I-am-not-a-label

anonymous asked:

So your definition of lesbian is a female attracted to females. So if I'm a female attracted to other females sexualy, but attracted to males only romantically am I allowed to use the label? For whatever reason I've always felt more of a connection to the label lesbian, it's felt more right than anything. People have said I should say "Biromantic, homosexual" but that's a mouthful and it just doesn't seem right. Sorry if this wording is weird I'm a bit sleep deprived, hope you understand it ok

Hi!

First of all, this is not “our” definition. This is the definition of lesbian, and therefore the only one we can use (x). 

Secondly, I do not condone the split attraction model that you’re referring to for people that are not asexual (not going to go down the discourse road there but just to get this out of the way). The reason for my concern with the split attraction model is that it fails to address internalized homophobia, for example. So if you’re not asexual I don’t think you have a reason to call yourself “biromantic, homosexual”. I’ll explain why further down.

So, technicalities out of the way, here’s for my answer:

It’s important to try and understand why you have these thoughts. I myself was in your very situation not too long ago. I loosely referred to my sexual orientation as biromantic homosexual, because I was in no way attracted to men sexually but I was “open to have a romantic, sex-free relationship with a man if the perfect one came along”. But honestly, that man does not exist. I wanted to have sex with women, and I wanted to have a romantic relationships with women. That was very obvious and clear to me. Why would I settle for a sexless companionship when I knew I could have both things with women? I later realized that I was actually not really into men at all, not even romantically like I had first thought.

For some people, sex is not very important. This is okay too. But to be honest, a person who describes their attraction to women as sexual and romantic versus their attraction to men merely romantic, screams compulsory heterosexuality to me. It’s easy to confuse liking a man as being romantically interested in him, because of heteronormativity. Women and men are groomed from the day they are born to be attracted to the opposite sex. We are taught to recognize any positive feeling we have for a man as romance. And to be honest, negative experiences are supposed to be recognized as romance too; We’ve all heard the “he’s only stealing your toys and annoying you because he’s in love with you,” on the kinderarten playground. This translates differently and many times more violent in adulthood…

You recognizing that you don’t dislike all men doesn’t have to mean you’re romantically interested in them. It’s normal. To me, your message sounds a lot like compulsory heterosexuality. It’s completely understandable; Being a lesbian is saying no to everything society teaches women. It is, entirely involuntarily, rebellious; Almost political in a way. It makes perfect sense that women would attempt to deny being lesbians. If we could just be, we wouldn’t have to deny and hide our lesbianism, but unfortunately, that’s not the kind of society we live in today.

I recommend that you think long and hard about this. You don’t have to be into men. If you aren’t attracted to men, you don’t have to pretend you are by reaching for any tiny little spark of interest and calling it “biromantic”. You do also say that it doesn’t feel right. Try to figure out why it doesn’t feel entirely right. I know it can be very difficult, but maybe reading through our compulsory heterosexuality tag could help you. Many women have the same concerns as you. You’re not alone, and we’re here for you whenever you need our help. You may realize down the line that yes, you are actually into men as well as women, and that’s totally okay. At least then you will have learnt something new about yourself, which I always encourage.

I hope this was helpful. Please don’t hesitate coming back to us if you have more questions. 

/ Mod W

anonymous asked:

Are you even native American

Hello nosey nonnie.

Yes I am Native American, but I don’t look it. And no it’s not one of those my great grandmother was Cherokee. I am 2nd generation off the rez Tuscarora, Iroquois Turtle Clan.

This is me and my mother. Yes she is my birth mother, I just got very fucked over in the genes department. I swear I’m adopted but we have many photos of the birth and have several paternity and maternity tests to prove that I fell out of this woman’s vagina.

Here are some more pictures cause I’m pale and I honestly don’t think you believe me:

(My mom actually made every piece of jewelry I am wearing and hand beaded that vest as well).

And here’s pictures of the woman that I blame for my bad genes: My grandmother.

I get told I look like her all the time AND I HONESTLY DO NOT SEE IT, but because I get told I look like her all the time I BLAME HER.

On the left you see my grandpa (full blood native) in his headdress, on the right you see my cousin (also full blood), the great medicine man Mad Bear, here’s a book about him since you seem to be so nosey.

And in case you doubted me, here are a few pictures of me when my ma and I were on the powwow circuit.

This is me with my ma’s regalia (if you call it a costume I will shank you) because a) she had a bad leg day and couldn’t dance and b) mine was not ready and made and I JUST REALLY WANTED TO DANCE. (This is also the day I got burnt ON MY FUCKING HAIRLINE WHERE MY HAIR WAS PARTED. THAT FUCKING HURTS!)

Here’s me in my fancy dance shawl. There aren’t that many pictures of me because a) I fucking hated them b) it’s normally seen as disrespectful to take pictures of dancers out of the circle without their permission and my ma and I were always dancing at the same times AND I NEVER LET ANYONE TAKE MY PICTURE AT THIS TIME IN MY LIFE.

So yes, my family is a very rainbow family, I just happen to be the one WHITE passing one. No really…

Here’s me (in the middle if you can’t guess), Bebe and Audree. I like to call this the ABC Rainbow of the Printup family (because my first name is Cheyenne…..I swear our parents DID NOT PLAN THIS). 

And this is another pic of me and Audree YEARS later

Am I Native? Yes

Do I look traditionally Native? No

Does that mean I am not going to label myself as native? HELL TO THE FUCK NO.

Please reblog and share so that people can understand that there are white passing people of color. Yes even some that pass as white as me. We do exist and no that does not give you the right to basically white wash us. I am proud of my native roots and I will share everything and anything you want to know. The more educational resources we can get out there the better. DON’T BE AFRAID TO SHOOT ME AN ASK. I LOVE IT, but please do not be a dick like this one and phrase it so accusingly. Much appreciated, thank you!

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So, I spent the better half of my Friday (read; all of it) doodling Gijinkas of my Sun and Moon pokemon team.

I hadn’t played the game until very recently so I kind of missed the hype train, but that didn’t stop me from loving the game or my team! And I McFreaking love designing gijinkas so here I am! I didn’t label what pokemon they actually are–Hopefully you can guess that just from their designs! 

((Please ignore what a poor team comp this is. I am a filthy casual and I love my half useless team very much.))

In any case, get ready for a small spam of these guys over the next few days cuz Imma queue up all the doodles I did of them!

Who do you like the best?

Mixed Black African Girl (Cameroonian/French)

I’m a mixed black african girl who grew up and lived most of her life in Cameroon, in Central Africa. My dad is half-white (french) and half-black (cameroonian), and my mom is 100% cameroonian. There’s little to no black african characters in popular fiction, which has always bothered me, and it would be so nice to read about someone like me for once.

  • Culture and food

Cameroon is a country created during colonization, with borders defined by europeans. Because of that, Cameroon is actually made of 200 ethnic groups, each of them having their own language and culture. So the culture and daily habits vary a lot depending on which region of Cameroon you are in. In the big cities, though, everyone is mingled no matter where they’re from. However, so many different ethnic groups cohabiting together often causes tension. There are also a lot of stereotypes about every ethnic group.

I grew up in the central and coastal areas of the country, and I’m Bassa. The Bassa are one of the main ethnic groups in Cameroon. If your parents are from two different ethnic groups, it is decided that you officially belong to your father’s ethnic group. My mother is Bakoko but my father is Bassa, so I’m the latter. When I meet another Cameroonian, two of the first questions we usually ask each other are : What are you (meaning, what’s your ethnic group) ? and Where is you village ?

Villages are very important in the Cameroonian culture. Your village is where your father’s ancestors were born. Even if you’re not born there, you usually have grandparents or great-uncles or family friends living there, and if you have enough money to do so you must regularly visit your village. And usually, when people earn enough money, they send money to their village so that people living there can have a better life, build more houses and schools etc.

Cameroonian food is very diverse, and varies depending on the region. The national dish is Ndolé, a dish made with ndolé leaves, stewed nuts, and meat (fish, beef or shrimps). Other common foods are bobolo and miondo (food made out of fermented manioc), soya (spicy grilled meat on skewers), and plantain. My dad is half-french though, so at home we eat almost as much french food as cameroonian food (crème brûlée, shepherd’s pie, beef bourguignon, A LOT of bread and cheese).

  • Language

There are hundreds of different languages, but the official languages are French and English. Cameroon was colonized by France and England so Northern Cameroon mainly speaks english and central/southern Cameroon mainly speaks french. Most people also speak their ethnic group’s language. I don’t know how to speak Bassa, though, because neither do my parents. When me and my siblings were kids, our dad asked our baby-sitter to teach us, but she could only do so much and I only remember a few words.

  • Beauty Standards

Like most countries, there is a lot of colorism in Cameroon based on European beauty standards. When you’re a woman, the lighter you are, the prettier and more desirable you are considered. Dark skinned women are often mocked and considered not as pretty. A lot of people, mainly women but also men, use dangerous products to lighten their skin. Internalized racism and white beauty standards are very insidious, and a lot of people want to look like white people, including me when I was younger. As a kid I remember wishing i was a pretty blonde-haired blue-eyed white girl like the heroines of the books i was reading. Growing up I stopped wishing that, but I relaxed and straightened my hair a lot, wanting to have long straight hair without realizing that it was still an attempt to look like the ideal version of a white girl. I’m sure that if I had more black female characters to relate to when I was growing up, I wouldn’t have spend so many years hating myself without even realizing I was doing it.

Also, Cameroonians usually consider thick, curvy women to be the ideal beauty standard. But being thin is still an ideal broadcast by the media (especially that american and european media are heavily broadcast and consumed in Cameroon) so most women still diet a lot and go to the gym to lose weight.

  • Clothing

Women wear a lot of skirts and dresses, be it casual or for work. Most cameroonian schools have uniforms and mandatory hairstyles (either cornrows or short shaved hair).

Elderly people often wear more traditional clothes and outfits. The most prominent traditional item of clothing is the Kaba. The Kaba is a long dress made of wax fabric and other materials and is owned by pretty much every woman. The dress looks different depending on the situation : the Kaba you wear when you stay at home is usually very long and very loose, the Kaba you wear during official/formal events is more tight-fitting and stylized, etc.

  • Dating and Relationships

I’ve never dated anyone, but when I was in high school none of my friends ever told their parents they were seeing someone. Having your parents know about and meet the person you’re dating after only a few weeks or months is something that just doesn’t happen (unless someone gets pregnant). It’s when things get serious that you introduce them to your family. Also, a lot of parents would prefer their children to marry someone from the same ethnic group.

Homosexuality is still illegal there, and you can go to jail for being gay.

  • Home/Family life

My parents are still happily married, and I have 3 siblings. My parents are both close to their siblings, and I’m close to mine. Me and my siblings grew up with our cousins, we were always at each other’s houses. I pretty much consider most of my cousins as extra siblings. We have a very big extended family and every day I discover new distant cousins, aunts, great-uncles etc. My dad being half-french, when I was growing up we sometimes went to France during summer to visit his relatives living there.

In Cameroon, most people who have enough money to do so send their children to study abroad once they’ve graduated high school. I’m currently living in France for my studies, and most of my high school friends are also going to college in France, England, Canada, Brussels, South Africa etc.

  • Identity issues

Despite being only ¼ white, I’m very light-skinned. My siblings being much darker skinned, when I was a kid I thought I was adopted (i’m not, it’s just genetics). Cameroon being a black country, when someone is visibly mixed and light-skinned as i am, most people just label them “white”. A lot of people would refer to me as “the white” and it always really hurt me. My family wouldn’t understand why i was so angry and hurt, they’d say “they don’t mean anything by it, it’s just that you’re light” but the fact is it made me feel like i don’t belong. I’m cameroonian, i’ve lived in Cameroon almost my entire life, i’m black, and still some people see me as “other”, they see me as white. And so for a long time, I didn’t dare to call myself black, I’d say “I’m biracial” or “I’m mixed” instead because I somehow felt like a fraud. But I’m black and not white-passing at all, and I still experience racism abroad (but I’m aware I have a lot more privilege than dark skinned people).

  • Daily struggles

So I’m currently living in France. On one hand, sometimes white people are racist toward me, or just totally obnoxious and ignorant, trying to touch my natural hair and thinking that people in Cameroon don’t have computers or whatever. On the other hand, when I randomly meet other cameroonians and we start talking, they always assume that because i’m mixed i’ve lived my entire life in France and i don’t know anything about Cameroon. And there’s nothing wrong with being a child of immigrants and not knowing the country your parents or grandparents came from, but i know that if i wasn’t visibly mixed they wouldn’t question the fact that i know Cameroon and lived there my entire life.

  • Misconceptions

Because of how the media depict African countries, a lot of people think that everyone in Africa is extremely poor and starving, that we don’t have electricity and internet and that everyone lives in huts. Which is so false. We have rich people and poor people, we have huge modern cities and regular cities and small villages with huts, almost everyone has access to a tv and internet, etc.

  • Things I’d like to see less of

Cameroon and other african countries being depicted as poor unfortunate countries where everyone is starving and illiterate and waiting for the generous white people to save us. What we need is for people to see us as the humans we are, and to allow us to grow in peace.

  • Things I’d like to see more of

Black african characters being written as the complex human beings we are. Shy black african characters. Nerdy and hella smart black african characters. Mixed black african characters who struggle with their identity. LGBTQ black african characters.

  • Tropes/Stereotypes I’m tired of seeing.

The “savage”, “uncivilized” african. African characters who are aggressive, dumb and shout all the time. The poor africans in need of saving by white people.

Read more POC Profiles here or submit your own.

justplainstinkinaverage  asked:

I recently came out as having no gender preference when it comes to partners, but I don't feel comfortable with labelling my sexuality. I was really looking forward to my first pride month this year, but I kinda feel like I'm not really part of the LGBT "group" (even though I know I am) because I don't have a label on my self. Any advice? xoxo

The queer community is so flexible & fluid that if you feel like you belong within it, that’s enough for me! Plus, it’s not like someone is at the entrance of Pride asking for your membership card, so don’t worry too much about. Just come with love & good intentions & a celebratory attitude of yourself & those around you - that’s the best way to feel like you belong at Pride.

During “Chosen Family: Stories of Queer Resilience” I had an incredible conversation with some friends about ‘not feeling queer enough’ when it comes to the LGBTQ+ community - a conversation I hope resonates with you.

Benched

Context: While I (despite being female) am usually labelled as the “Dad Friend”, during one campaign, our DM’s ACTUAL dad played with us. As such, hilarity ensued.

DM: You are attacked by a sand monster. They are closest to Fabian (paladin) and Ekmetiel (wizard). Dad, it’s your move.

Cleric(OOC): (Her aforementioned dad) What’s the closest object to me?

DM: Uh… one of the old benches.

Cleric(OOC): I sit on the bench.

DM: 

Cleric: Hey, Maeven (namely, me), want to join me?

Me: Heck yeah

DM: Okay… the cleric and the rogue are now sitting on the bench and being useless. Not to mention that Maeven made Ekemetiel summon Fabian’s horse on the other side of the room as a joke. Fabian and Ekmetiel get the feeling that they are screwed.

Demigods and Paladins 2
  • Shiro: I'm the serious and leaderly one who doesn't have a sense of humor.
  • Jason: No, that's me…
  • Lance: I'm the ladies' man who feels stronger in the water.
  • Percy: I thought that was me…?
  • Lance: But I'm also the seventh wheel.
  • Leo: Me too, buddy. I'm the mechanic.
  • Hunk: Hello, that's me, dude!
  • Leo: And I'm the jokester.
  • Lance: Well whaddaya know, so am I!
  • Leo: And I'm the short one.
  • Pidge: No comment. I'm the smart one.
  • Annabeth: Same.
  • Hunk: I'm the pudgy one.
  • Frank: Hey—
  • Allura: I'm the pretty one with multicolored eyes
  • Piper: I am NOT a label. But if I were, that'd be quite accurate.
  • Nico: I'm the angsty emo one who feels excluded because I come from scary and almost evil ancestry
  • Keith: Okay, this is starting to creep me out a little.
Aro Guide: A FAQ to end all FAQs

I have been running an aro ask blog for several years now, and often I get repeat questions from many different people. The following is my opinion, as given by someone on the internet who happens to be aro and has talked to hundreds if not thousands of aromantic people. Here’s what you need to know if you think you might be aro. 

Under the cut because this is quite long.

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I am moments away from abandoning the label of body positive. i am tired of people telling me that body positivity is about focusing on being in perfect health and having an ideal body. thin people are using body positivity to fat shame others.

i have to remind people i am fat and fighting for fat people in the body positivity movement.

fat positive. fat activism. fat acceptance.

Button Eyes

Curse

“Blind” your subject, so they no longer wish to spy upon you. This spell is a tad bit aggressive, so I am going to label it as a curse. It is based upon the Coraline book/movie.

What You’ll Need~

  • 2 buttons (Black is traditional)
  • A Needle
  • Thread (Red or Black)
  • Cloth/Paper

Procedure~

  1. Write victim’s name on the paper/cloth. Better yet, draw them, or just their face.
  2. Say (or think with intent) “Twitchy witchy little brat, with buttons on each eye, stick a needle through each hole and no longer shall they spy.”
  3. Sew on the buttons. If you drew the person/their face, preferably sew it over their eyes.
  4. Done!!!

This was me and my Queer Theory teacher at the Lav Grad ceremony at CU in 2015. Of course I made him pose for a pic :) I hope Sam realizes what a difference he has made in not just my life, but the lives of all students at CU who have struggled to understand themselves, and struggled to understand those around them.

anonymous asked:

Mira Rajput spoke at a women's day event, she basically went on to say working women's children are like puppies... why is even speaking at an event and on top of that dismissing working women's' struggles.

I don’t think that’s QUITE what she was implying with the puppy comment, but there were so many things mildly offensive about what she said:

“I am a housewife and wear that label with pride. Why can’t you be an accomplished homemaker? Accomplishing could mean anything one has their heart set on. I had a tough pregnancy, bringing Misha (seven-month-old daughter) into this world. Now, I love being at home and spending time with my child. I don’t want to spend an hour with her and then rush to work. I don’t want to spend one hour in the day with my child and then rush off to work. Why did I have her then? I want to be there for her as a mother. Seeing her grow up can’t be quantified. She is my baby, not a puppy.”

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a homemaker, if that’s her choice. But it’s easy to make that choice when you have an insane amount of economic privilege to help you “make” your home. You can accomplish a lot when you have maids and nannies at your disposal. Most women work because they have to, not because they don’t want to spend more time with their kids.

And it’s insulting for women who want to work, as well. I mean, I grew up with a single mother who worked and went to uni at the same time, and I wasn’t…abandoned? I did not need my mom around 24/7, she didn’t miss out on my childhood, and it was good for me to see her work. It’s a positive thing for children, especially daughters, to see their mothers accomplishing things professionally. Shockingly, a lot of women have identities outside of being a mother, and just because they have children doesn’t mean they can’t pursue their own goals as well. Asking why you’d have a kid just to go to work is just…rude. Not to mention easy to say when you’re a millionaire and don’t have to consider your financial obligations to your child.

You’re right, I have no idea why she was asked to speak. She’s done nothing remarkable to qualify her to speak on women’s issues. If she just left it at being proud of her own decision to stay home with her baby, that’d be fine, and that’s a completely valid decision. But her justification was just…completely tone-deaf (and honestly, reflective of the fact that she grew up rich and probably doesn’t know much about the realities of being a middle/working class mother).

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Gay Music Chart Awards 2016 : the nominations

Here are the nominees :

BEST SONG

Adam Lambert - Another Lonely Night

Alvin Point - Il a dit

Eli Lieb, Steve Grand - Look Away

GAREK - Stray

LP - Lost On You

Markus Feehily - Sanctuary

Sia - The Greatest

Steve Grand - We are the Night (Dave Aude Remix)

Tegan & Sara - Boyfriend

Troye Sivan - Youth

Tyler Glenn - Trash

Years & Years - Meteorite

 

BEST SONG / MUSIC VIDEO WITH A MESSAGE

A Song For Orlando – Hands

Asbjørn - BOY PWR

Benny - Boys Will Be Boys

BP Major - Divine Cure

Daff - Glitterpojke

Danielle LoPresti - Holy

Erik Blood - Chase the Clouds

FLETCHER – Princess

Greg Gould - Run To You (#KeepRunning)

Immanuel Casto, Romina Falconi - Who is afraid of Gender?

K3 - Prinsesje en Superman

Pansy Division - Blame It On The Bible

 

BEST ARTIST

ANOHNI

Brendan Maclean

Eli Lieb

Garek

LP

Ryan Cassata

Sia

Steve Grand

Tegan & Sara

Troye Sivan

Tyler Glenn

Years & Years

 

MOST PROMISING ARTIST

6 Pack Band feat. Sonu Nigam - Sab Rab De Bande

Alvin Point

Billy Gilman

Brian Justin Crum

Kevin Abstract

Lontalius

Lostchild

Oscar Zia

Ro Rowan

Saara Aalto

 

BEST GAY MUSIC VIDEO

Alvin Point - Il a dit

Cristal Snow - Love is Blind

Eli Lieb, Steve Grand - Look Away

GAREK – Stray

Miike Snow - Genghis Khan

Markus Feehily - Sanctuary

Osvaldo Supino – Infinity

Patricio Arellano - Nuevo Sol

ROXETTE - Some other summer (fan video)

Tyler Glenn - Midnight

 

BEST LESBIAN MUSIC VIDEO

Dodie - Sick of Losing Soulmates

LP - Lost On You (1033 pts)

Mary Lambert - Hang Out With You

Matilda feat. OMVR – Apologize

Ria Mae – Gold

Rooms - Stars Beyond

SEE – Potions

Tegan and Sara – Boyfriend

The Veronicas - On Your Side

Zolita - Holy

 

BEST BISEXUAL MUSIC VIDEO

Alicia Champion - Bi

Edward Barrow - Toi, elle et moi

Jarryd James feat. Broods - 1000x

Ricky Rebel - Boys & Sometimes Girls

Silva - Feliz e Ponto

 

BEST TRANSGENDER MUSIC VIDEO

6 Pack Band feat. Sonu Nigam - Sab Rab De Bande

CorsA - Hiding Love

Declan McKenna – Paracetamol

MaDame Düx - Say Goodbye

Pooh – Pierre

Ray BLK feat. SG Lewis - Chill Out

Ro Rowan – 1997

Ryan Cassata - Bedroom Eyes

Sunkee Angel - I Am Not a Label

The Parkinson - เพื่อนรัก (Dear Friend)

 

BEST QUEER MUSIC VIDEO

Autoheart - Oxford Blood

Brendan Maclean - Free to Love

Kiddy Smile - Let A B!tch Know

Madblush - Love Love Love

Mykki Blanco feat, Woodkid - High School Never Ends

Of Montreal - It’s Different For Girls

Peaches – Vaginoplasty

PWR BTTM - I Wanna Boi

Tanzer - Johnny

Years & Years - Meteorite

 

BEST DRAG QUEEN MUSIC VIDEO

Alaska Thunderfuck – Anus

Aretuza Lovi feat. Gloria Groove – Catuaba

Athena - Ses Etme

Bob The Drag Queen feat. DJ Mitch Ferrino - Purse First

Kika Lorace - Arriba, Maricón

Låpsley - Operator (DJ Koze Radio Edit)

Lorena Herrera - Karma

Manila Luzon & Alaska Thunderfuck - Working Holiday

RuPaul - The Realness

Sharon Needles - Hollywoodn’t

 

BEST COMING-OUT / COMING OF AGE MUSIC VIDEO

Cors A - Hiding Love

Declan McKenna - Paracetamol

FLETCHER – Princess

Hampus Carlsson - Flera Meter Under Marken

Lontalius – Glow

Lost American - Put Me in a Spell

Pixie Geldof - Woman Go Wild

Tom Goss - Son of a Preacher Man

Troye Sivan – Youth

Yossarian - Talking Too Loud

 

BEST COVER

Art Attack - Same Love

Betty Who - I Love You Always Forever

Emmanuel Moire - Le chanteur

GoodLuck - Thinking About You

J Sutta - Damn! (I Wish I Was Your Lover)

Marina & The Diamonds - True Colours

Michael von der Heide & Paola - Wo ist das Land

Pentatonix - Hallelujah

Pentatonix & Dolly Parton - Jolene

Prep School - Come As You Are

Samuel Forstved - Into You

Tom Goss - Son of a Preacher Man

 

BEST LIVE PERFORMANCE

Agata Vilchik / Агата Вильчик - Oy davno / “Ой, давно” - live @ The Voice Ukraine

Bagarre - La bête voit rouge (live @ Eurockéennes de Belfort 2016)

Billy Gilman - all acts @ The Voice 2016

Brian Justin Crum - all acts @ America’s Got Talent 2016

Douwe Bob - Slow Down (live @ Eurovision Song Contest 2016)

Hovi Star - Made Of Stars (live @ Eurovision Song Contest 2016)

Jan Cina - Hung Up (cover) live @ Tvoje tvář má známý hlas 2016

Melissa Etheridge - Pulse (live @ Infinity Hall, New York, 2016)

Oscar Zia – Human (live @ Melodifestivalen 2016)

Troye Sivan - Blue Neighbourhood Tour

 

BEST DANCE / CHOREOGRAPHY

Gay Acrobats Create Stunning Visual Art - THE ARROW [Love. Pride. Truth.]

Lyon Hart - Falling For You

Sia - Cheap Thrills

Sia - The Greatest

X Ambassadors - UNSTEADY | Official Dance Video #LoveisLove

You & Me: coming out a passo di danza (Italia’s Got Talent)

 

BEST ORIGINAL SOUNDTRACK

Anh Tú - Giấc Mơ Không Nhoà (“Thần Tiên Cũng Nỗi Điên” OST)

Dean Fujioka - History Maker (“Yuri On Ice” Opening OST)

J. Ralph & Anohni (F.K.A. Antony) - Manta Ray (“Racing Extinction” OST)

Nat Sakdatorn - ความหมายที่หายไป / Khwam hmay thi hay pi phelng (OST Fathers) (2016)

Years & Years - Meteorite (“Bridget Jones Baby” OST)

許魏洲 / Xu Weizhou - 慢慢走 / Walk Slowly (《上癮》 / “addiction” OST) (2016)

 

BEST LYRIC VIDEO

A Song for Orlando - Hands (Lyric Video)

Isaac Folch feat. Eyzzex - Howling (3D lyric video)

Mc Linn da Quebrada - Talento (Lyric Video)

Melissa Etheridge - Respect Yourself (Lyric Video)

Pet Shop Boys - The Pop Kids (Lyric Video)

Sia feat. Sean Paul - Cheap Thrills (Lyric Video)

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM ARGENTINA

Gray Pop - El es©eloso REMIX

Patricio Arellano - Nuevo Sol

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM AUSTRALIA

Betty Who - I Love You Always Forever

Brendan Maclean - Free To Love

Greg Gould - Run To You (#KeepRunning)

Sia - The Greatest

The Veronicas - On Your Side

Troye Sivan - Youth

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM AUSTRIA

Andreas Gabalier - Hulapalu

Sankil Jones - One More Sound

Virginia Ernst - If Not Tonight

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM BELGIUM

Els De Schepper - Kom uit de Kast

K3 - Prinsesje en Superman

LaDiva Live - Love Is On Its Way

Regi & Sem Thomasson feat. LX - The Party Is Over (DJ Antoine vs Mad Mark 2k16 Video Edit)

Selah Sue - Reason

The Magician feat. Brayton Bowman - Shy

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM BRAZIL

Aretuza Lovi feat. Gloria Groove - Catuaba

Jaloo - Chuva

Madblush - Love Love Love

MC Queer - Fiscal

Pollo feat. Joey Mattos - Hoje Eu Acordei

Silva - Feliz e Ponto

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM BULGARIA

AZIS - HABIBI (latino version) / Азис - Хабиби (латино версия).

Galena & TS. Yaneva feat. Azis - Pey Sartse / Галена и Цветелина Янева ft. Азис - Пей, сърце

Slavi, Gumzata & Ku-Ku Band - Byagay / Слави, Гъмзата и Ку-Ку Бенд - Бягай

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM CANADA

Kaytranada - Lite Spots

Lucky Rose feat. Yan Etchevary - The Way You Want Me

Peaches - Vaginoplasty

Ria Mae - Gold

Scotty Dynamo - Not Like You

Tegan and Sara - Boyfriend

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM CHILE

Alex Anwandter - Siempre es viernes en mi corazón

El Virgo - Malviaje Astral

Namuel - Maldita Ingenuidad

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM CHINA

胡齡萌Hu Ling Meng - 從現在到以From Now To The Past

尚雯婕 Laure Shang - 单身男Single Boy

李嘉格Lee JiaGe - 淪陷 Degenerate

馬寧 Manning - 反正都是我 Fanzheng dou shi wo

柳妍熙 Liu Yan Xi - 谁记得 Who Remembered

許魏洲 Xu Weizhou - 慢慢走 Walk Slowly (Addiction OST)

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM CZECH REPUBLIC

Jan Bendig - Coming Out

Lipo feat. Debbi - Štěstí

Renato Salerno - Love Emergency


BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM DENMARK

Asbjørn - BOY PWR

HEIÐRIK  - Change of Frame

HEIÐRIK  - Red Hair

Jonas Hedqvist - Survivors

Maia - Tordenkys

Martin Strecker - Hvis Du Kysser Min Hånd

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM FINLAND

Cristal Snow - Love Is Blind

Cristal Snow - Riding The Storm

Jari Sillanpää - Suurempaa

Saara Aalto - No Fear

 BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM FRANCE

Alvin Point - Il a dit

David Courtin - Main dans la main

Edward Barrow - Toi, elle et moi

Kiddy Smile - Let A B!tch Know

Les Funambules - Au début

Queen Mimosa 3 - Sexophone

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM GERMANY

Alexander Geist & Ming Wong with Bendik Giske - That Girl

BILLY - Not Over You

DJ Hell - I Want U

Jan Böhmermann - Be Deutsch! [Achtung! Germans on the rise!]

Maksim Reimer & Band - You Found Me

Matthew Wood - One Life

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM GREECE

Giorgis Christodoulou Γιώργης Χριστοδούλου - To proí me xypnas me filia /  - Το πρωί με ξυπνάς με φιλιά

Nikos Karvelas /Νίκος Καρβέλας - O Skilos Mou Einai Gay / Ο σκύλος μου είναι Gay

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM ICELAND

Bjartmar Þórðarson - Við getum sameinast

Páll Óskar - Þá mætir þú til mín

Páll Óskar - Vinnum þetta fyrirfram

Sigur Rós - Óveður

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM INDIA

6 Pack Band feat. Sonu Nigam - Sab Rab De Bande

Aman100 - Bapu Sada Kehnda

Friends of Linger - Miss You

Kapoor & Sons | Sidharth Malhotra | Alia Bhatt | Badshah | Amaal Mallik |Fazilpuria - Kar Gayi Chull

Nakash Aziz - India ke sare gay

Nanok feat. Ray Dee - Lay You Down

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM IRELAND

Jack O'Rourke - On The Downlow

Markus Feehily - Sanctuary

Nathan Carter - Temple Bar

Villagers - Wichita Lineman

Wallis Bird - Change

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM ISRAEL

Eliad Makli - God / אליעד מלכי- שה

Hovi Star - Made of Stars

Offer Nissim feat. Dana International - We Can Make It

Pet Shop Boys - The Pop Kids (Offer Nissim Remix) Purim Tribute

Sean and John - Agada / Legend" (שון אנד ג׳ון עם אריסה - אגדה)

Tel Aviv Pride Parade 2016 / Omer Adam feat. Arisa - Tel Aviv / עומר אדם עם אריסה - תל אביב

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM ISRAEL

Alex Palmieri - Save Me

Immanuel Casto, Romina Falconi - Who is Afraid of Gender?

Luna Palumbo - Casomai

Osvaldo Supino - Infinity

Pooh - Pierre

Simonetta Spiri, Greta Manuzi, Verdiana Zangaro, Roberta Pompa - L'amore merita

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM JAPAN

AKB48 - Kimi wa Melody / 君はメロディー

Dean Fujioka - History Makers

Enjoy Music Club - Summer Magic《 夏の魔法 》

Hikaru Utada 「宇多田ヒカル」- Tomodachi 「ともだち」

Secret Guys - Sky March

風男塾 (Fudanjuku) / もしも これが恋な ら (Moshimo korega koinara)

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM MEXICO

Daniela Calvario - Marchate

Kinky - Macho

Lorena Herrera - Karma

Luis Lauro - Adios (So Long)

Reik - Ya Me Enteré

Thiago Di Melo - Pra Sempre

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM THE NETHERLANDS

Belinda Jose en Denise - Oya Lélé

Douwe Bob - Slow Down

Ivann - Ik geloof in jou

Koen Kardashian - Met je Prada’s in de modder

Vangelis Sopamena - Voor Ons

Vicetone - Hawt Stuff

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM NEW ZEALAND

Ladyhawke - A Love Song  

LarzRanda - Turtles

Lontalius - Glow

Mika Haka feat. Lavina Williams - Loved Me A Man

WCB - Overdone

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM NORWAY

Anna of the North - Us

Kygo feat. Maty Noyes - Stay

Master Mind - Electric

Matilda feat. OMVR- Apologize

Nils Bech - Please Stay

The Hungry Hearts - Laika

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM THE PHILIPPINES

Bassilyo - Taxi Driver

Sebastian Castro - Feel the Bern

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM POLAND

Jakub & Dawid VS ROXETTE - Some Other Summer (fan video)

Koy – Faces

Sexy Suicide - Never Forget

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM RUSSIA

CorsA - Hiding in Love

Drift - I Fled The Horizon

Kevin2K - YA budu letet’ / Я буду лететь

KGBears -Eksponat / Piece “Экспонат” (Eksponat / Piece)

Man-G / Менджи - Chocolate Boys / Мальчики-Шоколадки

Pussy Riot feat. Desi Mo & Leikeli47 - Straight Outta Vagina

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM SOUTH AFRICA

Chris Chameleon - Hurt

Die Antwoord - Banana Brain

GoodLuck - Thinking About You

Nakhane Touré - Blackened and Bruised

The Kiffness feat. Tawanna Shaunte - You Say You Love Me

Toya Delazy - Nu High

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM SOUTH KOREA

Brave Girls (브레이브걸스) - High Heels (하이힐)

Gain, Minseo (가인, 민서) - Imi Oneun Sori (임이 오는 소리)

MERCURY - Don’t Stop

SISTAR (씨스타), Giorgio Moroder - One More Day

Sweet Revenge (스윗리벤지) - Silkeos uldaga bomyeon (실컷 울다가 보면)

Wonder Girls - Why So Lonely

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM SPAIN

Creadores de la Memoria - Álex

Kika Lorace - Arriba, Maricón

Loquillo - En el final de los días

Mateo Bocca - Quisiera Volar

Monica Moss - Woololeiu #ChicaFina

Yeyo - Invencible

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM SWEDEN

Ängie - Smoke Weed Eat Pussy

Daff - Glitterpojke

Hampus Carlsson - Flera Meter Under Marken

Midnight Boy - When You’re Strange

Miike Snow - Genghis Khan

Oscar Zia - Human

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM TAIWAN

Gu Xiaowei 古小偉- Be Brave 【一起勇敢】

Jeffrey Tung (董又霖) - Don’t Wanna Be a Stranger《不做陌生人》 [SWAP - OST ]

Kimberley Chen 陳芳語 - Control Your Embrace / 《管你的擁抱 fyf 》

Namewee  黃明志 - Cry Father 靠北

Wen J - Indifferent【無動於衷】

Zhan Ya man 詹雅雯  - Nobody Understood My Love 無人瞭解我的愛

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM THAILAND

Gun Achi, Amp - Kwahm Lub Nai Jai / กันอชิ,แอมป์ - ความลับในใจ (Ost. SOTUS The Series)

Happy Polla - Happy

Nat Sakdatorn - “Meaning Lost” ความหมายที่หายไป (OST Fathers)

OZMO Feat BangBangBang + Bsyde - Higher

The Parkinson - เพื่อนรัก (Dear Friend)

ปนัดดา เรืองวุฒิ / Panadda 「 รักไปเจ็บไปไม่เอา / Rak pi ceb pi mi xea / I Love to Go Out」

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM TURKEY

Athena - Ses Etme

Bambaşka Biri ft. Yasin Keleş - İrem Derici

Makyaj - Nuri Harun Ateş

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM UKRAINE

Agatha Vilchik / Агата Вильчик – Hallelujah (Live @ The Voice Ukraine 2016)

AGHIAZMA - Zombie Dogs

Gaspar - Kings & Queens

Jamala - 1944

JeleZOO - I feel i’m taken away

Loboda - K Chertu Lyubov / Лобода - К Черту Любовь

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM THE UNITED KINGDOM

ANOHNI - Drone Bomb Me

Blood Orange - Augustine

David Bowie - Lazarus

Shura - What’s It Gonna Be?

Vince Kidd - Almost Angels

Years & Years - Meteorite

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM THE USA (ARTISTS ON BIG LABELS)

A Great Big World - Won’t Stop Running

Adam Lambert - Another Lonely Night

Alex Newell & DJ Cassidy (with Nile Rodgers) - Kill The Lights

Brooke Candy - Happy Days

Coheed and Cambria - Island

Hayley Kiyoko - One Bad Night

LP - Lost On You (2016)

Tyler Glenn - Midnight (2016)

Tyler Glenn - Shameless

Wrabel - 11 Blocks

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM THE USA (ARTISTS ON INDEPENDANT LABELS)

Brian Justin Crum - Name On You

Case / Lang / Veirs - Atomic Number

Catey Shaw - The Ransom

Kevin Abstract - Empty

Mykki Blanco Featuring Woodkid ‎– High School Never Ends

Prinze George - Wait Up

PWR BTTM - I Wanna Boi

Rostam - Gravity Don’t Pull Me

SEE - Potions

Sxip Shirey feat. Xavier - Cinnamon Stick

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM THE USA (INDEPENDANT ARTISTS)

Benny - Boys Will Be Boys

Chester Lockhart - Kiss

Eli Lieb, Steve Grand - Look Away

Frank Ocean - Nikes

GAREK - Stray

Lyon Hart - Falling for You

Mary Lambert - Hang Out With You

Steve Grand - We Are The Night

Todrick Hall - Straight Outta Oz

Tom Goss - Son of a Preacher Man

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM URUGUAY

Dani Umpi - La Yuta

Goro Gocher - No Podrás Salir

Jack Doorman - Wet

Kevin Royk - Ángel de Plata

 

BEST MUSIC VIDEO FROM VIETNAM

Anh Tú - Giấc Mơ Không Nhoà

Đàm Vĩnh Hưng - Tan Vỡ

Hương Giang Idol - Mùa Để Yêu Thương

Hương Giang Idol feat. R.Tee - Em Không Hối Tiếc

Khắc Việt - Em Cứ Đi Đi

Phạm Chí Thành - Sợ Hãi

FANS, FAME AND THE WHOLE CRAZY GAME

Remember when you were a kid and you couldn’t wait for your birthday party? These were usually done outdoors around a picnic table, and you had cake, ice cream, and played a great round of pin the tail on the donkey. There was always one kid who could never could tag that damn donkey and always hit the wall instead?? We would laugh and squee, but everyone had fun because it wasn’t serious, and at the end of the game, everyone just had more cake!!

It’s funny how adults can take something fun and frivolous, and turn it into The Hunger Games, with full body ammo. But the weapon of choice becomes a keyboard and an anonymous face that operates under a cloak because it’s easier to fire on your “enemy” when you can’t see them. It ceases to be a game the minute it becomes personal, and for some, it is more than personal. It’s downright psycho! The “I am right, hear me roar” mentality is very much alive in the world, and I tend to view those folks the same way I view network news…with head shaking and lots of eyerolling!! Self importance is NOT a good look for anyone!

I have been part of the OL fandom for 3 years now, and 2 of those on Tumblr and IG. I really don’t tweet because, well, that’s where it appears the loonies are!! I am a huge fan of the OL books, and the show. I think it is high quality TV. And, I am a fan of everyone who puts this together for me…the fan. Oh, there are times I might not like a storyline, or the way Jamie’s hair looked in the early episodes of S2, but that does not make me a bad fan. It just means that I care enough in my little corner of the world to pay attention to these little details, and if I get to wound up with myself, then I can change the channel, or just except it for the entertainment it really is. It’s a TV show FFS!! We are not curing cancer (yet), which is far more important than this stuff.

As far as fans go, I am one. These labels are about as ridiculous as it gets…shippers, “extreme ” shippers, “hardy” shippers, anti’s, and NST’s, “truthers” (what the hell is that one anyway), average, neutral, book only, IG only….you name it, and there’s a label for it. Since the labels are so all fired important to some in this fandom, then I am a Shipper. I happen to like sunshine and rainbows, lemons and doodles, fun and caring friendships, and yes, even the fairytale ending. Why anyone would want to take the time and effort to rain on my rosy parade is beyond me, but those opinions make no difference to me. I like what I like, and no amount of teeth knashing and stomping around the sandbox will change my mind.

At the end of the day, I have yet to meet anyone in this fandom who works for OL, and I am not personally acquainted with the leads, live in their neighborhood, or have access to their private accounts. I simply fan what I see, and enjoy it all for the entertainment it is to me….the fan. And, if you are one of the anointed ones with access to any the above, well good for you. Maybe you should host a weekly video chat so that we can all get the juicy details.

Wouldn’t it be awesome if everyone just “fanned” for the hell of it, and stopped trying to “speak” for everyone else?? The “blame game” has run its course, and everyone needs to flip that mirror. After all, it’s the only way to find the donkey so you know where to put the tail. And remember, the tail really does goes on the back. It’s not there to wag the mouth!!

Happy Tuesday to all of the OL fans out there, even the ones who have forgotten what it’s like to have fun! Fan on!!

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Hello, I’m just going to give a brief overview of my road to identifying as non binary.
I don’t think I have ever felt fully set in big a boy. I didn’t dislike being a boy, but it didn’t really fit well on me. Before college, I started toying with the idea of being a girl. This was somewhat appealing, but also didn’t seem like it would fit right. I also was not against identifying as a boy enough to think about identifying as a girl in a serious way at all.
As I got to college and became exposed to new queer theories and ideas, I realized that gender is not a binary and the range of gender identities are infinite. This lead me to begin analyzing myself honestly.
After many conversations and a lot of deep thinking, I finally realized the reason that I didn’t feel too attached to being a bot or girl, or even a non binary gender is because I don’t really have any inclination to a gender identity at all.
I love playing with gender through my gender expression, but I feel no attachment to a gender identity. I am not one rot labels, as they can be very restricting, but the closest thing I can relate my experience to is being agender.
With this being said, I do identity with being under the non binary and trans umbrella, because I am not in the gender binary.
Being able to relate to so many people in this space and IRL is so amazing and something I want to cultivate and add to!

Dan and Phil could literally come out and say something like, "we got married" and some people would be like, "well that doesn't mean they are in a relationship. They could just be doing in for finical reason"

The weird thing is. A small number of the people who say that, claim to be shippers themselves. They just emphatically deny the possibility that the ship could be “canon”.

It’s in a way, homophobic to assume that everyone is straight and it’s equally (if not more) fucked up, to accuse any person who indicates they are anything but straight, of “queerbaiting”.

The idea that to be a true LGBT+ person you have time formerly “come out” and say “I am [insert label here]” is wrong.
It ignores circumstance and enforces the idea the queerness is “unnatural”.
Making and formal coming out video is fine. But it’s also okay not to say “I am [insert label here]”
By just talking in passing about attraction to the ‘same’ sex, it is normalized


Okay I got off on real tangent here.
Not gonna read through this as my break is almost over

anonymous asked:

Finally he's welcomed by a label of Twitter like the rest of the guys. I'm so happy Anna. I hope he'll have only good things.

I am so happy too! And the label has really great names on it and the CEO seems very smart also it’s a woman who campaigned to have Louis I cannot be more proud!!! And the faces of everyone in that pic being so happy to have him 😍😍 even if its just a distribution deal in US or whatever louis deserves to be loved by the people who work with him, appreciated and supported and I hope this is just the beginning and that they announced this deal today because they can start giving him the World he deserves.

A polyamory construction metaphor

Everyone wants to put labels on the type of polyamory that they practice. Solo, anarchical, hierarchical, too many to even list. 

I am often asked how we label our relationship. I usually try to respond with a non-committal “why label it”

And then I came across a posting on FetLife that was an interesting take on it. I won’t go into the whole post, but if you are on the site, it was written by “inthesilence” 

Her point is that she dislikes grading of partners into primary, secondary, and the like. But she’s also married so there’s naturally a level of hierarchy.  

She came up with a metaphor that is pretty good explanation of a type of poly that may appeal to people. 

Allow me to give you the TL;DR version:

Having a relationship is like building a house. You lay a foundation and build rooms that make sense to you. Eventually, you decide that you want a room for her and a room for him. 

There are many ways that you can add-on to your house. You can allow people in temporarily, tell them it’s your house and your rules; you can allow each other to build additions, as long as everyone agrees to the exact plans and veto anyone who deviates from those plans; or you can allow each other the freedom to bring in new builders and allow those new projects to turn out as they would, and hope that they will be complementary. 

For her, she chose the third option (which is admittedly scarier)

So you don’t dictate the architecture of the extensions. Sometimes you hear of the plans and can say “OK, that sounds interesting. Have you really thought that through?” And then listen to each other, because sometimes it does work out. 

The fact of the matter is that the house we built together has been around for a lot longer than any of the extensions have been. So there’s a history that the rest of the house can’t match. 

However, just because you have more real estate, and construction experience, you shouldn’t go around smashing windows in another part of the house. You’re just damaging other people’s rooms, and in doing so, creating a draft that would inevitably make it’s way back to the main house. 

It would be silly for other builders to not respect the experience of the original designer by whacking a great home that had stood for years before they got there. Likewise, it doesn’t make sense to take on too many projects at once, or at a time when an existing project is developing some cracks.   

To sum up: to be good builders, you need to ensure that you build carefully, with the right tools, with the right co-builders, and at the right time. 


I don’t know that this captures my relationship status, but it’s worth starting a discussion.