Sorry if this is nosy. But how did you get together with them? From what I can tell, don't you guys live pretty far apart? Just curious how that works. Also, congrats. Happy your happy :)
So this took me several hours to answer because it literally engendered a one to two hour discussion between the three of us and basically we have no idea how or when it happened. We are long distance and that introduces a note of… ambiguity.
Essentially, Sarah and I became friends, talked ALL THE TIME (I used to stay up all night to get to talk to her when she got up in the morning and the boyfriend asked me the other night what my reasoning for doing that was, and my only response was “… I never thought about it.”), and we got really close. Kept discussing poly “in theory” and then ignoring everything until one day after literally months of avoiding talking about the subject the boyfriend pointed out to Sarah that we were dating and yeah that happened.
Then the boyfriend and I started talking because we were with the same person so it felt kind of important and then whoops we were like “hey so I really like you too…”
So anyway yeah we are pretty far away but we have some nice long visits planned that we’re reeeaaally looking forward to. Until then, lots of video chatting!