I didn't know what to label this

anonymous asked:

You know what gets me? We wouldn't be here if they didn't want us to. There are countless closeted celebs (willingly or otherwise) who have easily kept quiet about their truth and no one bothered. Here we have two boys who have been shouting and screaming for years. They /want/ people to see, no matter what their public image is. None of us would be here if they weren't fighting against it, you know? Which is why it's absurd when someone says they willingly want this. Like? No. Not these two.

i was just told that pr teams/labels/management companies in the entertainment industry are dealing with some form of closet for 35-40% of their clients… THATS A LOT!!! 

and idk if anyone wants to willingly hide who they really are. obviously theres situations where people feel like they really need to closet themselves (and we’ve all talked about those situations)… but harry is out there wearing pride pins and louis is out there tattooing himself with triangles like, i dont think these guys willingly want this at all.. it’s just a shit situation that comes with being in that industry that apparently 35-40% of their peers are also in. but we are here because they do fight. you are right.

lesbian-sailor-moon  asked:

Hey! I was wondering if you still Id as panromantic? Bc calling yourself a lesbian casually in posts and calling ur relationship a lesbian one is a bit iffy to me (I'm a lesbian) and I know ur gf is actually a lesbian so if she's cool w it ur probably fine but it makes me a bit uncomfortable to see a non lesbian saying stuff like this. I hope this didn't come off as rude I actually do like ur blog a lot sorry.

this is a longer response than you were probably anticipating but i’m gonna take some time to explain why i use flexible labels for myself and why i personally believe it is only up to the individual what labels they choose for themself, and is not up for anyone else to determine but each individual. 

(i don’t mean this aggressively at you btw!! you seem nice and asked an honest question! i’m just providing a very in depth answer on this issue)

my romantic attraction has always been a very ??? situation especially because i do not experience sexual attraction so my feelings are always hard to pin down

i call myself panromantic because i know hypothetically i would date any one regardless of gender but it’s also a more nuanced situation than that for me. I know i could find myself attracted to anyone regardless of gender, but i also know it would be very hard and unlikely for me to date a cis man because toxic masculinity and misogyny in men is so prevalent and has affected me (via cis men and their culture) so much in my life. i’ve had attraction in the past to people that weren’t just women even though i prefer women, and i don’t have sexual attraction so genitals don’t matter to me when it comes to partners. both meg and i know we prefer women but being lesbian doesn’t mean “i like vaginas” to either of us. 

maybe this is an ace/pan experience specifically or just a personal experience, but i’ve had to adjust my labels frequently for simplicity and minimizing stress in my life because NO ONE that isn’t LGBTQ+ in the outside world knows what pansexual/panromantic or asexual is. it’s led me to generally use “queer” for myself for its inclusiveness and umbrella coverage.

and i hate saying this because it’s a bad explanation for most bi/pan experiences (there’s the dangerous but common misconception that bi/pan people “go straight” or “go gay” depending on their current relationship - when really they’re bi/pan and their attraction will always be all genders!), but personally the relationship i’m in is almost certainly the relationship i’ll be in for life, so my potential attraction to other people doesn’t matter to me as much as my love/attraction to meg and our relationship that is read by others as a lesbian relationship. it does bother me that almost all same sex relationships are read in a way that neglects that people can have attraction that isn’t just gay/straight, and i know that’s a HUGE bother to many of my bi/pan friends, but in my personal experience i’ve had such a topsy turvy labeling situation for myself and had so many people misinterpreting what i am that i’m fine with almost any labels for myself.

so anyway tl;dr - these are a snippet of my personal experiences that explain why i’m flexible with my labels, and why I believe only the individual can decide what labels they should use for themself. meg and i share this belief and yes she’s absolutely fine with me calling myself whatever i prefer. no one can fully know my history and why i prefer lesbian sometimes but pan other times, and i can’t fully know any one else’s experiences and why they prefer the labels they use.


sorry this is such a long response! i don’t mean to attack you for gatekeeping or anything because you sound pretty chill. i’ve just seen so many people in the LGBTQ+ community be attacked by extreme exclusionists that i wanted to reflect more on these kinds of issues while on a similar subject. it’s disheartening to me to see so many extremists online drawing borders between labels, yelling at NB people for calling themselves lesbians (when we’re the ones already forcing them into binary-centric, self-gender oriented attraction labels that don’t work for them) or at ace people for not being “queer enough” or at sapphic people like me for not being “lesbian enough.” 

LGBTQ+ people choose whatever labels they use for themselves based purely on comfort and confidence in those, not out of vicious intentions. It’s more important to me that LGBTQ+ individuals have an identity or identities to be comfortable and confident in than it is to close the borders between labels. We’re all a group of Not Straight or Not Cis individuals and no matter a person’s specific label, that alone lets me know “you are probably not a threat to me - you’re like me in some way.” Each subsection in the LGBTQ+ community - gay, lesbian, trans - may all be pretty different cultures from each other, but to me unity against our actual oppressors is more important than gatekeeping or strictness on labels. 

bl/ind and trans ppl

i figure that BLI is pretty tolerant when it comes to binary trans people. the issue comes up when someone doesn’t want to identify as either male or female. it has nothing to do with religion, of course, nor with ““biology””– chromosomes or genitals or whatever– it’s just that BLI believes that it’s too confusing for citizens to have more than two set genders floating around. bad for productivity. BLI already divides everything into a binary, all black-and-white, so gender has to be as well. 

gender EXPRESSION isn’t really policed or anything, if you’re dmab and you wanna wear a dress BLI doesn’t care. they only get involved once it’s a question of gender IDENTITY, of pronouns and legal names and markers on documents.

if you get cleared by your BLI physician, the company is more than happy to provide you with hormone therapy through their Gender Reassignment Program. it’s just another set of pills, after all. any surgeries are optional, but still covered if wanted. but to get access to any of these, you have to identify as either male or female, and you have to exhibit “strong enough” dysphoria (evaluated by an appointed professional). 

anyone trying to assert that they don’t want either of the two gender markers to be used is obviously misguided. that’s a problem. that’s inconvenient. they get assessed, and if they are found to exhibit dysphoria, then they are prescribed a mandatory transition to the opposite gender. if they are not found to exhibit enough dysphoria, then they are sent away and continue to be marked as their assigned gender. 

in contrast, gender’s seen as a lot more fluid once you get out of BLI’s clutches. some joys get out there knowing they’re trans, but some, it never occurs to them until they’ve spent some time in the desert. they’re able to explore themselves more once they’re out of that cage, and settle on what they think suits them best. overall, though, labels and such aren’t so important. lots of joys don’t settle things any further than a set of pronouns.

anonymous asked:

I looked up the blog from the Warren ask you posted and there are liberals out there still supporting Hillary(for what??) and hating on bernie sanders(not that I unconditionally support him) but I don't even get what logical reason they would have, I didn't even know this demographic existed.

Oh yeah, there’s a lot of people like that. I typically call them the Hillary fandom. A big part of the reason I think that’s an appropriate label is because their politics are very person-centric; ironically, they’re similar to a lot of the die-hard Bernie fans in that they aren’t supporters of politicians based exclusively on their ideas and policies, but are emotionally invested in the person themselves. To them, there isn’t a schism in the Democratic party between its neoliberal and progressive wings, there’s just, like, a personal rivalry between Hillary Clinton and Bernie Sanders, in which any criticism of one is an endorsement of the other, and vice versa. At times it simply stops being political at all, it’s just taking sides in social drama for them.

This personal investment in a candidate leads to a lot of really shitty post hoc political analysis. For both Bernie die-hards trying to justify why he lost the primary and Hillary fans trying to justify why she lost the general, they don’t look at the actual candidate’s campaign strategies, at their rhetoric, or at the larger political environment. They start their analysis from the perspective of “given that my candidate is incapable of wrongdoing, how did they lose?” This leads to “the DNC rigged the primary” and “Russia/Wikileaks/Comey/Stein/fake news/etc.,” respectively. In Hillary’s case in particular, it’s why statements like “I’m With Her,” “when she wins, we win” and “we failed her” don’t strike them as strange at all- because for them, it’s not about ideas and policies, it’s about her.

It’s the worst form of politics, because it’s only even tangentially political.

….is something an *actual human adult* is choosing to get angry about.

Tomorrow: why soup is misandric.

(thanks to cybermango on Twitter for this one)

so, this is interesting.

chairman han sees his second wife as jumin’s mother. hence him calling his second wife “your mother” when speaking to jumin.

meanwhile, jumin makes sure to stress that she isn’t his biological mother, and uses the term ‘stepmother’ instead. he does this in the chat too, on the very, very rare occasion that she’s mentioned.

jumin doesn’t seem to have any relationship with his biological mother, considering that’s what he calls her, and he speaks about her so little that some people assume she’s dead. there’s a disconnect there, so it’s doubtful that jumin resents his stepmother for not being his ‘real mom’. nope, it’s just ‘stepmother’, and sometimes he distances himself from her even further.

so he’s consistent, right? it’s only ever his father who says she’s his mother, and he never thinks of her like that at all. case closed.

except there’s this

this is his stepmother talking during a nightmare/flashback that jumin’s having. he is labeling her as ‘mother’, even though we saw him actively avoiding that term the previous night.

not to mention that she’s encouraging him to call her by her first name while she’s hitting on him. it may not be the first time something’s happened, and it’s not a good sign that he won’t make eye contact with her, and, well…

his usual refusal to call her 'mother’ makes sense. Her presence seems to trigger some sort of negative reaction, and he’s trying to distance himself. but why label her as 'mother’ during that scene? is it because chairman han repeatedly referred to her as ‘your mother’ before that he has that nightmare/flashback? did he actually call her mother for a while? is it to hammer in that this woman is the closest thing to a mother figure that jumin has?

this may not be an anomaly. there’s at least one other moment when we hear him say 'mother’.

this is probably his stepmother again, considering how he calls her that in the earlier scene, his father thinks of her as jumin’s mother, and that unlike his biological mom, we do see his stepmother reveal her emotions to him. so if we already know her as his stepmother, why the sudden change? just how complicated was his family life growing up? what is happening, cheritz?

jumin, please, i know you don’t like to think about the past, but i have so many questions.

How I knew I was pan

So when I was younger I always said I was straight especially since I was raised in a very southern Christian family. When I first learned what being a lesbian was I started realizing that maybe I wasn’t completely straight since I definitely had some attraction to women. I knew I wasn’t a lesbian because I still had an attraction to men but for whatever reason the label bisexual didn’t really seem comfortable to me either. When I found out what pansexual was I just felt like that fit more comfortably because how I define my sexuality lines up more with pansexual. For me personally bisexual seems limiting in a way, but not everyone feels the same way and that’s okay because there are many ways that people who identify as bisexual define being bisexual, so pansexual just felt more like the right term for how I feel about my sexuality. Ultimately it comes down to you and what you know and feel about your own sexuality. I would just always recommend researching the terms and seeing which one is more comfortable for you personally. No one knows you better than you do, and no one can define your sexuality better than you can.

anonymous asked:

Did got7's Japanese song do well in Japan? Because I didn't see anyone talk about it so I thought they didn't do well :/

“I didn’t see anyone talk about it” - what do you mean by anyone? Kpop fans usually don’t talk about Japanese releases because they don’t care unless it’s the group they follow, it’s normal.

Japanese promotions are often ignored because kpop fans aren’t used to the way Kpop artists are promoting there. Some idols sing the remakes of their Korean songs (fans already know them), they don’t appear on music shows, they don’t promote for a long time like in Korea, they aren’t “visible” (the lack of photos and videos). What’s more, most labels don’t upload the full version of Japanese MVs on youtube so it’s hard to find them.

Hallyu wave in Japan has ended so idols don’t sell as well as in 2011-13.

These are GOT7′s sales:

2017

My Swagger (Single) - 61,305 copies sold

2016

Moriagatteyo (Full Album) - 30,167 copies sold
Hey Yah (Mini Album) - 42,342 copies sold

2015

Love Train (Single)  - 37,399 copies sold
Laugh Laugh Laugh (Single) - 35,768 copies sold

2014

Around The World (Single) - 43,170 copies sold


They’re doing ok. Their latest release was the first one to sell more than 50.000 copies. 

anonymous asked:

What does "down with the cis" mean??? I keep hearing people throw the phrase around but I honestly have no clue what that entails or if it's a bad thing. I didn't know if this was the right place to ask but you seem to be really aware and educated and everything and I'm trying to be more informed. Thanks!! :)

it’s an abbreviation for ‘down with the cisstem’ i honestly have no idea who coined it but 'cisstem’ is cis + system. before you think it’s an attack against cis individuals, it isn’t. our whole world is built around cis people and the genders “female” and “male”. if these labels don’t fit you essentially don’t fit in - that’s why we say down with the cisstem. down with the binary.

X

anonymous asked:

No but seriously. This is not normal. He's not on their website. He and they never confirmed anything. 80 Million, please. He did Dunkirk for 5 months. He said in AMM that he still doesn't know what he wants to say. He's still in the closet / can't be himself 100%. It's a Sony label?!. He didn't give me the impression he wrote and recorded tons of songs in the last months hajsjdkd. It's hella shady & I don't believe a word, sorry. It's the shadiest of all 4 and that says a lot lol.

Here’s the thing like…Harry is a sneaky bitch, and I say that with all the love I hold for him in my heart. “we haven’t seen recording or writing” isn’t a good excuse at this point. As for the sony label…I’m sorry to say this but business is business

anonymous asked:

I think it's interesting how everyone believes Camila is free and yet when asked when her album is going to come out she obviously didn't know, meaning the label decides when. It's not whenever she thinks the "stars have aligned". Just makes me think about what they're waiting for, definitely more pr drama to come to promote it I guess?

For sure more drama is yet to come. Low (high) key hoping it’s gonna drop after something camren is “leaked or confirmed” because she’s sure gonna have to come up with something good to justify all those songs written about a certain Jauregui on her new album🤷🏻

anonymous asked:

It's funny, really. When I was first considered my sexuality, I was confused for a long time because - I didn't know. I never felt anything for anyone, so what could I be? So I was many things. Gay, pansexual... then I saw asexual and I felt, wow! This is... I never thought I could relate to something so much? Bad days get me down and make me question myself, but at the end of the day, I can't deny it- I am aspec. I am proud of that. Sorry for bumming your mood.

You aren’t bumming me :) I’m glad you found a label you like

anonymous asked:

You can 100% tell from the video Louis knew the RBB question was going to be asked cause he didn't sound surprised and his answer seems a bit thought out which just proves his horrific team told the interviewers to ask louis so he could deny it. WTF IS WRONG WITH THESE ADULTS WORKING FOR HIM? What record label cares this much about fan theories on the internet, it's actually disturbing because they don't hide the fact they monitor us BUT WHY DO THEY CARE SO MUCH??? LOG OFF AND DO YOUR JOBS. 😡

I wonder whether Louis prompted this question himself. Everyone has forgotten about RBB/ SBB. No one but fans even know what RBB is. It’s definitely not a strategy for gaining new fans. People who hear about it would only look into it, and it’s a few clicks before Tumblr masterposts start showing up.

anonymous asked:

I found some sort of bag labeled marshmallows, and I can only assume they belong to you? They look so much like you, after all. - dailykakyoin (Gemsona event, also if this sent more than once I'm sorry I tried earlier and Tumblr kept telling me it didn't to through)

“Marshmallows”?

… Can’t say I know what these are… how weird, they do sorta look like me a bit.

@dailykakyoin

smilez240  asked:

Hi! I'm 17, and I identify on the ace spectrum. I agree that you're never too young to identify as asexual and I also agree that sexuality is fluid and can change. However, I know that, biologically, adolescents don't (or wouldn't) start feeling sexual attraction until they reach a certain age, and for some people that age is later rather than sooner. I'm not saying that a 14 y/o can't identify as ace, but how do you know that you're actually ace, or just haven't reached that age?

I don’t think there’s a way to really know if you’re “not old enough”, but I also think that if a 14 year old feels the need to identify as ace, then that 14 year old should absolutely be free to do so. Whether or not they continue to use the label as they grow up is up to them; the thing to note here is that sexuality is always changing. Regardless if your orientation/label changes because you were a “late bloomer” or because you discovered more about yourself, it doesn’t change the fact that the labels you used in the past were the best fit for you at the time. Choosing labels isn’t about putting yourself into a box, locking it up and never letting it move. It’s about finding yourself, putting words to how you feel, finding others with similar experiences, and so many other things. Not everyone finds the right words right away, and that’s okay!

So if a 14 year old is having different experiences from their peers (assuming their peers are showing interest that goes beyond platonic in other people) and they want to identify as ace- absolutely let them. If they decide the label doesn’t fit in the future, what harm have they caused?

Now I understand some of you are going to say “but they reinforced the stereotype that aces are just immature and will ‘grow out of it’!!!!!” and to that I say: they aren’t the cause of the reinforcement. The people who don’t understand asexuality are.

-Sarah

anonymous asked:

I'm soooo glad Camila wasn't there to see that shit with camera's around her.They would have definitely filmed her reaction.... sigh,I hope that this is all label, and the girls are still on good terms.I feel bad after that performance,I can't imagine what Camila feels if she didn't know about it.

I hope its the label and I’m not just been naive because I see the good. Regardless of who’s idea it was, it was unnecessary and uncalled for. It’s taken everything away from the girls vocal performance and is dragging unwanted shade up once again. This is just dividing the fandom’s even more. Lowkey hate this lol

anonymous asked:

I was raised Catholic and I think I was 7 when I was told I couldn't serve on the altar cause I was a girl. That moment crystallized for me that I'm seen as lesser than and after that I started seeing it everywhere. So I've been a feminist since I was 7 but I didn't really have a name for it till later.

Thanks! It seems that a lot of people are raised with feminist ideals whether they’ve attached the label to it or not.

What or who sparked your feminist awakening? Send me an ask or write it in a message (let me know if you want to share it anonymously or not)!

anonymous asked:

My mum bought me some vegan and cruelty free soap (bless her), but it kinda freaked me out cause I didn't know soap wasn't usually vegan?? I haven't been vegan for long, so I still haven't gotten thorough will all aspects of my life, started with diet and clothing and am working on cosmetics... But with soap etc. what do I need to look for? And are there other surprise non-vegan stuff? Thank you so much for all that you do <3

Soap is often tested on animals or contains fats, so just have a look out for that. Vegan soaps are usually labelled vegan and non-animal tested ones usually have the leaping bunny cruelty free icon on it. If it doesn’t have both of those, then google the brand just to be sure. Don’t feel bad it’s one of those things you may not think of, cleaning and personal hygiene products are another one to look out for. If you’re buying anything consumable, not just in terms of food but things you use on your body, on your furniture/floors/surfaces, I find its best to double check, just to be sure. 

anonymous asked:

Okay delousional time i dont Really watch dwts here in France but what I know is that it's rigged and that people leave when they need to for their projects. Maybe the label didn't want mani to win so she wouldn't get too much money the same way they didn't want Dinah to play Moana, cause she would've been able to get out of her contract. Either way the show is rigged AND MY GIRL WAS ROBBED

Of course it’s rigged