I came to your blog many times because I was questioning my sexuality. I wanted to thank you for helping me through it. I really appreciate it. I don't have anyone else to talk to about this.
Sometimes we have it tough in the LGBTQIAP+ community because it can be very isolating. It’s not the kind of minority experience where we are born into community; we have to find it, sometimes while staying in the closet ourselves. That’s why the concept of “found family” is so important in LGBTQIAP+ culture and history. When we find each other, we tend to cling together. It might feel like you don’t have anyone to talk to right now, but there is a community right here on the internet. You’re talking to me, and you’re talking to my other followers, too, and even if you can’t feel it they’re reading your words and feeling many of the things you are. You aren’t alone. I see you.
I'm not against Kastle but I really wish more fans were excited to see Frank, and not just him as part of a ship. It's really disappointing me to see everyone talk about only a ship when there's so much more to his show than that. Some fans have waited years for Frank to get his own show and now it feels like a shipping show.
ANON!!! you took the words right out of my mouth. you are not alone in this at all. i’m always cautious to say things about ships because a lot of times people misinterpret. i love kastle, but me personally - i’m here for frank (and jon) FIRST. while i enjoy the ship i won’t lie i have been a little disappointed today that it seems to be all anyone is talking about. hey i’m excited about it too, but i wanna be excited about frank as an individual as well as him w/ karen. there’s a lot more i’m looking forward to in this show than just that ship and it really does seem like that’s what most people are talking about right now.
Who gave you veto powers? I know, and I feel comfortable in my own skin with you. I know I can talk without judgement and shit. But, sometimes I just say things and feel stupid for saying them or thinking them. Do you ever deal with that? I mean like in this sense.. I don’t really even know if I’m making sense right now, honestly. Well believe it or not I can be patient. Like I said, groundbreaking statement there from you.
I did and anyone who would hear you call yourself that would give it to me too. What you are saying is definitely not stupid. You don't have to put things poetically to make it understandable. It is a mess and it is confusing. You feel contradictory things. You have been patient. I like keeping you surprised.
Thank you for your gifts by the way. Totally rocking the sweet ass shoes, and the necklace. Which I love. And I love you too btw.
How do you cope with being single? I'm going on 23 years and it's getting harder and harder to act like it doesn't bother me. Some nights it makes me cry and I feel like I can't talk about it with anyone because it seems like I'm just complaining about a petty issue. I try to keep myself busy so I don't think about it but when I'm alone I can't help but wish I just had someone there for once in my life. It sucks.
My Dear Anon, I have gotten this message a lot lately, and I understand how it feels to just want to be with someone right now, I really really do. But you know what? There are going to be a lot of things we will have to cope with, such as life, marriage, friends, family, work, school, and so on. We are always going to be in different stages of life, and being single may be difficult right now, it will not always be that way. You will one day look at your spouse and wonder “How can I keep doing this?” and it won’t be because of marital problems, it will be because loving someone else selflessly is really really hard. It is in those moments, such as it is in these moments of singleness, that we must make the choice to live well with what we have. You are single, you have an opportunity to live well in the area of life that you are in, and all too often us single people do not take advantage of what God has given us.
Do we really want a marriage that we just cope with? Of course not! Then why should we settle for a life that we cope with? Why should another person make living bearable? Can we not enjoy living in this moment because we have a God who adores us? Can we not enjoy pursuing our dreams, now?
I think it’s okay to long for someone, but sometimes we build people up so much that it seems in our minds that life is black and white until someone great comes into our lives. That is a dangerous mindset, especially when it comes to our future spouse, because they are just as broken and fallen as we are. No one should be held to a standard that we ourselves would never want to be held at.
Of course I want love, but that is not going to stop me from loving my life and those around me. Take the frustration and desires of being with someone, and spread them into the other parts of your life. Take your heart before Christ, He knows how much we long for, and He will take our desires and keep them from becoming idols.
I’m almost 26. I know what it’s like to wait, but I also know that God does not want our desires to shadow Him and His glory. If I am to be in this period of my life, I will be in it with a heart that openly adores God first and foremost, just as I will be with my wife one day. Singleness is not a disability, it is simply a chapter in your life, and each chapter is worth reading; I hope you can learn to love each word that is written in this chapter, because before long you will be going to the next page and then the next, until it is all finished.
You are loved, even if no one is around to tell you that.
I'm not even going to lie, sometimes I feel like whenever I try to talk to anyone about my feelings. I feel like they'll always just judge me or they don't know what to do. I feel lonely right now. I really want to relapse, Ive been crying for the past few days and honestly I just don't know what to do.
I feel like I might be a cis girl but I also nonbinary and it is so confusing and I just really don't know. I might be a demigirl but I am just so confused right now and I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.
if you arent sure, then youre likely trans
but listen ok. you dont have to decide that youre nonbinary for life right now or anything
identifying as nonbinary or whatever is for you!! your gender identity is for you!!!
if you decide that youre cis and later realize youre not. thats 100% fine! theres no pressure!!
you will learn yourself and grow at your own pace. youll discover who you are at your own pace!!
"Cecil?" Kevin shuffles nervously and doesn't make eye-contact. "Y-you'd, uh. You think I'm worthwhile, right? I mean, I'm certain you wouldn't miss me, but I feel like, uhm, i-if I brought something to the world... S-something positive, that is... I'm sorry. Earl's gone and I can't talk to him and I don't really know anyone else well enough and Lauren won't talk to me anymore and I'm so lonely! I don't... Well. I know what I could do, but it's a... a permanent solution, if you know what I mean"
Cecil narrows his eyes at being addressed by Kevin. He likes him even less now than he did before, and Cecil has never for a moment trusted him. But seeing Kevin now… he’s not sure what to make of him, or even how to react. There’s a flash of uncertainty in his eyes and when he speaks his voice lacks most of its usual malice.