I’m just going to say this really quietly on my own space.
The wish isn’t Regina’s version of everyone. It’s a messed up wish verse. It’s supposed to be wrong so you don’t just wish your problems away. Wishes, are by nature, dangerous and messed up. This is the big narrative of the show about wishes.
It is not that Regina secretly wanted Emma to be weak.
Or that without Regina’s ‘abuse’ of Emma, she is weak. (What happened to Emma in the foster system is not Regina’s ‘abuse’. It’s something that happened to Emma because Emma’s parents sent her away from Regina’s curse. Regina, Snowing and David were all part of that (yes, Regina is the most culpable, because she cast the curse, but the curse by nature didn’t mean Emma had to suffer. If anyone is pushing the ‘Emma had to suffer’ line, it’s the writers of the show. This is a good point to rage at them.)
I think charitably, the writers meant “the bad things in my life are also part of who I am and I wouldn’t get rid of those memories, even though they’re awful.”
Not, Emma is grateful she was cursed.
Emma is grateful to be Emma, all of Emma. Whole. Emma Swan is the product of her experiences, and it is NOT that she needed to be separate from her parents to be heroic. She became her own hero because she needed to.
She could have been a hero in the EF too, she’s just not in this wish verse because, it’s a fucked up wish verse.
It is meant to be so.
(I think this will repeat with Regina and the EQ. Regina will learn the same lesson. The bad parts of me also make me who I am, and I am grateful for that. Whole, because it is whole, good and bad, that I am my best self.)
It is that in the wish verse, the essential part of Emma is gone. Not because she wasn’t hurt in her life, but because the wish corrupted her character.
The wish takes an idea “Emma is not the Savior” and runs with it, making it as messed up as possible.
“I wish to look on your always” - trapped in a mirror, forever, as a disembodied being.
Wishes are fucked up things.
So the EQ, making chaos, trying to save herself, behaving erratically and selfishly because she was afraid that with the sword, they’ll kill her, gave the wish an idea…and the wish ran with it.
Emma not the savior could still live in Boston as a badass. Emma, not the savior, could run a donut shop. The wish, going for the most fucked up version, made this.
Not Regina’s subconscious. Definitely not Regina’s conscious mind, wanting Emma to be weak and ‘grateful for her abuse’.