Be honest with yourself and with others. There are two ways you can immediately start to do this.
1. If somebody asks you how you’re feeling and you’re not feeling great, say so. You don’t have to elaborate. Just start with a simple exchange: “Hey, are you alright?” “No, not really.” In time this will help you address what’s bothering you before it can hurt you deeply. It will not occur immediately, so don’t expect a deep impact the second you admit you feel bad.
2. If you are comforting somebody who is crying or upset in general, don’t say “It’s okay”. It’s not okay. They are not crying for no reason. They are crying because they have been hurt. Simply say, “It’s not okay right now, but I am here with you, and you will be better soon.” Do not instill false hope in somebody that their pain will go away in the blink of an eye. Acknowledge that life sucks at the moment, but also acknowledge that it won’t continue to suck forever.
i'm right there w you on the mac debate. ppl headcanoning him as pan just because of carmen is so transphobic and awful lmao suggesting that she's not a woman and instead some other gender???? and like the writing is set up intentionally to let the audience know that mac is GAY and it's so problematic to take that from him lmaoooo
IT’S DISCOURSE O’CLOCK you are so 100% right! I personally especially hate when people erase his sexuality because Mac’s narrative about being gay is one that’s very real to a lot of gay people out there but it’s rarely represented in television at all. Usually, gay storylines about being closeted is written as a problem for gay youth, a problem that they can either get over in one episode where they come out to everyone or The One Person Whose Opinion Really Matters, and then it’s over and done and they don’t have to worry about coming out ever again. Or they try to come out, get mocked, brushed off, hurt or worse, and spend the rest of the season/show in misery (or a hospital bed).
Mac’s storyline isn’t that, though. Mac’s a 40 year old man who’s lived his whole life in the closet, who hasn’t been able to accept himself yet, not because of something external but because of himself, which is what other showrunners tend to forget; that gay character’s sexualities are something that belongs to them, and not just something that’s about how it affects those around them. Mac’s sexuality storyline is a complete reverse from what’s usually shown; those close to him are supportive of who he is, without trying to force him out of the closet, while Mac is the one keeping himself there. It’s a very important thing to show if you ask me, that the issues that come with being gay aren’t just external, but very internal and personal as well. Having a character who’s forcibly still in the closet by their own doing, who’s dated and slept with people of the opposite gender out of fear or self-hatred, whose whole storyline doesn’t revolve around being a miserable closet case but still points out that it’s because of hypermasculinity and heteronormativity that this person is suffering, is rare and real and important. And it’s deeply disrespectful and ignorant to erase it.
i know there are a tonne of these but i just need to tell people how much I love, adore and respect Min Yoongi. He’s pretty much laid his heart out on an international platform for us and honestly like he’s been through so much I am so proud of him for what he’s done, what he’s doing and what he’ll do in the future.
I’m honoured that he has decided to share himself with us. Please continue to support and love him as well as the rest of bangtan.
I've felt for a while now that IF Arthur is on long enough, they will have lgbt representation sooner or later. And I, for one, have always been very hopeful that it ends with Ratburn and Bailey getting together.