I hope this doesn't come out wrong and insensitive I'm sorry if it does. First off I'm sorry you lost your grandpa. How are you & your mom doing? Are you able to be more yourself and transition now that he isn't there?
it’s not insensitive! it’s really nice of you to want to check on us honestly.
mom and I are doing alright. she’s got 5 or so chemo treatments left! then after that is radiation and I’m not sure how I’ll do then. I’ll be by myself for the week while she’s in another city getting her radiation each day, then she’ll come home on the weekends. I don’t know how well I’ll do by myself. she was gone for about a week after her hysterectomy and I did… okay. not great, but I got by.
uhhh as for being able to transition or anything, no, I haven’t been able to. mom doesn’t really call me by my name either. she deadnames me and misgenders me daily and really only puts “michael” on christmas presents and shit like that. I’m trying to be patient because I know she knew me for almost 2 decades before I came out as a guy to her but on the other hand she’s had Years to adapt to my new name and pronouns and hasn’t so…. idk. shit sucks in that department but I deal with it.
I just hope she gets through her cancer and is alright. yeah, she’s got some transphobia issues but I know she loves me a lot. my sister’s ex called me an “invalid” the other day and my mom made a point to come to me and tell me she loved me and that I’m not a burden on her, so that’s some good news.
btw for anyone confused reading this I am male and my name is michael.