anonymous asked:

do u have any thoughts on the recent trend of applying the split-attraction orientation model to like... idk what word to use, historical lgbtq figures? icons? like i've seen freddie mercury described as homoromantic bisexual, gore vidal described as biromantic asexual, and sylvia rivera described as biromantic heterosexual.

I’m mostly averse to the split attraction model (even tho I used to use it when I was in high school when I was asexual) but I think that even in a context of using it for our current day, it’s not generalizable onto times in history when no one was conceptualizing their own identity that way.

Beyond the fact that lots of these identity terms were really different in the past in the first place. So like, looking at stigmatized behavior is way more historically judicious than like looking at identities, unless the person said a whole lot abt their identity and even then we have to talk abt it framing it in its historical context.

There’s a phenomenon that happens a bunch, where people express values that I find somewhere on the spectrum between weird and abhorrent.

(This happens moderately often because my values are kind of weird. Please don’t assume that this conversation maps well to any of the typical flamewar subjects).

And I want to argue with them, but there isn’t really a coherent argument to be had, because it’s actually a deep value dispute. So there wouldn’t be an argument so much as me being loudly disgusted at people whoe were just minding their own business and advocating things that horrify me.

I try not to shut these people out completely, for two reasons. One is that I like keeping challenges to my worldview in my reading rotation. (This is a major reason I read Ross Douthat). The other is that some of these people are good people and in some cases good friends, and I’m a big proponent of not leting politics get in the way of friendship.

On the other hand, sometimes I do have to step away from those conversations, or stop reading those people, because it’s just making me frustrated and not accomplishing anything. The more tempted I am to start making posts about how you’re so wrong wharrgarbl the more likely I am to try to step away.

But sometimes I feel a sense of loss. Because stepping away means I’m never going to get around to making the “wharrgarbl” post. And that feels, emotionally, like a huge loss. Even though the whole poitn is that that post would accomplish nothing for anyone, including me, and so I shouldn’t do it.

Consequently, here I am making a post about making those posts that I’m not going to make. :P


Tiffany is a ballet dancer in her collaboration with Far East Movement.

A music video for the track “Don’t Speak” featuring Tiffany and King Chain dropped on December 8. It stars Tiffany as a ballet dancer auditioning in front of the Far East Movement members and all the emotions one experiences before performing.

“Don’t Speak” is off of the group’s recently released album ‘Identity.’ It contains a total of 11 tracks with several collaborations with Korean artists such as Yoonmirae, Chanyeol of EXO, Hyolyn of SISTAR, Loco, Jay Park, and Urban Zapaka.

- Admin J


NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO!! In this one, I delve into my own identity and the questions many people have about their own identity!! I had a lot of fun with this one and I hope you all enjoy it!!

things tumblr needs to stop thinking are good, cool or constructive

- looking for things to be offended by
- glorifying certain demographics
- vilifying other demographics
- throwing around words such as ableist, sexist, transphobic, etc like confetti to the point where they are becoming meaningless (much to the harm of victims of actual hatred)
- self victimization
- censorship
- policing people’s language
- throwing tantrums over fictional characters not representing demographics you like
- pretty much reducing people to small aspects of their identity
- doxxing and bullying people who disagree with you
- conflating gender with personality traits or clothing style
- pretending that obesity is not a bad thing
- prioritizing hurt feelings over everything else
- pretending that you strive for equality when really you strive for special treatment


Happy Intersex Awareness Day! 

This is an excerpt from a resolution commemorating the 20th anniversary of Intersex Awareness Day, signed by more than 60 organizations and leaders from around the world

1) All intersex people have the right to make their own decisions affecting their bodily integrity, physical autonomy, and self-determination.  

2) Medically unnecessary treatment, surgeries, and sterilizations of intersex people should not occur without said intersex person’s full informed consent.

3) Intersex people and the families of children born with intersex traits should have access to non-pathologizing psychosocial and peer support.

Intersex pals, you are wonderful, you are valid, and you have the right to your own body. Supporting you 100%, today and every day.