I think I have an unhealthy

anonymous asked:

ok so my friend really loves reimob romantically and says that she has an age difference kink which i find really disgusting, but i just want to know what your thoughts are on reimob? whether you like it romantically or platonically

*cracks knuckles* i guess its time to answer this question once and for all lol

i don’t like rei///mob romantically At All because ped//ophillia makes me REALLY itchy on a deeply personal level and i would only ever portray it platonically because i do feel like reigen is a surrogate parental/familial figure to mob in-story

that being SAID i do not care what other people do or ship even if i think its gross. i firmly believe that using fiction to explore unhealthy dynamics is fine and i will stand by this. if people like it its their business and as long as they dont condone it IRL then i have no personal issue with them. im not here to judge anyone unless theyre actually supporting ped//ophillia in which case of course i won’t associate with them because ew???

i will never put re//imob or anything of that caliber on this blog because of my personal opinions so you dont have to worry about seeing anything like that here. that’s how i feel about it

Recreating this because I wrote the other one at 3AM and I wasn't thinking...

Ok, lets try this again in a calmer manner. I actually can see why many people are uncomfortable by the Yuri and JJ ship. There is an age gap, which some people unfortunately just aren’t used to. But on my side of the story-
Age gaps are actually incredibly common, they always have been now that I think about it. It really makes me angry when people say that this ship is pedophilia, because my brother is four years older than his boyfriend, and they have been happily dating for two years and just moved in together. So I’m sure you can realize that to me, when someone calls Pliroy an unhealthy and disgusting relationship, I immediately think of my brother. Because I know that if he and his boyfriend were just a few years younger than they are now, you guys would be hating on them too. LOVE IS LOVE! You people need to remember that. Now I completely agree that a middle aged adult shouldn’t be hitting on a teenager.
However in saying this, do you think that everyone’s “destined soulmates” are all going to be exactly their age? No, that’s impossible. And PEOPLE HAVE NO RIGHT TO HATE ON COUPLES THEY KNOW NOTHING ABOUT OR HAVE NEVER MET.
Another thing is that many people say that Yuri is just and innocent child who needs protecting and is helpless and trapped in this ship. Well newsflash for you, I am a full year younger than Yuri is and I already have two jobs (teaching a primary tap class and serving food at a senior citizen’s home) I seem to be one of the only ones who realize that people our age aren’t helpless or that innocent at all. So if you are fourteen like I am but are calling Yuri a child, it scares me to think of how helpful you must be around the house. So please please please, next time, before you haters try to get up in somebody’s business because you don’t agree with their fictional ship, think before you say something unrealistic and offensive towards happy couples like my brother and his boyfriend who do have an age gap. Because I can guarantee that you parading around trying to shame these couples won’t help you in the slightest.

tomplinson  asked:

I agree with the post on how Isak can't save even with being manic. But personally I think Isak would "save" even by loving him just the way he is unlike Sonja did. Where she blamed anything she doesn't agree with on his mental illness, which is obviously unhealthy for Even. So personally I think Even saved Isak with his confusion on his sexuality, while Isak saves Even from a unhealthy environment.

yeah i agree because honestly people who think a mental illness can be ‘cured’ w love or whatever honestly have never even been close to someone w a mental illness 

yeah i think it would be great if they meant that isak will accept even in all that he is 

anonymous asked:

i'm eating healthier now than i ever have and yet my dad who lives off KFC still has the nerve to tell me veganism is unhealthy? anyway it's the best decision i've ever made i feel so much better for not supporting cruel and environmentally destructive industries and removing dairy from my diet has helped a lot with clearing up my eczema

I’m so glad veganism has been so positive for you, in more than one way by the sounds of it. That’s really common, people assume that they can dismiss veganism as unhealthy without any real introspection about their own diet, I think that’s probably because theirs is the “default.” Though realistically you’d have to have been living under a rock to not realise that KFC is worse for you than plants…

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-Jane Austen: Who was your first love?
oh… i dont think i have one…………..

-Ray Bradbury: What is your favorite book?

i dont have one since i have read only like 20 books in my life… i’’ll need to read like 500 to decide to call something a favourite

-Charles Darwin: What is your favorite animal?
Dogs, cats and horses or all animals in general…

-Alice Walker: What is your favorite color?
Shades of blue and burgundy

-Kurt Vonnegut: What is your favorite breakfast cereal?
Froot loops but i never eat them because they are so rare here and cost like 10 euros plus unhealthy…

-J.D. Salinger: What was your favorite subject in school?
Biology and Greek philoshophy

-J.K. Rowling: What is your favorite magical creature?
unicorn or pegasus, or pheonix idk omg

-Neil Gaiman: What religion are you?
im officially a christian but im an atheist tbh…

-Oscar Wilde: What is your vice?
nothing i think?

-Julia Child: What is the best meal you’ve ever eaten?
oh god… so many i cant choose

-Stephen King: What was your last Halloween costume?
whats halloween i live in Greece

-Harper Lee: Who was your childhood best friend?
i dont think i had a best friend

-Brothers Grimm: What is your favorite fairytale?
its actually a real story and my father used to say it to me. Seabiscuit.

-F. Scott Fitzgerald: What is the best party you ever attended?
i hate parties

-George R. R. Martin: Summer or winter?

both

-Mark Twain: What was your favorite thing to do as a kid?
play hide and seek or other games 

-Edgar Allan Poe: What scares you the most?
losing the people i care about i guess or having a bad life

-Herman Melville: Beach or mountains?
Beach

-Roald Dahl: What is your favorite candy?
chocolate

-Jack Kerouac: Where do you want to travel?
propably everywhere…

anonymous asked:

tbh...every time the boys go on some radio or variety show and the host compliments hyungwon for being so handsome BECAUSE he's so skinny, i want to scream. yes he's handsome, but by putting it that way they're saying that his attractiveness is based on how much he weighs, and that's just so unhealthy in so many ways and he's one of the idols that concerns me the most in terms of eating habits and self-confidence, and i just wish idols didn't have so much pressure to look a certain way ughhhh

this…………. is so real……….. i’m so so so so worried abt hyungwon i talk abt it all the time n also……….. i’ve spoken abt this before too but i think a major problem in the k-entertainment industry is just how… reductionist ? the understandings of idols are. they’re only allowed to be human beings to the exact extent we would consume them as products. in mx for example, you will notice that when one first enters the fandom we get an image of particularly visual line as characters – wonho is the “sexy” one, minhyuk is “sunshine” and hyungwon is the “model”… and i feel like this is good at first when you’re just getting to know them bc it’s a platform for getting to know them better, but the problem is when people don’t delve beyond that and reduce them to caricatures… harmful personas enforced onto real people that they have to struggle to maintain bc they feel like fans would leave if they showed… a different or contradictory side…. does this make sense?? so i’m saying that bc the sort of… “essence” of hyungwon is that he’s a “model”, bc this is his ~special point~ in the team he might feel pressured into protecting this image of himself? his eating habits are very troubling and i’m so so concerned abt his relationship w his body kjdfshjf ://// u know when fan characterisations go too far and become the images that idols have to put up? ? ?? ? i hate that but idk how we can do anything abt it… except to like… always refer to them as multi-dimensional human beings….

anonymous asked:

Is it weird/unhealthy that I'm okay without having any friends? I have Saturn in the 11th conjunct Uranus and Neptune in the same house. Always had friends but after high school that changed and I slowly became an extreme hermit. And it really doesn't bother me. But my chart shows that I need to become more outgoing.. to develop my Aquarian & Sagittarius energy. I feel sorta stuck with it all? Idk. I'm sorry for rambling but any tips?

I think if you’re okay with it then that’s totally fine.. I’m a bit of a hermit too, most of my friends live in different cities than me. But at this time of my life that’s felt natural, having more solitude. I think our need for social activity waxes and wanes..

Anyways, I would wonder what you mean by your chart showing that you ‘need’ to become more outgoing. Aquarius and Sagittarius don’t have to be outgoing in a social sense, Sagittarius can explore the inner world of spirit all on its own. Aquarius has a need for independence. I think it’s not so important to say ‘I should be this way’ because if you don’t feel a natural pull to be that way it’s probably not right. It sounds like you’re fine with your situation, but your mind is telling you otherwise, that you should be more social, and you’re projecting that onto the chart. Just my take on it. Go with whatever your heart desires, whether that’s solitude, friendship or something in between. I do understand, though, I used to be surrounded by my friends all of the time, and then I moved away from all of them, and I’ve been very content just hanging out on my own for the most part, or with my significant other, but yea I sometimes wonder if I’m ‘supposed’ to be trying to make new friends… but I know there’s a reason that I need to be a bit of hermit right now. And maybe there is for you, too!

garbagewhofanboyoverstuff replied to your post “On a completely separate note, I don’t think shipping Credence with…”

I don’t even ship Credence with anyone, but I want to say that you need to stop to saying that having an age gap is already abusive/unhealthy, like, wtf ???? Age is just a number you know, it doesn’t determine the mind of the person, and more, I thought that Newt don’t act at all like someone of his age and is so far to be dangerous (seriously, he’s a cinnamon roll up to the bones), soooo.

@garbagewhofanboyoverstuff yeah i know lol Newt is completely pure and kind and has only the intention to help Credence. Which is why I’m saying he wouldn’t have any romantic intentions toward him.

also pls dont start with the age is just a number stuff…….. Age gaps are pretty unhealthy like Always because of the power imbalance..

I once said to my therapist after a particularly hard week, “I wish I could just fix all of my problems and move on to live a normal life”
And he looked at me and said, “There is no finish line”.

Those words felt like a stab in my heart, but they were words that I desperately needed to hear. There is no finish line to my problems. It’s not possible to get through a certain point in life and have my problems simply disappear. And it’s unhealthy to think that way. Up to that point in my life, that’s what I though recovery was. I thought it was like working your way forward until it seems like your problems never existed in the first place.

The finish line does not exist. Instead, everyone has a capacity for recovery. You may never completely rid yourself of whatever causes you pain, but you will move miles from where you started. Don’t set your expectations too high and create that theoretical finish line in your life, or you will only end up chasing it. Instead, focus on your own capacity for recovery, and be proud of yourself for every step you take.

Neurodivergent people in love are revolutionary.

From the time we’re young, we’re told that we are too stupid or crazy to be loved. I was 10 years old when I had my first real crush, and I was isolated and called a stalker by all the boys in my grade because I followed the guy around in the playground and didn’t understand his boundaries. I was 10 years old. That expectation and label followed me throughout all of my early teens, with me thinking that I couldn’t have a crush without being a stalker.

People with cognitive issues, psychosis, and personality disorders (particularly cluster B) are repeatedly told that we’re destined to be abusers in our relationships. We see people with our symptoms in media portrayed as abusers or perverts, and it’s a silent message to us that we’re unlovable, despite the fact that we’re actually more likely to be the victims of abuse.

I see relationships in media called unhealthy and abusive because one or both of the characters are coded as mentally ill. I hear people say “don’t stick your dick in crazy”. I see @dateagirlwhosuggestion and @dateaboysuggestions receive asks berating them for suggesting to date people like me, saying that it’s dangerous. I see developmentally disabled people being the undesirable joke that not even a loser would consider dating. I’ve had enough.

I’ve been told that I’m too insane and mentally ill to date. I’ve had rumors spread that I masturbate to serial killers. Time and again I see ND people in love being treated like we’re abusive, perverts, or too “far-gone” or “slow” to be in a relationship. But people are wrong. Being mentally ill or developmentally disabled does not mean you’re unlovable or abusive. Our love isn’t creepy. It’s revolutionary.

So to everyone that says that people with BPD are destined to be abusive, or that someone with a fixation/favourite person/depended/misunderstanding of boundaries is a stalker, or that developmentally disabled or psychotic people don’t know how to love, or that you shouldn’t date someone who is mentally ill: fuck you. You don’t deserve our love.

Before I do any more analysis, the general impression I got (and I think we can all agree) was that whatever went down at the bottom of the sea for almost a year messed both of them up, and their perceptions of what a relationship should be like are pretty skewed. 

What Lapis did at the end shows that having a support network really is important. She’s taking strides to both recognise she was hurt in an unhealthy relationship and recognise she did some hurting too.

Jasper’s been completely alone this entire time. No one to tell her this was unhealthy; no one to be critical of her actions; no one to stop her from chasing after Lapis. Everything about Jasper so far shows us she wants to be big and strong and fusion gave her that, but it wasn’t healthy. Both of them, at one point or another, were using each other. 

Jasper is doing a lot of harmful things, both to herself and others. She’s desperate to get back on the fusion train because she thinks there’s nothing else for her. And she did a lot of hurtful things to get there, like tossing people around, smacking Steven, not listening to Lapis’ saying “no.” She’s not the same Jasper we saw in The Return, who was self-assured and calculating.

So I’m really glad that Lapis said “no.” She was tempted to go back to that toxic fusion. It’s like experiencing withdrawal from a drug. It’s difficult to leave a relationship when it feels as though you’ve shown everything to the other person. From her point of view, they know so much of you now, what happens when you leave? How do you start again? It was really hard for that “no” to come out, and I respect that she overcame her struggle to jump back into being Malachite. And I like how it came from her and not Steven. She spoke for herself, she made the decision to step away from this and start healing.

But right now, I think they do need time apart from one another. It’s easy to fall back into the same patterns of an unhealthy relationship when the other person is right there. I do think though, that Jasper needs someone to explain things and to make Jasper wake up as well. Lapis had Steven for that, and to an extent she also had the gems. Having no one, isolating whom we view as the “bad person” doesn’t help them change rehabilitate, because they reinforce their own behaviour. If we want Jasper to stop undertaking these kinds of actions, that’s really something to consider.

I’m sure I have more to say about this, but it’s something I still have to put into words.

Things that need to be left in 2015
  • 3rd wave Feminism - Seriously that shit needs to go.
  • Otherkin- Sad and pathetic but very very funny.
  • Trigger warnings and safe spaces - You’re an adult , act like it you will not be coddled.
  • Male tears and making fun of men for having emotions - Do I really need to explain?
  • Endorsing obesity and a unhealthy life style. - I’m talking to you pro fat community.
  • Being PC- learn to take a joke not everything is offensive.
  • Doxxing- MY private info is MY private info not the worlds. Grow up.
  • Bullying artist to the point of attempted suicide - Seriously what makes you think it’s okay to do this to someone? 
  • Shoplifting community - You’re not stealing for survival, there for you shouldn’t be stealing.
  • SJW’s - Once again must I explain. 
  • Self diagnosing - If your not a health care professional then don’t make medical diagnoses.
  • Rape culture- It doesn’t exist , no one promotes rape, our culture doesn’t promote it.
  • Yes all men - I’m looking at you sjw and feminist . Its just stereotyping men and degrading them. And I though your movements were about equality?
THE GANG ON A ROADTRIP

i love roadtrips and I think about these way more than i probably should so
also these are probably gonna be more modern ok cool leggo

-never trust soda with the aux cord
-or two bit he once played all the spongebob songs for three hours
-pony is the person that divides the space in the the car by the inch….. Like “no Johnny that’s your side, you’ve crossed my side by .5 centimeters back the fuck up”
-they play the yellow car game, Darry is the long term champ
-they also play a game to see who can get the most semi trucks to honk at them by doing the arm thing (like when u move it up and down and ur hand is in a fist u get me???) Steve is winning at this one and has successfully woken everyone up in the dead of night three times
-darry loves getting snow globes !!
-pony aka the mother fucker who “didn’t have to go pee” but twenty minutes later has to and makes everyone so mad
-everyone switches off for driving, except Dallas because he is the shittiest driver E V E R
-two bit telling everyone he’s from England and having a really convincing accent; a lot of times the rest of the gang will join him
-they’ve literally gotten so many people’s numbers because of it
-the gang is generally more happy and all together because Darry finally got off work and pony/two/Johnny is out of school and no one is stressed!!
-they have two rules: when visiting someplace new, always try one of their milkshakes (and don’t give soda the aux seriously don’t )
-bucket hats
-“we went to ____ and all we got was this lousy ____”
-they get one of those drawings of themselves done u know the cartoony ones with like chalk or something idk what they’re called but
-johnny making sure they hit all the tourist spots so they get the full experience™ -everyone mocking the gps

How Hogwart’s see’s the Marauders vs how they see themselves:

  • Peter and Remus are the most emotional ones. How on earth anyone in school managed to come to this conclusion they have no idea because Peter is stronger than people give him credit for and Remus tends to bottle things up to an unhealthy extent. They can guarantee with almost 100% success rate that if one of them is crying, it’s mister-wears-his-heart-on-his-sleeve Sirius.
  • Remus is tidy. This drives Sirius and Peter insane because Remus is incredibly, ridiculously, horrendously messy and they’re always picking up after him. He’s rivaled in untidiness only by James, though people do rightly assume that he is a slob. 
  • Remus is the mother of the group. Where anyone got this notion from they have no idea. He might be the voice of reason but James is the biggest mother-hen of the four of them without a doubt. He’s always the one reminding Sirius to take his cloak, telling Peter to get enough sleep and making sure Remus eats proper meals in the run up to full moon. 
  • Sirius is a womaniser. This cracks them up because he’s snogged maybe two at most of the thirty girls that claim they’ve dated him. And, though it’s not common knowledge, as Peter likes to say, Sirius is as bent as a butchers hook. (Or as James less eloquently puts it, he’s gay as fuck)
  • James is the epitome of cool. This makes Sirius laugh and Remus and Peter roll their eyes because James is the biggest dork they know, cool as he fancies himself. Remus and Peter would also have to (grudgingly) admit that Sirius pulls off being cool effortlessly, and, as Remus would point out to James, effortless is the key point there. 
  • Remus and Peter are innocent. This is the biggest pile of crap James and Sirius have ever heard, it’s simply unfortunate that they are involved in pranks slightly less frequently and have damn good poker faces. Sirius has the worst poker face of all.
  • Remus is a polite and humourless. Heard from people do not know Remus Lupin well enough, because Remus is very capable of being an absolute tosser when it suits him, as the other three well know. He’s also got a fantastic, dry sense of humour and utilises sarcasm in a way that has them all clutching their stomachs.


Khloe: Looking back at pictures of myself I didn’t realize at the time how unhealthy my lifestyle actually was. People love to call me the fat one but as weird as it sounds I still don’t think I would consider myself fat back then. Definitely overweight and unhealthy, yes. About two years ago I decided to turn to fitness as a form of therapy and as a stress reliever. I started slow and eventually I started working out 4 to 5 days a week. We all have to start somewhere and doing something is better than nothing at all. Start small so you don’t get discouraged and give up. Remember it is all about consistency. There are no quick fixes if you want long-term results. Working out is a huge part of my life now. I genuinely enjoy sweating out my frustrations and living a healthier life. My workouts are not all about vanity. They are about clarity for my mind and soul. We all have different journeys in life, make sure your journey is for you and you alone. Remember in the end the turtle won the race. Slow and steady. dedication and tenacity. 💋