@everyone looking at Jake rn and saying
“this is not what aromanticism looks like”
What the hell do you think aromanticism
does look like? What do you think it entails? Do you really think that
it’s all queerplatonic partners and green and grayscale flags and
jokes about how silly romance is?
Sometimes, aromanticism is depression.
Sometimes it’s hating yourself for not being able to make your
romantic life work the way it’s supposed to. Sometimes it’s thinking
you’re a shitty, uncaring person because you don’t feel something you
think you should. Sometiems it’s being afraid you’ll die alone.
Sometimes it’s isolation after romantic relationships fall apart.
Sometimes it’s a sort of lightness in
knowing that’s you’re who you are and that’s okay. Sometimes it’s
laughing at the idea of being so wrapped up in a relationship and
feeling grateful that you don’t have to care about that. Sometimes
it’s the joy of finding other aromantic people. But aromanticism is
not always easy for everyone, especially people without a community.
Often times, it can go hand in hand with exactly what Jake is
When people act like we shouldn’t claim
Jake as aromantic because he’s sad, what the fuck are they saying?
Why are they so uncomfortable seeing an aromantic who actually
struggles with the difficult parts of being aromantic? And most
worryingly, when their standards are so ridiculously high, who do
they accept as being a “real” aromantic?