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ree-fireparrot  asked:

How realistic or unrealistic are battle couples, provided they have sufficient mental discipline? Is it even realistic to have two people working together to fight the same opponent hand-to-hand, or is focusing on both your opponent and your partner too much? What if one person is a distraction (by fighting the opponent head-on) so the other person can stab them in the back, so to speak? Is that too risky?

You’re asking a lot of questions here and most of them have absolutely nothing to do with having a romantic relationship with your working partner.

Some things first:

1) The relationship between a battle couple and any platonic working partnership are not really any different in most cases except that they share a romantic relationship.

2) You don’t need a functional or professional partnership or partnership at all to fight in a group or gang up on an individual.

3) Fraternization just as often falls into casual sex as it does a romantic relationship, if not more often.

4) Almost none of what you’re asking has to do with romance.

Falling in love on the battlefield happens, it happens a lot. Combat is a high stress environment and people are people. Just because something isn’t a good idea or is unprofessional doesn’t mean it won’t happen, it just means you’ve got an added benefit of complications.

Some people can handle romantic relationships with an SO who also engages in combat, even one who engages in combat with them. Those are the ones who can compartmentalize between being on the battlefield and being off it. However, if they can’t (there is a very good possibility that they can’t) then it becomes a real problem. When they can’t handle the stress or the distraction, if they can’t put the romance aside, then their relationship puts everyone at risk, including their mission.

When you’re fighting, especially with a goal in mind, one person’s life cannot be more important than the mission.

It takes a significant amount of trust for a battle couple to function because their romantic partner cannot afford to jump in and save them when things start going sideways. Both participants need to be the kind of people that when the choice is between their partner or the mission, they choose the mission.

This concept is one that’s very difficult to grasp if you’re setting out to write a romance, because most of the normal steps you’d take to fulfill that romance will leave the battle couple hamstrung and unable to function. You can’t have the guy or girl jumping in to save their guy or girl when it looks like they’re about to die, they have to trust their partner to save themselves.

That is hard.

This is a very difficult state to handle emotionally. Imagine, you are at risk of losing your loved one at all times and you can’t do a damn thing about it. You can’t obsess or brood over it, because you can’t afford that kind of distraction. Whether they’re right in front of you or on a battlefield somewhere else, you can’t think about it. You’ve got to focus on keeping yourself alive, because that keeps everyone else alive, and by doing what you can you help to ensure the survival of both your loved one and your team. You’ve got to do your job, even when you’re about to lose everything you ever gave a damn about and its within your power to stop it.

A true battle couple is one who exists in complete equality, trust, and partnership with their significant other on the battlefield. They keep a cool head and a cool heart while in the midst of gut wrenching emotional turmoil. They don’t baby, they don’t hover, they don’t keep a careful eye on, and they don’t obsess until the fighting’s over. They don’t sacrifice their own life or their own body to keep their lover from getting injured. They don’t break position.

If they do any of the above, they will both die and so will anyone who is relying on them. If you are writing characters where the relationship is more important than the mission, more important than the team, more important than surviving the fight in front them then you have, narratively speaking, a serious problem.

This is not a bad one to have in a story or an unrealistic one in life, romantic relationships on the battlefield are built around this concept, but it does need to be addressed. If its not, tragedy strikes.

If you’re writing a battle couple, you need two characters who when faced with the choice between saving their loved one and stopping the bomb from blowing up downtown Manhattan, they pick the bomb.

And, in fiction, that’s not normally what love is.

It also has to be both of them, they both need this very specific outlook to function while in combat together. If one has it, but the other doesn’t then tragedy strikes. If neither have it, tragedy strikes. They need to be on the same page.

The reason why the military and other combat groups prohibit fraternization is because romantic relationships inevitably fuck everything up. If they can handle it, great. However, the all to likely outcome, for either one or both parties involved, is they can’t.

They’ll do it anyway though, because people are people.

When you engage in violence, that violence and training separates you from the general population. You’ve been through experiences that most people cannot comprehend or relate to and that makes maintaining relationships difficult. There’s a lot to be said for being in a relationship with someone of similar background, who can empathize with your experiences, who has been through what you’ve been through. You don’t need to look much further than the rate of divorce among the FBI or CIA to understand just how difficult maintaining a relationship in an incredibly stressful environment is.

As humans, we crave having a partner we can relate to. With whom we can share our secrets. Who won’t judge us for the terrible things we’ve done. When you have to rely on each other for survival, attraction, desire, even love becomes easy. It’s often a false sense of connection built on desperation, one which if born inside the environment won’t function outside of it, but that doesn’t mean it feels any less real.

When you might die tomorrow, sometimes you just want to feel something, anything at all, and that’s where the causal sex comes in.


Casual Sex:

In mixed gender units, casual sex is really common. Not romantic relationships, mind. It’s just sex, and it doesn’t go any further than that. It’s desperation, it is all about sensation, and a reminder for the participants that they are alive.

When dealing with these types of relationships in your fiction, its important to remember that the emotional component is neither needed nor wanted. They’re not looking for comfort. They’re looking for sensation, to feel something before they (potentially) die.

Because the author controls everything in their fictional world, it can often become difficult to remember and insert qualities like the random chance of dealing with the unknown. We’ve often got characters that are necessary to the plot, who become identified as “safe”, and behave differently because they know they’re going to live through the fight or battle to get to the end of the story.

It becomes important to learn to live in the moment. To live in the twilight hour on the night before a battle, to be unsure, when the character doesn’t know what will happen next. If you don’t then there is a whole array of human emotions, experiences, and terrible choices that you’ll never touch on in your fiction.

If you don’t, you’ll be all the poorer for it.

The Two on One Battle: Real.

You don’t need to be in a relationship, or even particularly well-trained, to accomplish this. Two versus one happens a lot and the pair off usually wins because eight limbs trumps four. One person locks up the individual, the other circles and attacks on vectors they can’t defend from. We’re social animals. Our natural instincts will help us more when we’re fighting in a group as opposed to fighting alone.

1 v Group is a bad situation to be in if you’re the one, and it doesn’t matter how well trained you are. Numbers will kill you.

Part of the reason why you see single characters fighting groups in movies and other fiction is to establish that they’re great fighters. The problem is that this has become so widespread that we now think fighting a group is easier than fighting a single, skilled individual. This is untrue. The group will kill you because the individuals within the group can move onto vectors that cannot be defended.

What your describing in your question in a battle between three people in a two on one is normal behavior, its standard tactics. However, you’re also demonstrating the exact kind of behavior for why two people engaged in a romantic relationship should not be on the battlefield together.

If you’re ever sitting there and wondering if something that is a basic and bog standard tactic is now, suddenly, too dangerous because your characters are dating then that is the exact problem.

Things that are normal suddenly become too risky, and the focus transitions to preserving their lover’s life rather than making use of their significant advantage over their enemy.

That is the exact kind of thinking which will cost them their lives, and for no benefit at all.

Good job.

-Michi

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anonymous asked:

Do Japanese people understand the meaning of soulmates? Because I saw some tweets and people were confused and even disappointed. Like wtf? Anyway can you please write your own understanding of being soulmates?

I’m probably not the most qualified to answer this, so maybe @fencer-x wouldn’t mind chiming in a bit? But from what I know and have seen it looks like the concept of soulmates in Japan isn’t that different from the West. I don’t really feel comfortable getting into how extensive the Japanese understanding of soulmate is.

For what it’s worth, I have seen zero negative response on my TL. So, I’m not sure where those people are coming from.

As for me, personally? I feel fandom, as a general whole, not just any specific fandom, has sort of taken the idea of soul mate and made it something concretely romantic. However, the concept is that of someone who perfectly completes you, is your other half, and while that often has a romantic end, it’s not in the definition. A soul mate can be a romantic partner, most often the concept is used romantically, but it can also be a best friend.

Have you ever heard the What’s A Soulmate? audio? That’s basically my perfect definition of a soulmate.

As for Kubo’s use of soulmate and it being related to the rings Yuuri and Victor exchanged, that’s a pretty heavy romantic implication. The ring exchange scene itself is already clearly romantic and to try and say it’s just friendly is pretty ignorant, imo, especially with the knowledge that there is no discrimination of love in the YOI world. To say, on top of that, that those rings are a symbol that Yuuri and Victor are soulmates? That’s the romantic concept. Flat out. They are two pieces of one whole, souls meant for each other, a perfect union.

How to Create Spells

☆~Spellcraft for Beginners~☆

Since magic is such a personal and individualized practice, you may find that your best spells will be ones you’ve written and performed yourself. This may sound complicated, but it’s only as simple (or ornate) as you’d like to make it.


Step 1.

Start by getting a clear idea of your goal and get a mental image of what that will look like (ex, for a happiness, you would want a clear vision of yourself being happy going about your daily activities). This is arguably the most important part; you can’t have a successful spell if you don’t know what it means for it to be a success. Meditate on it, describe it in detail, but don’t begin anything until you have a firm idea in your head.

Step 2.

After this, decide what type of spell you want to create. A candle spell for a quick result, or something to carry for long-term use? Do you want it to be simple, like more general happiness in your life, or more in depth, like to earn a specific job position by the end of the month? Try to oriente your spell to be themed to your goal.

Here are a couple popular methods to get you started:

🔮 Candle Spells

- Small candle = quick results, short term, but only a small burst of power

- Medium candles = burned over a few sessions, gives the spell length, effects last longer, but typically slows down the appearance of immediate results

- Large candles = burned in sessions over weeks or months, contains much more power, lasts much longer, but can take the most time before results are seen

🔮 Sachets, Charms, Enchanted Jewelry

- Sachets, herb pillows, etc. are quick to make and are designed for a slow release of magic over time

- Charms usually have an inherently magical function making it unnecessary to charge them, but while they last the longest, they are usually not as powerful as other spells

- Enchanting jewelry or tokens mimics a charm, which makes them easy to disguise and mundane objects with secret magical functions, but they must be periodically recharged to retain their magic

🔮 Cord/Knot Magic

- String/cord is an excellent symbol for many things, making it an ideal representation. For example, in a binding, you could tie a black string around a doll or poppet to symbolize the magic “tying them up”. You can also tie it to yourself and a symbol of someone else to link you two, or tie it and cut it to break a bond with someone.

- Knots are excellent tools for storing magic and energy until it is time to be released. This way, you could put a spell (like a spell for money) into the cord and tie a knot, and then later, when you need that money, you can untie the knot to release the magic of the spell.

🔮 Verbal/Written Spells

- Verbal power can be the strongest method of channeling, your voice and your words are sacred and can be used to summon a lot of your power. Chanting, singing, performing poetry, reading spells aloud, or simply speaking your intent in a commanding way can be a spell all it’s own. You may feel shy at first, but many witches over time develop what can be called their “Summoner’s Voice” which is a very serious, powerful manner of speaking that you only use to cast magic, which makes it uniquely powerful.

- Written spells are just as powerful, because it is still using words and language, which contain the natural power of change. Writing out a spell, poem, song, affirmation (ex, “I am healthy”), prayer, etc. can be a stand-alone spell as well. You can also sleep on your writing, place magical items on the page, or especially burn it to release its magic.

Step 3.

Decide if you want to add anything to your spell to add energy to it. Performing only verbal spells can be very efficient, but it is also terribly exhausting as it draws entirely on your energy.

Spell ingredients are added so that some of the energy added comes from something other than you. Herbs, crystals, metals, etc. all vibrate with their own energy which, if added properly, can contribute to your spell and make it stronger/last longer/go into effect faster/etc.

To figure out if something will be beneficial to your spell, you can try to sense it’s vibrations or look up common associations. For example, if you are doing a love spell, you could look up and find that yarrow and rose quartz both commonly resonate with love, which would make both of them suitable for your spell.

Ideas for what to add to your spell to make it stronger:

🔮 Crystals are so popular in witchcraft because there are a lot of them vibrating with lots of different frequencies, giving you lots of options for what to use for your spell. Set them in designs, put them on top of your written spells or sigils, add them to spell bags, or even just hold them during your spell and carry them afterwards to help give your spell focus.

🔮 Herbs function like crystals, but unfortunately can’t be recharged as well. However, they pack more initial energy and typically have more specific associations (ex, whereas rose quartz may just resonate with love in general, an herb like black medic might be as specific as “love, but only between young adults which ends up leading more to separate self-discovery and individual growth than to holy matrimony”). The downside to herbs, as amazing as they are, is that they demand A LOT of studying to be used properly. Herbs can be very dangerous, especially when taken internally, and require as much attention, education, and caution as chemicals and medication. (For example, if someone you know has Crohn’s Disease, and you as the witch look up associations for stomach pain, arriving at chamomile to help soothe their stomach, they could end up in the ER with severe stomach cramps. Many herbs conflict with medications, especially antidepressants, sleep medication, and birth control, so read and study and above all TALK TO YOUR GODDAMNED DOCTOR IF YOU WANT TO GET ON HERBAL SUPPLEMENTS OR WANT TO INGEST HERBS AS PART OF YOUR PRACTICE.)

🔮 Insence that you associate with your goal, or if you don’t/can’t use fire, use scented water or oil warmers can add a great boost to the spell, and can be designated and lit continuously afterwards to keep energy going into the spell if it is long-term.

🔮 Oils (acting like concentrated versions of the herb) can be more potent than the dried plant. Use it as incense, to anoint yourself or your tools to give them a boost. (Use extreme caution, oil extracts can cause serious harm if you don’t research them first!)

🔮 Colors can be used to your advantage as well! Color assocations are very personal, however, so be sure to only use a color if it actually evokes the desired feelings out of you. For example, if you’re doing a spell for stress relief, and green relaxes you, use green candles, cloths, or crystals even if most spells would call for blue.

Step 4.

Choosing where and when to perform your spell can give more power to your spell. A spell for releasing emotional baggage would do well performed on the full moon, and a spell to become more beautiful would have the most help in spring. Some spells happen spontaneously, when you couldn’t care less what planet is in which house or what day of the week it is, and this is perfectly fine as well. Sometimes waiting too long to perform a spell can kill the momentum you had when writing it, but some spells need a lot of planning.

Some things you can consider:

- Moon phase

- Astrological calendar

- Days of the week

- Days of the month/year

- Time of year

- Holidays

- Time of day/night

- Personal anniversaries

- Weather

Time and date can have personal associations as well, so while some people associate fall with the end of a cycle, you may see it as the original beginning.

Again, your spells can be as simple or as complicated as you want. They don’t have to fit any template or style. This is just to get you started and to help you along when you’re first starting, but you’ll realise the more you practice that you do have your own style and method and associations, and that will lend your spells the basic power they would be nothing without~☆


anonymous asked:

Please can you give some tips on how to design fan Fusions for Steven Universe characters? Yours look so cool and unique and I'd love to make mine as amazing as yours!

Don’t just mesh two characters together. Try to base the fusion on the fusers’ character interaction and relationship, not just by how they look. I used this graphic when talking to a friend about this and it pretty much sums up what I mean:

Also, if they have a different outfit, it would be fun to give them a specific fashion style so you’re not just thinking “alien” or a variation of Opal’s outfit (I see so much of that!) for example Unakite is punk, Spectrolite is hippie etc. One last thing, fusions are very colourful! Try not to stick to just one colour in different shades. It can often look boring and lacks contrast.

These are just how I do fusions, I hope it helped anyway. Make fusions however you like and have fun with them :>

The thing is, mental illnesses are all subjective and affect each individual differently. Some disorders are seen as more ‘extreme’ or ‘severe’ than others- but it’s vital that to understand that each person will be affected by their disorders differently.

For example, a person may have psychosis and an anxiety disorder. In general, psychosis is seen as a more severe disorder than anxiety. However, for this specific person, their anxiety may affect them a lot more than their psychosis (e.g. Their hallucinations may be easily ignored, by their anxiety affects their life constantly in terms of social interaction). In another person, they may be able to work around their anxiety, but their psychosis may be overwhelming and prevent the functionality that they’d like to have.

This is why it’s vital to understand that whilst generalisations in terms of disorder severity may be useful in diagnostic/treatment terms, you must take into account individual experiences- don’t assume the effect people’s disorders have on them.

Medical Astrology

❝   Medical astrology (traditionally known as iatromathematics) is an ancient medical system that associates various parts of the body, diseases, and drugs as under the influence of the sun, moon, and planets, along with the twelve astrological signs. ❞

Medical Astrology has been practiced for centuries over centuries and still remains in practice to this day - although it became much humbler as modern medicine evolved and astrology transformed into something wildly interpreted as “humbug”. Even some of those who study astrology still seem to have a false understanding of what exactly medical astrology is and therefore don’t believe in it themselves.

So to clear up any possible misconceptions before I start: Medical Astrology is NOT the stars telling you that you’re going to have a specific condition because one of your placements suggests it. As with most other things, there’s a lot that comes into play: Other placements, on one hand, but especially, and I really want to stress this, things like how you treat your body, accidents that you may get into, DNA, … you get the drift.

I already mentioned it, but medical astrology only SUGGESTS higher risks for specific ailments. It does NOT predict them. (Transits, however, CAN - but even they don’t promise for you to get the disease or whatever ailment is supposed to happen. This is another topic, though.)

Having said that, I will make another post for very specific conditions, for this one I’ll only talk about some general things like what signs/houses/planets rule what body part and what role everything plays. Also, I do NOT take responsibility for what you do with this information. I’m not trying to scare anyone, I’m just passing on some of my knowledge.


SIGNS & HOUSES

  • Aries/1st House: rules head, face (and everything in it), brain, hair, vision
  • Taurus/2nd House: rules throat, voice/vocal cords/tract, neck, thyroid, weight
  • Gemini/3rd House: rules hands, arms, nerve system, shoulders, lungs, brain
  • Cancer/4th House: rules alimentary canal, breasts/chest, stomach
  • Leo/5th House: rules heart, chest, upper back, spinal column, spine
  • Virgo/6th House: rules intestines, nervous system, digestive system, spleen
  • Libra/7th House: rules skin, lumbar region, kidneys, buttocks, lower back
  • Scorpio/8th House: rules genitalia, bowels, reproductive & excretory system
  • Sagittarius/9th House: rules thighs, hips, sciatic nerve, liver
  • Capricorn/10th House: rules skeletal system, knees, joints
  • Aquarius/11th House: rules calves, ankles, circulatory system
  • Pisces/12th House: rules feet, toes, adipose tissue, lymphatic system


PLANETS

  • Sun: general vitality, spine, heart
  • Moon: digestive & lymphatic system, stomach, female organs
  • Mercury: central nervous system, hands, brain
  • Venus: throat, kidneys, ovaries
  • Mars: muscles, head, adrenal glands
  • Jupiter: growth, pituaitary gland, liver
  • Saturn: skin, hair, bones, teeth, immune system, spleen
  • Uranus: neural activity, aura, parathyroid gland
  • Neptune: pineal gland
  • Pluto: metabolism, pancreas

Now we know what the involved parts represent, but not why and how that is. So to use medical astrology properly we have to make the connections between these aspects (hint: aspects can play a role too, but one usually puts more emphasis on houses/signs + planets) and know about some common themes:

  • SATURN suggests struggles & weakness in the assigned body part(s) of the sign/house he resides in.
    • e.g.: Saturn in Gemini and 5th suggests trouble with breathing properly (in extreme cases ailments like asthma) and back problems
  • URANUS often makes for “abnormalities” or strange/unusual conditions.
    • e.g.: Uranus in Taurus and 3rd can indicate rapidly changing weight and somewhat differently formed fingers (in extreme cases things like swan neck fingers)
  • STELLIA can cause trouble due to the excessive amount of energy bundled in (a) certain body part(s).
    • e.g.: An Aries (head/brain) stellium can make for strong or chronical headaches
  • EXTREME DOMINANCE works like a stellium as long as the dominance is very prominent.
  • CHALLENGING ASPECTS can lead to trouble as well -  one has to look at the planets involved and the houses/signs they’re in for this one to know more.
    • e.g.: A VERY afflicted/”damaged” sun in the 6th might in extreme cases indicate a heightened potential to suffer of a heart attack.

      I of course didn’t cover every theme, every aspect, everything that is important, but with your new-earned knowledge you should have a solid and basic foundation with which you should be able to work. As I already said, I’ll make a separate post with very specific ailments which I will also describe (the why and how) that I will then link in this one.

      As Medical Astrology is its own branch of astrology and therefore gets more and more complex the more you dive into it, my ask box is always open if you should need clarification or help with interpreting something.

      Breathing Life

      Dolls and poppets are utilized across many faiths, however often witches neglect to “breath life” into them. Not doing so doesn’t make them wholly ineffective, however going the extra step really amps up the potency, especially when using it as sympathetic magic or creating a protective being! It’s a relatively simple step, but highly dependent upon which path you follow. I’ll briefly cover my methodology.

      Foremost, I would like to specify the difference between the two types of dolls I utilize. One being sympathetic magic, the one most often thought of when people think of dolls and witchcraft. Voodoo dolls. This is a misnomer, as the common portrayal off voodoo dolls in media have skewed the original purpose of such dolls. Originally the dolls were used by practitioners not to affect people, but as a guide to the sufferers ailments and treatments – more akin to a “medical chart.” However, they have since (and really, in European magical traditions for centuries) been used to heal or harm a specific victim in which the doll was made to their likeness. This is a sympathetic doll, made in their likeness, usually incorporating some sort of personal affect (hair, clothing, blood, etc.).

      The second type, and the kind I most often use, are dolls not based on any individual, but instead exist to act as a guardian of sorts or facilitate change/growth/health/etc. These are unique and very much a product of your imagination. Create them to be whatever you see fit.

      That being said, let’s begin;;

      Sympathetic Dolls: Begin by first, stitching the doll together in the likeness of he/she you wish to influence. You can be as general or as specific as you want – matching hair, eyes, facial features, build are all common concepts. Traditionally the dolls were stuffed with Spanish Moss (most probably due to the abundance in the American South) however you can stuff it with anything you have on hand. If you have anything of the persons, now would be the time to use it, hair can be wrapped and stuffed in the doll, pieces of their clothes can be folded and placed inside, blood should be on a scrap of cloth, dried and then added.

      Once the doll is complete and you’re satisfied with its image (in truth, dolls have been made out of anything and everything, the only crucial step is the following), you must give it life. For sympathetic dolls, this can be as simple or difficult as you wish. I prefer to take the simple route and sit with the doll and focus intently on the person you wish to connect to it. I then mentally stitch the spirit of the person to the doll (either at the heart or at the feet – as a short of shadow). Vocalize your intent and revel in your creation.

      Conceptual Dolls/Guardians: These are my personal favorites to create, in all honesty. I find poppets to be a lot of extra work, however they are useful in remote healing/hexing. These, as I mentioned, are beings of your thoughts. Tulpas, in a way. Begin by gathering your materials and ideas. Create a doll to symbolize whatever you wish to accomplish. As far as this tutorial goes, I’ll use the example of a Guardian or a doll for protection. It can look however you wish, and be as simple as sticks tied together, to the most intricately created doll you could muster. I, personally, stick with a small doll (no bigger than 8 or 10 inches) with yarn hair, simple clothing and a painted face. I often stuff mine with herbs associated with my will, as well as batting and sometimes stray scraps of fabric.

      After your doll is complete, take it to the Crossroads. It can be a door, a gate (I use the gate of a remote cemetery near me), a cemetery, even a maternity ward if you’re that committed and light a candle. Fill your mind with intention, then connect with the energy of your crossroads. Feel the planes converge, and bend this erratic energy to your will, funneling it through your consciousness and into your doll. See the energy shape, bend, coalesce into a being of your intent and give it a Name, as there is much power in a Name. Connect its energy to our physical plane by allowing it refuge within the fabric of the doll you have created. Leave a gift at the Crossroads, and blow out your candle, sealing in the doll’s spirit. Use it as you desire, but do not neglect it.

      Thus ends this tutorial!

      Best of luck,

      Q

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      How to Develop Discipline in Studying

      This article is requested by @lightokunello , @dreamiingsoftly, and people who are quite sceptical about the feasibility of discipline-based studying (on contrary to motivation-based studying) as advised in my “Motivation vs. Discipline: Explained” here.


      As I said before in the “Motivation vs. Discipline: Explained” post, studying based on discipline is basically studying out of habit because it basically means “studying without thinking of a future reward because your brain and body already think it is the normal thing to do.” Hence, to develop discipline in studying, you should make studying as your new habit. But, how can we make something as tedious as studying as a habit?

      You can read many articles on how to develop a new habits and you can judge for yourself which one sounds most practical among the others, but first thing first, let me share my tips.

      1. Make a commitment with yourself that you will make studying as your habit.

      This is super important. Commit yourself to make this as your new habit. Don’t half-ass any of these suggestions or any other suggestions that other people give. Don’t give yourself silly, illegitimate excuses in the process. For this, you can do it by remind yourself on what your long-term goals in life are. Or if they don’t sound rewarding enough, remind yourself what failure feels like/ could feel like.

      2. Keep a daily to-do list; break down the things that you must do into smaller, concrete activities and put those smaller activities in that to-do list; allocate specific time periods to do each smaller activities and put it the to-do list as well; set an alarm reminder for each smaller activities. 

      Say you have to study for Physics on Tuesday, because for whatever reasons you just decided to dedicate your time this Tuesday to study Physics. Bravo. However, I’d suggest that you break down that specific activity (or “daily goal”) before putting it in your to-do list. So, instead of just putting “study for Physics”, try putting “read and highlight Chapter 9″, “do Exercise I.II in Chapter 9″, “sum up the points in Chapter 9″; because putting very general/broad activity like “study for Physics” can actually make you too confused on where and how to start doing it, and make you very prone to distractions in the process.

      Don’t forget to allocate specific time periods to them as well, such as 20.00-21.00 for reading and highlighting chapter 9; 21.15-22.00 for doing Exercise I.II; etc. To ensure that you do it, don’t forget to set an alarm for EACH activity (it can be on your phone, laptop, alarm clock, tablet, watch, whatever).

      3. Aside of the daily to-do list, keep a weekly schedule; make your study schedule as consistent as possible every week.

      It is easier to keep a habit if they are done consistently the same way and in the same time, just like how it is easier to maintain a skincare routine if you consistently do it everyday in the same time period (”peeling every Wednesday and Sunday afternoon”, “eggwhite mask every Saturday morning”, “cleanse using micellar water everyday at night”). It’s the same for studying; it is easier to make it a habit if it is consistently do it in the same time every week. Which is why I suggest you to dedicate the same day every week to study/do assignment for the same school course/subject. For example: only study for Physics and Math on Tuesdays – Physics at 16.00-18.00 and Math at 19.00-21.00; only study for Biology and Chemistry on Wednesdays – Biology at 16.00-18.00 and Chemistry at 19.00-21.00 — and keep it like that every week, every month.

      4. Keep distractions at (very) minimum while doing each activity.

      Try to focus on what you do and not think on anything else.

      5. Track your progress – don’t forget to put a checklist on your to-do list after accomplishing a task.

      It would relieve your stress a bit and motivate you to continue doing the remaining activities on your to-do list. ;D

      6. If you can, put as few (smaller, concrete) activities in your daily to-do lists.

      When it comes to studying, it’s still better to only study 2 hours every week for every subject consistently– I’d suggest to dedicate more hours though – than study for 8 hours for every subject only when it’s already one week before the mid-term/final exam week.

      The reason why I suggest this is that putting too many activities to accomplish on your daily to-do list can discourage you from starting to accomplish them (”the ‘ah f*ck it’ syndrome” is real especially among procrastinators). Putting few, however, can psychologically trick yourself to think ‘yay I only have to do these several activities’ and do it.

      7. Do this for at least a semester, and find yourself taking your Physics (or any other subject) coursebook and start highlighting the important points on a Tuesday out of habit, without thinking of any motivation beforehand ;D

      If you need more than semester, that’s alright, everybody adapts to new changes and adopt new habits in different pace; as long as you keep true to your commitment and still accomplish the activities that you need to do, you’re doing it right! Believe me that one day it’ll be your habit. :)

      Different types of roles for Alters,

      Keep in mind this isn’t official information! This has been gathered by asking a few people with Dx DiD what roles they have in their own systems and what they play!

      Core.

      • The “original” personally. Its questioned of it still exists within the body; however most people reference the core as the first host. 

      Host.

      • An alter who typically fronts the most and has nothing to do with the original; It can be the ‘core’ personality however its not defined.

      Co-Host

      • An Alter who fronts regularly but isn’t the actual host; basically a second host. Larger systems may have more then one and smaller systems might not have a co-host. Typically they come out when the host is to overwhelmed. 

      Protector.

      • The protector will protect the host with their life. Typically will always be around and jumps in when a situation goes south. 

      Little.

      • An Alter that is basically a child. Not all systems have littles, it just depends on the trauma and the person. Littles often form when there wasn’t a good or barely any childhood for the body to have experience. 

      Persecutor.

      • An alter that is usually bent on the destruction of the system, destruction in general, or something in between. Persecutors are a bit difficult to handle and typically are made during a self loathing time.

      Internal Helper.

      • An alter that rarely fronts, but inside and often in the headspace. They typically help from inside, and tries to keep the system in check that way. 

      Fragment.

      • An alter who is incomplete or is barely there. 

      Gatekeeper.

      • Also known as a Manager; Regulates who fronts based on need. They keep track of how the systems runs and tries to keep it from falling apart.

      Caretaker.

      • Caretakers have many different roles. They can take care of the host’s responsibilities and daily tasks when the host is unable too; and or they can take care of alters inside of the head space. 

      Trauma Holder.

      • Also known as trauma piece or memory holder; They are an alter who holds memories of and feelings relating to trauma. Some can front while the body is in a similar trauma situation and handle it well (However! Make sure they can handle this before you try it!) 

      Facet

      • (There is a lot of definitions for this one; But the general consensus is) A facet is a direct split off of a specific alter and tends to share personality traits with the alter they split from. They can be like a fragment or they can develop into their own person. 

      Introject.

      • An alter based off of an outside source, can be based on a real person and or fictional characters (Typically, If they are based off of fiction they are called ‘fictives’ but either term works!)
      Shadowhunters 2x17 - Alec’s and Magnus’s character development

      This is the first time I write something like this, but as I finished somehow analysing Alec’s character in that latest meta, things happened in this episode, 2x17, that continue the arguments I was referring to.

      The whole situation is more about Malec as a couple if you look at it from a general perspective; however, if you try to understand what really happens and why they behave and react in that specific way, you have to consider Alec and Magnus as separated entities and characters.

      As I said in his meta, Alec is a soldier. The problem, lately, is that he seems to be in a soldier mode ALL days, 24h. Being the Head of the Institute is an enormous responsability, even more with Valentine free in the world and Jonathan helping him, thus Alec is really busy and worried about everything. He has a great responsability and the Clave is following his every move: he can be fired at any moment. Him missing dinner and staying away from home for hours proves that. His mentality, in this specific moment, is very similar to season 1; not much for the fact that he’s hiding, but for the fact that he’s putting the “greater good” as the ultimate priority. He has to behave like a leader to save his people, and that means putting his personal relationships in second place. He’s ready to sacrifice what he has to, in order to reach that greater good (which is basically peace).

      Magnus is in a completely different mental situation. Even if he’s the High Warlock of Brooklyn, he’s not putting his leader position ahead of his personal relationships. Magnus would save his beloved first, in a situation like this. That’s why he doesn’t understand why Alec didn’t tell him about the Sword; and this is also why Alec immediately says “Let’s not make this personal”. If you think about it, Alec was right in his assumption that Magnus knowing would put him in a bad position with the Downworlders. Furthermore, after everything Magnus went through, maybe Alec didn’t want to burden him with such a dangerous knowledge (I’m quoting @sfjessii spilling the truth here, considering also that Alec is in PERPETUAL “protecting” mode towards his family AND Magnus, even more after what happened with Valentine and Magnus’s memory). What he doesn’t understand is that it wasn’t his call. Magnus would have stayed “quiet”, as he said; he would have never betrayed Alec in some way, because Alec is more important.

      The thing that is extremely relevant to notice is Magnus’s feelings. Weeks passed, not months; in these days his soul has been taken and put in another body; he has been tortured; he has nightmares and he can’t sleep, nor can he stay focused. He had a break down probably one or two days before, when HE STILL tried to hide everything from Alec, because he was too scared to share his inner demons. He did: he put down the walls that took 400 years to build and he finally shared probably his most terrible secret, something no one knew. Can you imagine how difficult that is? Baring it all, trusting someone completely. THAT moment was a turning point for their relationship and Magnus was absolutely sure that after something like this, no secrets, no obstacles, would stand in their way. If Alec accepted something like that (for Magnus what happened IS terrible), then they could share anything.
      Yet, the day after, they don’t. He feels betrayed. It’s not even the Sword itself, I would say. It’s just what happened. That Alec didn’t think to share it, to comment on the praise he was giving during dinner, that he didn’t trust MAGNUS as well in return. That hurts. Trusting, and seeing the other not trusting back. It hurts even more when you share something so deeply intimate and scary. It hurts more than Camille cheating, or any other lovers leaving, because he EXPECTED that from them, but he didn’t expect THIS from Alec.
      And we finally see Magnus angry; angry because he’s hurt. He’s hurt about trusting and putting his walls down. Angry at Alec but also angry at himself for believing in love again. Everything he thought he finally had is actually getting destroyed. His reaction is not over the top, if you consider that he lived for 400 years old and a lot of the 17′000 lovers he had disappointed him and hurt him. His FAMILY betrayed him first, when he was 9.

      As I said, I don’t think Alec was completely wrong. I understand his position; however, Alec didn’t take into consideration Magnus’s thoughts and personal involvement, because Alec was in full soldier-leader mode.
      It IS stretching it a bit, but FOR MAGNUS, this is the same situation that happened in earlier season 2, when Isabelle was an yin fen addict. Magnus not telling Alec about Isabelle going after yin fen hurt Alec too: he expected Magnus to understand how important it was, because it was about HIS SISTER, it’s FAMILY. This, for Alec, is the difference between PERSONAL and PROFESSIONAL. The whole episode with Isabelle was personal, while the Soul Sword is not. For Magnus, both are.

      If you look at it from a story telling perspective, it IS good angst. It lays a wonderful path to follow: solving the trust issue once and for all; discussing on giving all, 100%, and putting walls down; being FINALLY on the same track about everything. Alec and Magnus ARE different people, and that was the whole point of the first date, back in 2x06, and the “EFFORT” they were engaging. ACCEPTANCE was the whole point of 2x07 on the other hand, when they both tried to overcome their old fears (for Alec overthinking and not following his instincts; for Magnus finding someone who doesn’t want anything in return) in order to move forwards. And this will be good as well: complete TRUST. Once they achieve that, they will finally understand where the other stands in specific situations and it will be easier to face future problems. That is the aim of a “healthy” fight followed by an honest discussion and peace: it is about knowing each other, completely.

      2


      (SHARK BAIT HOO HA HA! Sorry, I had to~ X3 I also had to compile a list of all of my favorite pet names for Sidon to use on his S/o and when he would use them because I didn’t want to leave any out. Enjoy!~)

      Pet Names:

      Warnings: Fluff, Pet Names, Mun rambles, Cute for the sake of being cute, It’s mostly just me talking




      • Old Classics

      - Love: Nothing beats the classics, that’s why they’re called the classics, and I especially like using this one often in fics and such because it is a gender-neutral term. Meaning I can use it whenever I want without taking anything away from the experience that I am directing toward everyone. I also just think it’s really sweet to be called someone’s love, like what could be more of a proclamation of love than that?

      - Dear/Dearest: Another one I use pretty often because it is also gender-neutral and retains that regal sappiness of Sidon’s that I adore bringing to light in the Zora because he doesn’t care what gender you are he just wants to express how much he loves you through cute names

      - Darling: Classic, loving, and ridiculously sweet; definitely suitable for Sidon and heart-melting to me. Love it~~

      - Sweetheart: Who doesn’t like the classic sweetheart when addressing your loved one? I certainly like it although I don’t think I use it super often because it’s a little longer than my other choices. It’s still good though and fits well with Sidon’s lovey-dovey attitude


      • Water & Sea Related Things

      - Pearl/Sweet Pearl: You guys already know that this one is my favorite by the sheer amount of times that I use it. I absolutely melt whenever I think of Sidon’s voice even uttering the word pearl. Because calling someone a pearl implies that they are this small but beautiful and precious treasure that can only be found one in a million. 10/10 good ish right there. Water related things just feel like a given for a Zora, especially an affectionate lover like Sidon

      - Little Minnow: This is a recent one that has grown on me after reading it somewhere because not only is it a cute pet name it has a certain playful tone that I find really adorable and sweet to hear from Sidon. So I like using it most in scenarios where Sidon is in a goofy/playful mood with his significant other and is teasing them

      - Droplet/Dew Drop: Another water related one that is super sweet and cute that I prefer using whenever Sidon is feeling particularly lovey-dovey though it is a little long

      - Guppy: Okay this one is way too goofy to be used in any other way then Sidon teasing his significant other calling him something so small and cute. Probably teasing them about how he could easily eat them up if he wanted to, just teasing them about their small stature in general

      - Sea Biscuit: So I’ve never heard this one until used before and I certainly haven’t used it but it feels like another cute and goofy name that Sidon would use in a teasing manner where he is lovingly joking with you. So I may use it in the future in a scenario of playful banter being exchanged by Sidon and his significant other or he needs a good way to cheer them up when they’re feeling down


      • Royal Titles

      - Prince/Princess: Love it, love it~ Sidon would try not to address you as his prince/princess until after marriage but when he does it would be in a situation where you aren’t feeling like you belong or just feel sad in general because he wants to remind you that you are such an important part of his life now, an invaluable part. However, I try to avoid it because it is rather gender specific and I don’t want to insert “My Prince/Princess” into a fic, I’ve been specifically avoiding doing any of the insert name here stuff because it takes away from the experience

      - King/Queen: Pretty much the same explanation as Prince/Princess but he would be more likely to use it after he is crowned King. Regardless I think that both options are really romantic but hold a certain maturity to them that I feel has to be used later in the relationship


      • Possessive

      - My…: For all of these names I enjoy them even more whenever they are preceded by a “My,” because that gives them a certain possessive undertone that I have a weakness for and I think that many other fans of Sidon do as well. Sidon is a ten foot tall beast of a man who still has this sort of primal side that drives him to protect what is his with a fierce drive so for the significant other to be that precious thing that belongs to him makes me feel like even more of a treasure and thrilled to be almost owned by Sidon but not quite

      - Mine: In a particularly possessive and primal mood like Sidon fighting off someone who dared to hurt or even touch what belongs to him I would absolutely utilize this one with the utmost pleasure. He is so overcome with his primal urges and desires that he has to call you this in a loud growl to make sure that everyone who hears him knows who you belong to

      I couldn’t upload this as soon as I wanted to, but this chart is the non-spoilery version of the romances. Any available details from the guide will be below the cut and will be in alphabetical order. 

      General info and tips will be first, then I’m posting details regarding each romance. These are only the details present in the guide. I am only like 7 hours into the game and haven’t even gotten Peebee yet. 

      THIS GETS SPECIFIC. THERE BE [~mild] SPOILERS. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED. 

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      anonymous asked:

      Would you have any tips on how to write a girl in the early 1800s, i.e. what she would wear, what the streets would be like, what she's expected to do for others etc?

      Hey there, love! Before I begin, I just want to say historical accuracy is a thing that lots of people struggle with and find themselves lost at where to start at as the internet contains a boatload of information! Now, seeing as you never specified where the setting is in your writing, I’m going to give you a general statement for each category.

      Also, a quick note before hand, if your book is fantasy or along the same lines of that genre, don’t feel limited to the history you just find online! Add your own stuff about the history. For example, if your story is about Vampires (and if they are widely known to exist), include national holidays for them or something like that. You can include things that don’t exist and alter things that do, just don’t be insensitive about it.

      Now that is out of the way, let us begin!

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      Clothing

      Starting with children, most still typically wore what we would call ‘hand-me-downs’ now or things cut and hemmed from adults old clothing if it didn’t fit. Infants and young children usually didn’t have clothes with a distinct sex intended about them or in other words, they’d be ‘unisex’. This typically consisted of some type of gown, robe, or tunic. As the children got older, however, their clothing got more in tune with their gender.

      Boys ( from 4-6) would either wear skirted outfits which were simpler than girls and lacked more color and trim. They also held more masculine details such as being accompanied by a dress of some sorts. Boys (from 7-14+) wore ankle-length trousers that were buttoned to a short jacket worn over a shirt with a wide collar edged in ruffles. For girls, they were typically always seen wearing dresses regardless of their age. The only difference is that as they grew older, their dress became more lengthier and complex. Please note that depending on status (whether they were a peasant or noble, etc), the quality of these items would differ. Peasants would receive the bare minimum and nobility were given the finer things. Most children were barefoot during the warmer months and wore loafers otherwise. Girls also had flats and heels.

      Now onto men, they usually wore breeches (a pair of pants/trousers that stopped at the knee or sometimes at the ankle) or pantaloons (a more casual version of breeches). They also typically wore coats with tails, shirts that featured cuffs, sometimes with ruffles down the front and wide collars. They also usually wore hessian or wellington boots and a cravat (a cloth worn around the neck), a top hat and a wig (as powdered wigs were in fashion back then though nobility and highly respected positions such as doctors, military, lawyers, etc usually only worn these and not peasants).

      For women, they always had to wear stockings and their undergarments were usually a pair of drawers (that peaked out in younger girls) and a chemise. As women were not supposed to show much skin back then, they wore a kerchief (similar to a cravat) though it could be taken off during formal occasions. They also wore corsets which was to support their body and perfect their posture. Peasants usually wore a cap and gown and they always had to have their hair up in a bun, usually. During colder weather, they would often wear a shawl over their gown and around their shoulders. Nobility usually wore petticoats under their much finer gown. Many women, regardless of status, had an everyday dress and a dress meant for church.

      What It’d Be Like

      Until the beginning of the 1840’s, most homes were made out of logs. During the 1840’s, bricks were made available though most peasants continued to use logs whilst the nobility and royals used bricks and stone. Most homes were not large and included a room for the family to live in and then another for the family business (doctors, lawyers, and others always made sure to have a separate room to do their work in). Streets were not paved and there were no cars. Usually, there were cobblestone or dirt streets and horse-drawn carriages were used.

      There isn’t much information on this though many worked on farms and such whilst the woman ran the houses (cleaning, cooking, etc) and the children did their chores or went to school (typically only boys did though few noble women did as well). Nobles typically had servants do their housework and nannies to care for young children and private tutors for their children.

      Women were expected to cook, clean, and take care of other household chores (unless they were slaves who worked in the field). Men typically worked from sunrise to sunset and weather often didn’t affect their jobs. Young girls often kept with their mother to learn how to do such chores whilst boys went to work from varying ages.

      There were some activities though such as painting, pottery, sewing, etc for women and hunting, gambling, going to bars/pubs, etc.


      I hope this helped some! I’m unsure of the accuracy of some as, like most, I rely on the internet for my research and am in no way a historian. However, if you have any additional questions about this on a specific area/culture of the world, feel free to send in another question, lovely! Good luck and happy writing!

      - Mod Lilly


      If you need advice on general writing or fanfiction, you should maybe ask us!

      Remember that time when Kyungsoo was asked what he would do if he and his friend liked the same girl? He said that he would give the girl up because he doesn’t like complicated relationships (from what I remember.
      However, in Knowing Brothers Kyungsoo was asked to pick between Love and Friendship, and he picked Love. Many people were surprised by this, probably because he doesn’t seem like it and because of what he said in the past interview. But why did he change his point of view? Didn’t he say before that he’ll give up love for friendship?
      Well the difference is that before he was asked specifically about a girl, whereas in KB he was asked about love in general, without specifying the gender.
      So what do you think could be the meaning behind this?

      4

      The results are in, and they’re fascinating! Between 2 surveys and 52 respondents, there seems to be some clarity regarding what might influence people’s decision to commission artists on Tumblr, including:

      1. Art quality
      2. The number of examples within the ad
      3. Clients’ familiarity with the artist
      4. Whether or not the client views the pricing as acceptable
      5. The presentation of the ad itself

      Given an exceptionally large fan-base, many of these factors could become irrelevant (as very popular artists require less advertisement). However, for those with a smaller following (myself included), even the smallest change to how we advertise ourselves could increase or decrease our likelihood of gaining a client. If you’d like to read about which changes could be beneficial, keep reading below the break.

      Note: Part 2 of the results will include information on appropriate pricing and what people consider sketches. Expect info on that in the near future.

      Thanks again to all those who participated in the surveys!

      Click here to read Part 2

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      anonymous asked:

      How do typical metalbending styles differ from earthbending ones?

      There are actually a few distinctions to be made here. However, one the main difference between earthbending and metalbending forms is that metalbending is much more hands on, using very precise hand and wrist movements to manipulate the metal. 

      Getting into specifics though with how different metalbeders bend differently, first we have Toph’s style. Having grown up and lived just when people were starting to learn to combine different styles (I’m looking at you, Team Avatar), her metalbending style is very much like the classic style of earthbending, in the sense that she is very much grounded, and uses strong stances and arm movements when she metalbends. 

      Zaofu’s general style is also very much like classic earthbending with its strong stances, though I’ve noticed a little more flexibility with their moves. 

      Kuvira’s style, as I mentioned before, is based on the Northern style of snake kung fu, which combines a strong, rooted stance, with quick strikes of the arm, which is great for her style of metalbending. 

      The most interesting though is Republic City Police style. Unlike other metalbenders, they’re really light on their feet when they’re on duty (this is usually assuming that they’re using their cables, and not doing heavy duty meta;bending where a strong stance is much more helpful). And, because they’re in the air a lot and swing from cables, it’s really useful for them use a style of metalbending that almost resembles airbending with its light footwork and midair spins 

      anonymous asked:

      Hey Sam - doing on this on anon because I don't want inadvertent blow-back, but it seems some on tumblr are planning to do a "boycott" by not posting/logging off/etc on Sept 1st (because staff is doing nothing re nazis and their ilk on tumblr). For some reason I want to say you've commented before on how while their hearts are in the right place it actually won't do anything that is noticed by staff etc? Or am I wrong? What do you think, Fandom Dad/Brother? Is this idea useful? What should we do

      As far as I can recall I’ve never talked about how in general protest won’t do anything – I don’t actually know enough about how tumblr measures metrics to say that, and I wouldn’t feel at all comfortable telling people not to boycott just because I thought it wouldn’t help, unless I had a better idea to share. So I think on that score you may be confusing me with someone else. Or misremembering something I said about how staff doesn’t seem to give a fuck about what we say. Tough to say. My memory is poor. *squints at own journal* 

      In re: what you should do, I don’t feel comfortable telling people what to do about a boycott without actually having seen discussion of it, which I haven’t – I wasn’t aware it was in the works. A boycott to protest @staff inaction over white supremacists on Tumblr is something I would be in favor of in a general sense, but without more information on who is suggesting it and what people are saying I can’t speak to this specific boycott. (By all means if you guys have links feel free to drop them in comments.) 

      However, generally speaking, when situations like this come up, what you should do is stop and think about what your participation will demonstrate about you and your values. Whether or not it causes  immediate or long-term change, participating will demonstrate solidarity with and support for those who have planned it. So I guess the question to ask yourself is where you want to stand. That may not always be with the protesters. Not every march is a march you want to join. The tiki-torch fascists were “protesting” too, after all.

      So I always believe you should look at who’s protesting, look at what values they’re presenting (particularly as regards intersectionality, looking at you Chicago Dyke March), and look at “what good” it will do as a distant third. Make your choice based on whether you think your voice should be part of that particular shouting, whether or not the shouting has any effect. 

      D.Gray-Man Context Analysis

      Let me first start off by saying that THIS IS NOT A THEORY. A theory, by definition, is an idea used to account for a situation or justify a course of action. An analysis, by definition, is the process of separating something into its constituent elements. (So, basically, a theory is putting elements of a subject together to prove/make sense of something, and an analysis is taking one thing and pulling it apart to break down and further understand the contents it contains.) Got it? Okay, good.

      The second thing I want to mention is that this particular subject I’m talking about is controversial and I will most likely lose a lot of you in the process. But, I ask you to hear me out and keep an open mind. The point of a literary analysis is to make you think in a way you never have before. It’s a more mature way of reading. Got it? Okay, good.

      With that out of the way, the specific scene in D.Gray-Man that I will be talking about is, arguably one of the most iconic moments in D.Gray-Man, when Allen and Tyki truly meet for the first time. (I’m talking about after Suman disperses into a bunch of Tyki’s flesh-eating butterflies moment.) Now, I know what you might be thinking: The context of that moment is pretty straight forward. Tyki was introduced officially in the series as another antagonist, was confirmed he was assigned to kill Allen, Tyki shows Allen what he can do because why not? He’s going to die anyway, he removes his arm, destroys his innocence and puts a hole in his heart because he wants him to die slowly. Sound about right? I think it does; but, what if it’s not? Let’s take the world and logic of D.Gray-Man out of context and then see what we have. A man looms behind a fifteen year old boy in the middle of an isolated forest. The boy doesn’t run away, not like he could, so the man approaches closer. The boy’s in no state to fight back; he wishes he was stronger. As the man talks, he tells him that he doesn’t touch anything unless he wants to touch it. He then proceeds to grab at the boy’s heart. The man then asks the boy, “What if I told myself I wanted to touch you, boy? Without making a cut into your body?” The boy is shocked and grows more anxious. “How do you think that would feel?”  What about now? What does that sound like to you? Answer honestly, because I literally just copied this off of that particular scene in the manga and just removed the names and plot from the story. Does it sound a bit…off? Like, you know and feel something is going to happen, but you know it has nothing to do with murder, but you know it’s equally just as bad, or worse? If you haven’t caught on yet, I’m surprised, because I’m laying it on pretty thick. (That, or you just don’t want to think that what I’m implying is what I’m implying.)

      Allen was raped by Tyki.

      And this is where you say I’m crazy and disgusting for even relatively thinking like this. Let me re-phrase it then.

      Allen was metaphorically raped by Tyki.

      I just lost you, didn’t I? Allow me to explain.

      In a book called, “How to Read Literature like a College Professor” written by a college professor, there are two chapters entitled, “It’s All About Sex…Unless It’s Sex.” In the first chapter, “It’s All About Sex” he mentions many metaphors in classic literature that so clearly references sex and or sexual desire. (The one he mentions so often in that chapter is a key and a bowl.) In that chapter, he also discusses that not all metaphors for said subject implicate that it was wanted and or legal. (He then proceeds to mention Clockwork Orange.) And that, my friends, is why this thought came to my sister and I’s head. (Yes; after reading that chapter, we both thought of this specific scene from D.Gray-Man.)

      So, now you probably see why I thought of the idea in the first place. But, now you’re probably thinking, “Why this specifically? How does that possibly lead to rape, or just sex in general?”  Both are great questions. After all, we clearly see that it wasn’t sexual, right? We see the pictures, it’s a manga after all. However, I would like to point out that Katsura Hoshino has done something like this before. What do you mean? I mean that hiding a deeper meaning under something visually obvious is not that uncommon of her. For example, the first few manga covers, 1 - 7 to be exact, are picture riddles. (You heard me right. She stated so in an interview.) And also, what about that time where she had Allen’s akuma seeing eye become injured, and Allen found himself terrified of the people around him. Because he simply couldn’t see which one was dangerous or not. That in itself is a much deeper, and realistic meaning than it seems at first glance. But now, back to the subject at hand. In the literary world, it isn’t uncommon for authors to hide what’s really happening in context. Like I said in the beginning, it’s highly controversial; so, they make it so that people can make what they want of it, and therefor taking some of that controversy out. Why would that not be the same here?

      Let me first start off by saying that Tyki is the Noah of Pleasure. The word has a multitude of meanings, sure, but that also means that all the definitions apply. Including the to give sexual satisfaction to one. Allen says that he is vulnerable and cannot defend for himself in the state that he’s in. Tyki impales him. (Okay, yeah, he has intangibility, but the implication is still there.)  Tyki says that he doesn’t touch anything unless he wants to. (And stating that out of context sounds sexual enough as it is.) The first thing he grabs is Allen’s heart. Sure, it’s literal, I know. But, the heart is a very common symbol in the romance area, even if it’s not wanted. However, this piece right here is the big one. This is the one that makes you think.

      Tyki stole, and destroyed, Allen’s innocence.

      Take that out of context, and you know what you get? The option to translate innocence into virginity. BOOM. Got you now, don’t I? Good, because we also can’t forget that Tyki wanted Allen to suffer. He didn’t flat out kill him, he left him there in pieces and broken to die slowly and painfully. But, we also can’t forget that when Allen does regain his innocence, his innocence is more protective over him. That says a lot to me. You know what else says a lot to me? The fact that after that Allen considers himself inhuman and just a tool used to be used in the war. Who knows if he thinks that now, but when he was told he couldn’t fight because he still hadn’t regained his innocence he thought that. (Lots of things that could hint towards sexual assault, if you know what I mean.)

      Of course, there’s one thing that could very much disprove everything I’ve just said: it’s a manga.

      It’s not a regular book where what you read is up to the imagination. The images are given to you so you have a visual of what exactly is happening. That, and the story is mainly told in dialogue. Not exactly narrated by something capable of using metaphors to give a visual; there is a visual.

      BUT, more so can be used to FURTHER PROVE THIS. Art can be analyzed just a deeply as words can. Angles play an important role in the visual aspect, as well as the expressions on a characters face, the contrast between the black and white outline, the shading used. They give you what they want you to see. So, what I’m going to do now, is show you pieces of that part of the manga, and you’re going to be thinking of all the things I just told you. Really take into consideration the format of the panels.    

      Now, do you see it? Did you just have an OMG moment? Even just taking away just a little bit of the pages gives you a different outlook. The parts where it’s heavily shaded can be interpreted differently. Don’t even get me started on the angles.

      Of course, this is DEBATABLE. I’m not saying this is what happened. I’m saying it’s a possibility. But, it really changes the way you think, doesn’t it?