Can I ask for some prayers on a private prayer request please? Something horrible happened in my family tonight (it’s not about me directly or I would tell yall) and I’m way way way in over my head and out of my depths dealing with this. This person needs some serious prayers (and some for my own mental wellbeing in trying to help would be much appreciated as well)

why do people like to use the whole “adam and eve not adam and steve” against gays like need i remind you that adam and eve had one job but they screwed that up and plunged humanity into sin like they aren’t exactly the poster couple for a healthy relationship

anonymous asked:

Sometimes I'm scared to tell people that I'm a heterosexual Christian because I'm afraid they'll automatically assume I'm unaccepting and homophobic when really I'm actually very accepting and willing to learn and correct any mistakes or misunderstandings I might have or make and I just want everyone to know that people like that are out there

Lol well just say that, and let them determine that on their own. If you’re willing to accept people for who they are, that’s best shown through your actions and through your future words. Automatic assumption and judgment is exactly the thing many people in the LGBTQIA+ community deal with allllllll the time.

you know what? it’s exhausting, deconstructing the systems of oppression in our culture, day after day. checking and rechecking your every thought, media consumption, conversation for the ways you’re enacting systemic violence or oppression or marginalization or whatever else. it’s hard, constantly dealing with the dominant structures. it sucks.

but you know what? as a white, educated, middle class, cis-presenting, able-bodied, Christian, American natural-born citizen, i get the choice to not think about that shit. it’s an option for me to sit back and not think about it and live my life.

it’s not a choice for folks who are oppressed. 

people of color, queer folks, gender non-conforming folks, undocumented folk, immigrants, homeless folks, lower class folks, folks of religions not supported by the dominant culture, disabled folks, and others – these people don’t get the choice to not think about the fact that they, in their very existence, are contrary to the cultural standards and structures we live in. people of color don’t get to not think about/deal with racism. queer folks don’t get to not think about/deal with homophobia. trans and gender non-conforming folks don’t get to not think about/deal with transphobia. undocumented folks don’t get to not think about/deal with xenophobia. disabled folks don’t get to not think about/deal with ableism.

friends, we need to fucking shut up. and by we, i’m talking to folks with privilege. i might be queer as fuck and not want to discuss my gender, but i benefit from enormous amounts of privilege in this country and i am talking to all those white people, straight people, middle class people, etc etc etc. you know who you are. you do. even if you don’t want to admit it.

i’m sorry you have to deal with these realities. they’re fucking shitty. i get it. but it is a ridiculous, r i d i c u l o u s concept for us to complain about or get tired of our personal responsibility to deal with it. if you’re going to complain or cry about something, cry about the reality of oppression and then take a page from Audre Lorde’s book and actually do something productive with your guilt or anger. don’t you dare cry about you personally having to work with this – it’s enormously privileged to whine about the fact that you were #blessed and you gotta help out the people you’re benefiting off of. i’m sorry you had to wake up to these horrors, but you do not get any sort of sadness points for being sad you have to actually work through the horror – there are untold numbers of people who have been living with it while you’ve been asleep.

anonymous asked:

Who is Christian ?? I'm trying to find out about him but there is nothing about him??

There’s tons of info out there about Christian, it’s one of the perks of being an idol. You just gotta know where to look :3

Name: Christian Yu (His birth name is Yu Barom, but he prefers going by his English name) Former stage name: Rome, and also occasionally goes by Ian

Age: 26 (1990, he’ll be 27 in September)

Born and raised in Sydney, Australia, he’s much more comfortable and confident speaking English.

Former leader and rapper of the disbanded boygroup C-Clown. There were tons of legality issues and questions about the disbandment since only a few of the member’s contracts were terminated. But for legal reasons, Christian explained that he left because the company turned him into someone he wasn’t and decided to leave the group, however, he couldn’t tell the fans any more information to protect his members from the company.

Here’s a little gem from the age of C-Clown Christian’s the first rapper at 0:17

Currently a member of DPR crew as a director and chief editor + IAN Visuals (Dream Regime Perfect) which is an independent multi-media and genre group. Although he is no longer pursuing a music career Christian found love and a talent for editing and directing. 

He’s director/edited

All of DPR Live’s MV

Bobby- Holdup

Eung Freestyle

Phantom’s Could You Be Mine

Amber’s Boarders

Funfacts: He’s garnered tons of tattoos after leaving C-Clown (as do many idols once they leave their former company) he likes to do boxing (which was worked into the choreography of C-Clown’s Justice MV) And he’s always vaping on Insta~

Edit/Funfact addition: He’s also an amazing b-boy. He got his start on youtube and there’s still videos of his dancing on there.

(Shoutout to the Anon for the last one :3)

If something doesn’t apply to you, then you have no right to speak on behalf of a whole group that is affected by it. When women, the LGBTQ+ community, the mentally/physically disabled, Muslims, immigrants, POCs, etc. say that they are offended or that they are hurt or being disrespected or being oppressed or that they are fearing for their lives, fucking LISTEN TO THEM. Believe me, they know a hell of a lot more about their oppressions than you do.

So stop telling minorities that there’s nothing to fear or that if we just do everything the “right” way we’ll be fine. Not everything is so black and white and to act like it is is just showing that you are coming from a position of privilege that, unfortunately, not everybody has.

Stop telling minorities how to feel about what is going on around them and what is happening to them. They shouldn’t have to feel these horrible things- nobody should- but they are. The least you can do is realize that their feelings are valid and try to help them.

Stop telling minorities, “Oh, well, I’m an [insert minority group here] and [blah blah blah] doesn’t hurt/offend/scare me.” Because yeah, it’s great that you are in a position of privilege/power where you aren’t being affected by these things, but use that position to help others and just acknowledge the fact that not everybody has the same luxuries that you do.

Just because you can’t see or understand the magnitude of what is going on, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t happening. It just means that it isn’t happening to you. (at least not to the same extent as other people are)

Instead of telling minorities how to feel, listen to us. Open up your eyes. Don’t stay ignorant. Try to understand the viewpoint of different minorities and realize that although you will never truly be able to, you will have at least a tiny bit more of an understanding- you will gain some sort of compassion by doing so. Then find a way (or ways) to join in the fight for justice and equality.

anonymous asked:

Have you heard of ex gays/lesbians? I'm a Christian and believe in God and I've been thinking about it and what if by God's help our desires can fade away and we can become normal

No. God created us to be how we are. I fought who I was for 22 years - 4 of those so hard that I wanted to die. God wouldn’t put that on me. I prayed constantly, nothing changed. When I did finally let go and be myself, God brought love into my life. I stopped fighting myself and was so happy. He created me to feel violated whenever a man touched me or even kissed me, no matter how much I trusted them. He created me to cry over fearing that I was incapable of love, when I forced myself to date men and never felt like myself. The eating disorders and depression that I dealt with because I hated who I was? No God would do that for a lesson. Not a God I believe in. My God does that to show us His path. Don’t let a book written by man ever tell you how God made you to be. He makes no mistakes and He wants you to experience love the way He intended. He wouldn’t allow you to be miserable just to fit into a standard. He made you to be you and He isn’t going to change that - that was HIS plan… not the church’s, not the Bible’s. Trust that and you’ll see how He provides. Being gay, bisexual, transgender, etc. IS normal. It’s the cult-like practices and teachings that are not.

In the queer community, the quest for wholeness is letting go of the lies of homophobia that suggest that because I am in love with someone of the same sex that God is looking at me as “less than” or – to use a biblical term that’s often hurled at members of the LGBTQ community – that somehow you are not simply a sinner, but that you are a reprobate sinner; and to be reprobate is to be beyond redemption… And so what I’m suggesting, what I am arguing, what I’m declaring in my book is that that is not the case – that God indeed does love you; and I am giving the LGBTQ community an opportunity to think about God loving them as whole persons rather than as persons who need to come up to some image that is laid upon them by oppressors.
—  Pamela Lightsey in an interview (~24 minute mark) on her book Our Lives Matter: A Womanist Queer Theology