Intimate-relationship

anonymous asked:

Perhaps a protection of privacy. But, Caitriona even looks more comfortable posing with JJ than Tony

Cait appearing more comfortable with others than with Tony at an appearance that involves Tony is not an unusual observation, anon. But what could it mean?

Cait is on record saying that her personal relationship is private. That it is just for her. If she was trying to protect the privacy of a relationship between her and Tony the way to do that would be to leave him at home out of the limelight- not to take him to all her professional appearances and then to proceed to treat him as a friend cum assistant.

Her treatment of him is quite consistent across all of their appearances together too. And it is never suggestive of any physical closeness or intimate relationship existing between them. She treats him as a friend and also as an assistant- and nothing more. Every time.

Cait is an actress, and also a model. She is aware of the power of body language. It is her stock in trade so to speak, so I am sure she is aware of how her actions towards Tony appear. And is also aware of what they say to those who are watching about who he is to her. And I think that the message she conveys so consistently every time we see them together is the message that she wants to give concerning Tony and her. And it says, loudly, “Just Friends”.

So while I do believe that Cait is protecting privacy here, I believe that she isn’t protecting anything between herself and Tony, but rather is using Tony’s presence to protect the privacy of her real relationship.with another man. A relationship she keeps strictly out of the public eye.

And it is rather interesting that the man who rumor consistently places as that man also uses this same technique with his “appearance partner”…

All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm’s way.
—  bell hooks, all about love