Pansy standing there, her slickly red-polished nails a bright
splash against the paper cup she’s holding out like an offering.
– How To Catch A Weasley (And Maybe A Potter, Too)
Harry tugged on his tie in the futile attempt to straighten it.
Allowing Hermione to dress him had seemed like a good idea at the time.
But he’d rather assumed that, knowing him, she’d pick something more
casual, and perhaps with more room–like a comfortable set of
“Do we always have to fight first?” Harry asks breathlessly, shoving his hips forward in a quick rhythm.
–The Things They Never Say
Eid Mubarak to all my friends, may Allah swt accept our fast and give us the health to see many more blessed Eid celebrations in the future. May Allah swt grant all of you a high place in Jannah and blessings in this life and the next, Ameen.
❝ he pictures the broken glass, he pictures the steam he pictures a soul with no leak at the seams let’s take the boat out, wait until darkness let’s take the boat out, wait until darkness comes
i. deadweight on velveteen — josé gonzález. ii. while we were hunting rabbits — matthew good. iii. dirty knife — neko case. iv. conversation 16 — the national. v. mercy street [peter gabriel cover] — fever ray. vi. i’m sorry i sang on your hands that must have been in the grave — sunset rubdown. vii. putting the dog to sleep — the antlers. viii. of hospitals — jordaan mason. ix. the nothing part ii — lady lamb.
Little lads first heists. Michael's is at a few months old, Geoff takes him along as a prop. Gavin age four first heist, stealing the tip jar from a store that was mean to his mama and micoo. Jeremy is seven and attempts get away driver. Badly.
“YOU USED OUR BABY AS A PROP!”
“HE’S CLEARLY FINE! I’M THE ONE BLEEDING!”
“YOU’LL BE BLEEDING MORE IN A MINUTE, GEOFFREY!”
Hee hee, Jack would be pisssssssed.
As for Gavin, I just see him in his room with a bunch of stuffed animals on his bed, and him calling them ‘his crew.’ And Jeremy is at the foot of the bed, excited because Gavin is actually including him, and Gavin is like “The traget” and he points to a scribbled drawing on a giant pad of paper. “He’s a meanie man who was mean to my Jack and my Micoo. We are going to make him pay.”
And this tiny voice asks, “How?”
And Gavin says, “Easy, by making him pay.” And Jeremy doesn’t get it, but he’s 2 and really Gavin didn’t really understand what he meant either until he saw the tip jar the next time they went into the store.
And Jeremy has a wagon on the back of his bike that Michael and Gavin are supposed to get in after they steal Anthony and his brother’s pocket money. And here come 10 year old Michael and 9 year old Gavin running around the corner and Michael is screaming, “GO GO GO!” And Jeremy, not even waiting for them to get into the wagon, just starts peddling. And Michael yells, “Not without us!”
Jeremy doesn’t get too far, he hits a pole and falls off the bike. He doesn’t hurt himself badly, just a few scrapes, but Michael never lets him be the getaway driver again.
I feel like you’re just trying to get them into close proximity, haha. Liz offering herself up as a clutch, guiding Alan’s arm around her shoulders and pressing her body close to his side, hips touching, his head so close to hers that if he’d just turn the slightest bit he’d be able to press a kiss to the crown of her head.
I’m all for the headcanon that Mercy either sleeps long because she worked all night or doesnt sleep at all but on rare ocassions I think Angela would wake up before Fareeha and just watch her sleep ^3^