I Am Your Sister

im your sister

am i younger or older than you ? are you watching me grow from the standpoint of a conscientious older sibling / role model, or are you witnessing me grow from the standpoint of an awestruck younger sibling ? i treat you well, but how involved in your life am i ? do i have my own life, a life that only ever touches yours occasionally but that has a deeper impact on you than youre willing to admit, or do we have a bond so deep that itd be impossible to root each other out of our lives even if we wanted to ? is there a large enough gap between us so that we dont understand each other, or do we work past that gap and unite under our shared experiences, whether they be familial or not ? do i support you ? do we take care of each other, or do we just nudge each other in a certain direction occasionally ? do we share secrets ? do we need to share secrets, or do we have a deep enough connection that our intuition makes up for lack of detailed knowledge ? am i a passive agent in your personal development, or can you see where when and how ive had significant impacts on who you are ? are we willing to sacrifice things for each other ? how deep does the love go ? am i wise ? do you trust me, do you trust my advice ? do you need me ? do i need you ? am i your only genuine emotional connection, or do you wish that i could be counted among your many established connections ? are you sad ? do you want to talk ? are you angry ? do you want to scream ? do you wish that what i am to you would never die, or am i just another impermanent relation ?

What are the words you do not yet have? What do you need to say? What are the tyrannies you swallow day by day and attempt to make your own, until you will sicken and die of them, still in silence?
—  Audre Lorde, from “The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action,” I Am Your Sister: Collected and Unpublished Writings of Audre Lorde

I’ve seen two more really infuriating anti ace posts today so I’m going to put it out there again:

Asexuals are not straight

Asexuals do not experience straight privilege

Erasure of identity isn’t privilege

Asexuals do indeed suffer in our society based on their sexual orientation

If you need an example set directly in your path: my sister is ace and I am pan. Our entire family is more accepting of my orientation than hers because it’s easier for them to fathom having any kind of partner than no partner. She has been invalidated, treated as if her orientation is a phase she is required to grow out of, and mocked since she reached the age where it was no longer appropriate to have never had a partner.

Asexuals have been submitted to conversion therapy and “corrective” rape to “fix” their orientation. Asexuals should not have to fight for their place in the queer community while also trying to survive the straights. None of us need that. Honestly it’s a lot like the anti bi and pan bullshit about being straight passing. This kind of shit needs to stop.

Heteronormativity harms asexuals and anyone who lumps them into that based on not having same-sex attraction can very seriously sit on a same-sex cactus.

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Rickon cried as they crowned him. She held his hand after, whispering sweet words in his ear and thinking how much he looked like Robb. But Robb had never called her mother. “I am your sister,” she said firmly. “Sansa. Sansa Stark.” There would be no more ghosts in Winterfell. She would not allow it.

There are words, the energy that surrounds words is something we use all the time. Now I’m not talking about connotative meanings. I’m talking about the shared kind of raw energy, having to do with sound, having to do with the hundred associations some of which we share, some of which we don’t share. But a feeling, a sense of that energy surrounding words is something that you come to use over and over again in your poetry.
—  Audre Lorde, from Notes from Audre Lorde Discussion at Cazenovia Women Writers Center, as quoted in the introduction to I Am Your Sister: Collected and Unpublished Writings of Audre Lorde
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This is what I’m gunna miss the most. Gut laughter delirious 2 show days. Leaning on each other just to get through another show. I’m gunna miss your love and kindness my forever sister. I am honored to have shared the stage with you. I love you. @reneeelisegoldsberry ❤️

  • Dipper:MABEL! WHERE'S THE JOURNAL?
  • Mabel:What?
  • Dipper:WHERE. IS. THE. JOURNAL.
  • Mabel:I-uh-put it away.
  • Dipper:WHERE?
  • Mabel:WHY DO YOU NEED TO KNOW?
  • Dipper:I need it!
  • Mabel:Uh-uh! Don't you think about running off raising the dead! We've been planning this karaoke party for three months!
  • Dipper:The town is in danger!
  • Mabel:My EVENING'S in danger!
  • Dipper:YOU TELL ME WHERE THE JOURNAL IS, MABEL! WE ARE TALKING ABOUT THE GREATER GOOD!
  • Mabel:"GREATER GOOD"? I AM YOUR SISTER I AM THE GREATEST GOOD YOU ARE EVER GONNA GET!
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Operation: Topple the Glass-Hearted Goliath. better remembered as, The Day Yuu Gave His Boyfriend Heart Failure.

Bonus:

you know she would, too