Holiday-season

anonymous asked:

What’s your opinion on coming out as Genderfluid during the holiday season? I don’t plan on doing it during a celebration or anything, and I’m almost certain my parents will accept and respect my identity but idk if it would be too stressful for them or whatever. Thanks in advance!

Hiya,

I think Thanksgiving is a good holiday to come out on. Christmas (in my family) is more serious, whereas Thanksgiving is just about food. It’s convenient that everyone is in the same place to. I would probably write letters to various people! They’re personalized messages that can be read at their leisure. You could also come out to your most important family members (for me, it’d be my grandma) first, to give them extra time to adjust and get on your side about it. They can even field some questions for you. “No, don’t ask my grandchild if they’re going to get The Surgery, that’s rude! Mind your own business.” You could also do an all-at-once thing, maybe where a Genderfluid/Trans t-shirt or something?

Personally I’ve had letters go really well, or even texts! I think giving people time to mull it over is really helpful. Be sure to be upfront and stand your ground, don’t let people guilt you into using an old name/pronouns/gendered language if that’s not what you want. If your family is accepting, then the best way to help them adjust is to be out and confident.

(As always, this only applies if you’re certain you’ll be safe coming out. You don’t seem too worried about it, but it’s a very important thing for you and other people who read this to consider :) Be safe and good luck! Feel free to let me know how it goes, I’d love an update later <3)

Reasons the aliens might think we’re strange

“It’s the coldest time of year!  I’ve just killed one of the biggest forms of plant life on my planet – a rather small specimen, mind you; one that fits in a car – and brought it inside my home.”

“I will now hang various things of an aesthetically pleasing nature on it, and employ technology that makes it look like it’s burning with oddly-colored embers.”

“I will nail footwear over the house’s heating station.  I will put food and small luxury items in the footwear.”

“I will play music that, at any other time of year, would make me plug my ears and screech.”

“I will consume a liquid made of eggs, sprinkled with something that is hallucinogenic in high doses.  I will not use a high dose.  But I may add a mild poison, for recreational purposes.”

“I will sit with my egg-drink next to my simulated forest fire while the restricted music plays, and remark that this is my favorite time of year.”

“Then a month from now the tree will have been taken by the garbage collectors, and I’ll be complaining that the weather is cold and I can’t wait for springtime already.”

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Last week was our third anniversary - I can’t believe it’s been three years already! Unlike last year, we were together this time (the pains of long distance relationships across borders!) so I wore something pretty to go out for dinner and drinks with my Moosh. We look some photos in Cubbon Park before the light faded and then strolled over to Social for cocktails and the arguably the best poutine in Bangalore. I felt rather festive in my burgundy velvet skirt and snowflake stockings from Tabbisocks - ‘tis the season after all! The best thing about anniversaries around Christmas is how joyous and festive everything is all around. I might post some photos from our Christmas celebrations later - we managed to dish up a full Christmas dinner with all the trimmings but forgot to get any pics of it! In the meantime, I hope y’all are having a joyous, restful and much needed winter break ♥

Wearing

New Look frill top {Similar}✶ New Look quilted velvet skirt ✶ Tabbisocks Snowflake socks ✶ ASOS suede clogsBoohoo circle bag

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No matter how you celebrate the season, may it be full of love, light and peace for you all and for those you hold dear to your hearts. Tell those around you how much you love them… not just at this time of year but every chance you get.  Just tell them.  Merry Christmas, Joyeux Noël , Fröhliche Weihnachten, Feliz navidad… happy, happy holidays to all… xoxo

shoutout to abuse victims and people with ptsd who are forced to live with the source of their trauma.

shoutout to people who have to see their abuser(s) every day.

shoutout to people who dread the holiday season because they have to see their abuser(s).

shoutout to you folks. your trauma is valid and i hope you can get away very soon. stay safe.