Is this just a thing adults do

3

In this dark time of art block, I bring you…

Baby Reigen

Not even ageswap, just for whatever reason/by some accident he’s a little kid for awhile. Yeah. More to come probably.

  • A relationship between two adults with a large age gap is not inherently abusive.
  • Parents maintaining some form of control over their child’s life whilst that child is underage and still under their parents’ care is not inherently abusive.
  • A parent reasonably disciplining their child is not inherently abusive.
  • Arguments in a relationship of any kind do not automatically make the relationship, or any of the people involved, abusive.
  • Friends who aren’t available to tend to other friends’ needs 24/7 are not inherently abusive or “toxic”.
  • etc.

Can people seriously stop automatically categorising things as abusive because it just trivialises the seriousness of actual abuse. I’m so tired of seeing things like “if your partner yells at you then leave them”, “if a friend isn’t there for you then they’re not a real friend”, “if your parents don’t let you do what you want then they’re bad parents”.

Just because you don’t agree with someone’s behaviour it doesn’t mean the behaviour is abusive. Humans are complex and very emotional and while small things can sometimes be indicators of abuse, usually negative emotions or behaviours are just because people are fucking complicated.

Things are not as black and white as “100% abusive” and “100% not abusive” - please keep in mind that there are shades of grey such as “possibly abusive” or “a shitty thing to do, but not abusive”, or “just fucking normal human emotions because not everyone can be 100% positive and nice to everyone all the time you twats”.

I was a huge fan of Captain Underpants as a kid, so I’m naturally looking forward to the movie. And now that the first trailer is out, I really like what I see, but one thing just really bugs me about it - why did they have fully-grown men play George and Harold? Not even men that have kinda young-sounding voices, like it’s just adult voices coming out of 9 year-olds. That just… really takes me out of it. They should have either had actual kids or (if this is intended to be the first movie in a series) women do the voices.

i remember first walking into a toystore in richmond and just it IMMEDIATELY being apparent that this store is not for children, it’s for geeky adults

and just feeling so… wrong. like “we do not deserve this, they do.” i don’t like it. i feel like in my lifetime im seeing a progressive exclusion of children from more and more things that were originally made for them to make way for the nerdy manchildren. i hate it.

anonymous asked:

What happens if you did hurt yourself ? Like what do I do? I'm really confused ? (different anon please I'm actually having problems with doing it too often )

If you are having problems self harming I would go to the most trusted adult you can and tell them that you have had these issues in the past and you would like to talk to someone about what’s going on. If this is a dysphoria related issue please tell your therapist. Any good therapist is going to help work with you on your gender issues. 

Your life doesn’t need to be this way forever, things can and will get better sometimes we just need to take those first steps.

Kyle

So this blog will be on a bit of a hiatus for a while

I just have some adulting-type life-things to tend to and it means I won’t really be around here much.  I’ll still be posting fic on AO3, so if you don’t already follow me over there, please do (writerstealth, obviously).  

When I do let myself out of tumblr jail I promise I’ll throw a big party with beer and confetti and naked girls.  

why do i gotta ask for people to let this 30 yr old man live his 30 yr old life. like. drink a beer phil. call dan a cheeky fucking cunt when he’s being an idiot phil. make a disgusting sex joke that’s so bad it’s funny phil. live ur life. do it for me babe. im sorry people still treat you like a 15 year old scene kid who wants to fuck a plant.

I hope you guys realize that the Stranger things kids are still very young and haven’t matured all the way yet and they’re probably at some point going to do some things that aren’t so great and say things that aren’t so great and when that happens I hope you guys don’t ridicule them or tear them down because they’re still learning just like we were at that age

i really have to kind of admire just how brutally blunt lemony snicket was in his books marketed to goddamn preteens that good people, including adults that really, really ought to help you, can and will let you down, that the world generally doesn’t give us answers to our most burning questions no matter how much we want them, and that in the end, there are going to be times when you have absolutely no clue, no vindication, no sign, no nada, nothing that what you are doing is the right thing. 

anonymous asked:

You have a mostly adult fan base. Why do you keep everything so G rated? You don't cuss, talk about sex, your love life or anything. Do you think we can't handle it?

Yup! That’s what I think!

Lol no!! I do talk about my love life to an extent, only to the point I, myself, am feeling up to talking to you all about it. And as much as you may think I have a mostly adult audience, I do have lots of kids who follow me, and it is a great opportunity to keep my videos accessible to them, while also discussing things that may not get to be talked about a lot in school (Black History, women’s rights, gender identity, body positivity, etc.). Future topics will cover other things like sexuality, gender identities, possibly even safe practices, but my channel is still relatively new. And it’s not just kids, a lot of people of all ages would prefer not to watch something with expletives or sexual content. It’s not that they can’t handle it, but that they would prefer not to have it, or that they would like to watch something while there are kids around. I’m not even a big curser myself, although I’m never offended if anyone were to curse around me. I’m just a big believer in keeping my videos accessible to all!

A worldbuilding thing people often overlook is the way that cultures are contradictory without anyone really noticing or acknowledging it. Like “in Xland funerals involve covering the corpse with gold leaf and then making a dozen marble statues of the deceased” except, you know, those are only some funerals. Or “In the US in the fifties married women didn’t work outside the home” except that didn’t apply to poor women and plus actually quite a few middle class married women–with kids even–had full time jobs (like my grandmother, who was a social worker in the 50s and actually all the way up to her retirement).

The Sherlock Holmes style of deduction–no native speaker of English would make this particular mispelling! No member of this one religion would ever have/say/do this forbidden thing, therefore Person B must not have done it! Everyone in Society Z was married, so stories about an unmarried adult must be entirely fiction, or they must just not have mentioned a spouse for some reason” all these things assume that cultures are logically consistent in a particular, straightforward way that, frankly, they pretty much never are. Note, I’m not saying you can’t draw any conclusions at all from data about cultures, just, things aren’t hard and fast, certainly not simple, and people generally just don’t see the contradictions or put them in a special “but that’s different” category.

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry to bother you, but do things really get better? I'm 16 right now and everything I know is sadness and exhaustion and anger and then I talk to my parents and they just complain about adult life... is it worth it to go on?

oh gosh, i promise, it’s worth waiting, buddy. i know there are a lot of people who say, oh it gets better. and it does in some ways, but what it really gets is different. the people who are angry and mean and horrible often stay that way. the people who cut you off or who flip you off or who piss you off often are the same people at 16 as at 26. 

i think i hated people telling me “it gets better” because what could get better about being a mentally ill queer cuban girl in a world that wanted to eat me. i got spat out. my writing isn’t published because i’ve been rejected so many times i don’t even notice anymore. i was told a few times “make it less obviously homosexual”. what is going to get better about that, i said to myself. the memory of it will never be a nice one.

things got different slowly. like i didn’t realize until i was far on the other side of it. i wasn’t kidding in that last post when i said today i read my writing at 15 and it was painfully obvious how depressed i was. i didn’t have a diagnosis. like you, all i knew was that i was exhausted and angry and sad all the time and when i talked about it, i was told “everyone feels that way sometimes.” i felt that way all the time. in this story, i don’t suddenly wake up after turning 18 and have a magical life where it is all bunnies and flowers and loving. it took me 3 years of trying before i finally managed to quit self-harm completely. my eating disorder and i are still not on speaking terms, luckily. i’m slowly getting a handle on my ocd. i didn’t realize that the biggest thing that was changing was me.

yeah. being out of the house made it easier. away from where people knew me as a certain person. being someone new or being who i was or being in a room full of people who didn’t care how gay i was. being in control made it better. finding real and true friends made it better. being able to make my own plans and choose my own story and do more than just wait until i was old enough to be taken seriously - it got better.

but honestly it’s me. i learned how to shake hands with depression, he and i are such good old buddies i sometimes see him before he’s even coming. and i’ve gotten so good at getting out of his embrace, because practice makes perfect, same as anything. and i’ve learned things about myself i had no idea about at 16. i didn’t even realize i’m funny. i had never been skinny dipping. my only kiss had been sort of an accident. there was a lot i cared about then that i don’t care about now, because in my new world outside of that, the people i surround myself with don’t care either. i’ve worn a dinosaur onesie pajama set to eight parties now when 19 year old me wouldn’t be seen without her makeup. i wear glasses in public even though i’m nervous they make me look like a bug. i have tattoos and new piercings and a bank account (and no money) and i have love. and i don’t mean with a partner, although i’m blessed enough to say i have that as well - i mean. i just found it. i taught myself how to look for it. i figured - listen, i’m here still, so i might as well, like, try to enjoy it. and it wasn’t overnight. it still goes away sometimes. but i love so much and so easily now. i laugh more because of it. i let myself love dogs and movies and silly things. and this love sort of … makes things better. because it reflects off of everything into you. like a mirror.

at sixteen… at sixteen i was very suicidal. i didn’t know that it applied to me, because i thought i was just annoying and lazy. looking back now i always pull a face at how obvious it was, and how close i got to walking myself into a grave. it was more than a close call. death, like, waved. i actually believed i wouldn’t make it past 18. what was the point? what was the point of anything? i think if i’d told myself then, “it gets better”, i would have laughed. “maybe for you!” i would have said, “you have money and a life and you’re not like this.” but it did get better. in inches. stick around to see it. stick around to see everything wonderful that’s waiting in the wings for you. that knows your name. a fate of beautiful moments that are small and precious, like butterflies landing on fingers or snowflakes on tongues, or just sitting with a good book during the rainfall. hell, stick around to write the book, because (trust me), if you believe in your art and yourself - it can be done.

stick around most of all because what gets better is you fall in love with yourself. the world doesn’t become suddenly sickeningly sweet, even if the people around you become better and you’re given more opportunity. that’s wonderful too but… what happens is that over time, the stuff they told you stops sticking. you realize that just because your nose is crooked it doesn’t even matter because it doesn’t stop you from being the best dang ping pong player in your family. you realize you have a family, even if they’re not blood. you realize you are your own family. and you learn to take care of yourself and yes, it gets ugly at times, but you manage. and inside of managing there’s all these wonderful successes like mac and cheese and getting the bills done and the smell of clean laundry and friends that make you laugh so hard you almost pee and an apartment with plants in every corner and a hairless cat in sweaters or a dog with a bowtie or both and watching movies and reading books and seeing art, all of which haven’t been created yet, and possibly you’re the one who makes them. and managing … managing doesn’t have to be big. sometimes it’s just making a small difference. and sometimes the person you make a difference to is yourself. and that’s amazing.

stick around because, trust me, somewhere in there, you meet your younger self in your dreams and you tell her - oh gosh, i promise, it’s worth waiting, buddy.

3

PLEASE LOVE YOUR TRANSGENDER & NON BINARY CHILDREN. THEY ARENT HURTING ANYONE. THEY ARE NORMAL AND THEY DESERVE YOUR LOVE. THATS ALL WE WANT.

I don’t care if they are 13, I don’t care if they are 30.

This is what transphobia looks like. This is what being 27 years old and your family is talking to you like a toddler and telling you “Sweetie, that’s just how the world is. We can’t change our minds. I’m sorry, we don’t love Kyle, we love Katie.”

I am strong. I will survive this. But this is what is killing children. This is what is killing adults. This is the ugly reality of things.

I went home for Christmas in the hopes I could show my family how good I was doing. Even after they told me I wasn’t allowed to come originally. I fought to be here. I had gained weight, me depression is better, my anxiety is gone, my smile was real.

But it was crushed. Every. Day. No one stuck up for me. Not even my siblings.

It’s not wrong to be transgender. You don’t need to be fixed! I don’t give a fuck if a book or some old dude tells you it’s wrong. I don’t care if your mom tells she doesn’t love you anymore and your dad hits you. It isn’t wrong. You are normal and you have to be strong and you have to live for you.

It is time to take control of your life. I don’t know what happens when we die. But I know it’s important that we live and show this world that we deserved love and respect and to be a part of a family.

Please be strong. Please choose to live because I am choosing to live and document this in the hope that one day it is going to get better and someone will find this and see even in the darkest hours we can pull through.

Kyle

Just in case you ever worry you’re not Adult™ enough and don’t have enough self control for when it comes to creative projects, (cause I get asked a lot “how do you get yourself to focus” and similar questions) I have a literal separate profile on my computer that has nothing on it but Word and my project folders. No browsers, no apps, not even god damn solitaire because if I have a single thing to do other than write, I won’t do shit.

So if you’re one of those people who struggles to focus and you keep beating yourself up over not having the willpower to just make yourself focus: stop. You’re not failing, you just haven’t found the method that works for you yet.

Keep going, you’ll get there.

8

My ears hear what others cannot hear; small faraway things people cannot normally see are visible to me. These senses are the fruits of a lifetime of longing, longing to be rescued, to be completed. Just as the skirt needs the wind to billow, I’m not formed by things that are of myself alone. I wear my father’s belt tied around my mother’s blouse, and shoes which are from my uncle. This is me. Just as a flower does not choose its color, we are not responsible for what we have come to be. Only once you realize this do you become free, and to become adult is to become free.

Stoker (2013) dir. Park Chan-wook 

As Robbie Rotten is now a meme. I actually noticed that some of the shit he does in the show is REALLY FUCKING ILLEGAL.

Such as…

Blackface + Impersonation of authority

Impersonation of a royal guard 

several counts of kidnapping, both adult and minor 

Unauthorised use of a high powered rocketry vehicle without FAA approval 

Over 20 counts of breaking and entering 

over 40 counts of invasion of privacy + stalking 

At least 5 counts of attempted murder by poison + 3 other accounts of attempted murder 

Fabrication and  tampering with historical documents.

These are honest to god just a few, but they are SERIOUS CRIMES. If you watch lazy town and think about the things robbie is doing you can see that he really is villain #1. But he’s also gotta be on the FBI’s watch list at this point.

Things I’d like to see on Booklr
  • Reviews for backlist books. I don’t care if you’re reading something old for the first time. You just read Sabriel by Garth Nix? Or the Lumatere Chronicles by Melina Marchetta?  Or maybe Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz? DO A REVIEW FOR IT! Maybe it’s not the newest and hottest book right now, but there are so many older novels to discover and reviews help that!
  • Buzz for non-YA novels. I love the Young Adult genre/age group. But there’s a TON of books that aren’t Young Adult that would be fun to discuss and share! Occasionally we get non-YA books that get popular because of their appeal to the YA audience (The Night Circus, Shades of Magic, Song of Achilles, etc) but I wanna hear about more! Tell me about the mystery you’re reading, the poetry book you picked up, the old sci-fi series you found on sale! There’s a lot of books out there! If YA isn’t your thing, no worries, I still want to see blogs and posts for books outside that area!
  • Support Reviews. I’m just as guilty of this. I don’t tend to reblog or like reviews, even though I constantly skim, read, and look at what bloggers have to say. Reviews are essential to book blogging in general and great for the book industry! We should reblog and comment on them more! Show reviews your support, that you’re out there reading what they have to say, let them know if you pick up the book or not, share the review so others see it and maybe discover their next favorite book!
  • Discussion Posts. I know that some say that longer posts just don’t work on tumblr, but I love seeing discussion posts and reviews on booklr! Wordpress blogs are more likely to have discussion posts or just longer posts about books and stuff in the community, but I would love to see this stuff on here to. The fun thing about tumblr is it’s a very versatile blogging platform, from just reblogging to adding your own content into the community. Maybe we’ve all skipped over a long post because “TL;DR” but I think that reblogs and comments are perfect for talking and adding to discussion posts, so why don’t we all utilize it more?
  • Support non-English Readers! Every time I see a photo of a book that’s not in English, I notice that it has significantly fewer notes than of pictures of that book in English. I’m not sure what’s up with that? A lot of times you can recognize the book because the covers are the same, it just happens to have the title in Russian or Spanish or whatever language. Lots of people don’t read in English and that’s GREAT! There’s a lot of languages out there and those who read in their native language deserve support for their blog too! (Obviously)
  • REBLOG REBLOG REBLOG. bookavid used to talk about this sometimes, but likes aren’t always great for bloggers. I put a LOT of love and work into my blog and so does everyone else in the community. We work hard on posts, reviews, and photos! Reblog them if you like them! That lets us know you like what we’re doing and more people see it and we feel validated for our hard work. It’s always depressing when I post something and it gets 10 likes so I post it again and wonder if people don’t like it? Is it worth putting the work into if no one sees it or seems to care? I know some people try to stick to the theme of their blog but when you can, support bloggers and reblog instead of just liking it and scrolling on!

I know booklr has felt dead recently, but I’m not giving up until you pry this blog from my cold dead hands! Reach out, talk to people, let me know if you want me to check out your blog, talk to me about books, talk to other people about books, make posts even if you feel your blog is small and unimportant (it’s not, fyi). I love this community and I want to see it thriving again! I want to talk to you guys, hear your thoughts, get recommendations, and make friends

-Dakota

P.S. What do you want to see more of on booklr?? Comment, reblog, message me, let me know 😄

Y’know, as silly as Lazytown is?  It’s actually a fantastic show, especially for kids.

It simplifies one very specific and important lesson that even adults tend to overlook nowadays: physical activity is incredibly important.  Like, I’m not telling you to go run three miles or anything, but getting up, getting outside, and DOING things… and getting into the habit of doing so starting from a young age… is, in fact, not only a way to stay physically healthy but also a way to develop a mindset that can help fight off a later onset of mental issues, too.

People complain that the advice of getting outside and doing things to keep yourself active is just a “neurotypical” mindset, and that people who give that advice can’t possibly understand what it’s like to deal with mental issues.  In reality, though, there’s little better and more effective advice.  Physical activity is as healthy for your mind as it is for your body.  Sure, lifting a few weights isn’t gonna magically cure your depression or anxiety, but speaking from personal experience?  Getting into the habit of it really does help.

The villain, Robbie Rotten, reflects a bunch of very unhealthy habits: getting up late in the day, oversleeping, eating only junk food, avoiding certain types of healthy social interaction… As funny and relatable as he is, the fact that he refuses to even TRY to break out of the negative downwards spiral of self-reincforcing bad habits identifies him as what you don’t want to become.

Interestingly enough, Sportacus doesn’t seem to directly fight Robbie very often – rather, he seems to attempt to help him more than anything.  Time and time again, he encourages Robbie to try a healthier habit… and while it might be argued that he’s being kinda pushy about it, he intends to help Robbie become a healthier person both physically and mentally.

Robbie insists that Sportacus can’t possibly understand and deliberately pushes his aid away, often even mocking Sportacus despite knowing that he’s probably 100% right.  He refuses help because to change his habits would be too hard and too much effort, and instead is content with being miserable because it’s easier to be bitter about people not understanding.

This is what kids should not want to be.  And the fact that Lazytown conveyed this message to kids is actually pretty brilliant – by encouraging kids to develop healthy habits, to admire Sportacus’s vitality and ability, the show is teaching them in a roundabout way how to avoid the onset of self-destructive habits like the kinds that Robbie has.

Physical activity, healthy eating, good social skills… sure, it sounds like a broken record.  But that’s because it’s true: those are all major tools in the process of mental recovery for people who struggle with depression and the like.

Give Lazytown a hand, folks.  That’s a good kids’ show right there.

Okay but taking away Jack’s sword was possibly the best thing they could’ve done with this final season.

In the past (*finger guns*) Jack has been pretty much invincible with his magic sword. He could do pretty much anything with just the sword and his skills. Defeat Aku whenever, slice through metal and robots, and use it against anything. It was almost like a sort of deus ex machina against the evil threat of the week.

But now that Jack LOST the sword?

He’s vulnerable. Aku could appear at any time now and he wouldn’t be prepared for it. He’s mastered other weapons, sure, but that sword was CRUCIAL to defeating Aku! ONLY the sword can hurt him, and without it, he can’t go back home.

So this means that now, Jack can’t slice and dice himself out of any situation. He now has to rely on sole skill using whatever weapons he can to fight, like how he took the musical robot’s tuning knife from this episode. And until he finds his sword (IF he finds his sword that is), he’s just a sitting duck waiting to be shot by Aku the duck hunter. It’s a race against time now to get back the sword before Jack is personally encountered by Aku, and that ups the tension tenfold!

I’m really looking forward to the rest of this season!!!