story time

so basically i had glasses in year 4-5 bc i cant see for shit and i was getting headaches and stuff but people started making fun of me for being a smart person with glasses and made me feel super ugly when they were on so i stopped wearing them bc i wanted to fit in. But then i grew up and now in retrospect that was a stupid ass thing like wtf i couldn’t see fuck those little shits i was beautiful. 

So grade 11 is a thing that happened and id just moved schools and had been there for like 2 or 3 months and i was like this is crazy I’m blind af time to get some glasses. but then the first day i wore them some douche dick was like “you look better without glasses” and i was pissed bc like how dare he, a 16 year old boy, still do the same bullshit as these 10 year old bullies??? surely he had matured? apparently not. So I was like “Why’s that?” and he said (I shit you not) “When girls wear glasses they look smarter and no guy wants a girl who is smarter than them”

i literally had to explain to a person that i wore the glasses because i have shitty vision and not because i wanted to attract a male. it took a whole hour.
then right at the end he goes “okay keep the glasses then, but you’re going to have to act dumb if you want a boyfriend” and this ladies, gentlemen and non-binaries is a fine example of the frailty of the uneducated straight male brain.

anonymous asked:

You like when Nate calls you unattractive names like "elephant" I'm a bigger girl and have high self esteem but I'd be so offended if my boyfriend said anything to me like that

I am laughing so hard omg.

He made me a breakfast elephant. He didn’t say he made me breakfast and call me an elephant HAHAHA!

But also he calls me a hippo princess all the time because I love hippos and he loves elephants so if he ever called me an elephant I’d think that was sweet too.

Omg this message is a wreck.

Treat yourself the way you treat your favorite characters. Look into your back-story to understand your current plot. Sympathize with yourself. Recognize your flaws, and appreciate your strengths. Defend yourself. Cheer yourself on when you go into battle. Appreciate every relationship you make and always look for hidden potential. You’re the protagonist in your story. You’re the main character. You’re the hero.

Treat yourself like one.

Characteristics of High Self-Esteem
  1. Lives authentically
  2. Demonstrates self-responsibility - does not blame others
  3. Takes responsibility for life and consequences of actions
  4. Sets goals and is committed 
  5. Has purpose in life
  6. Is emotionally and intellectually honest with self and others
  7. Confronts and deals with fears
  8. Is aware of both strengths and weaknesses (self-objective)
  9. Is self-respectful and sets appropriate limits and boundaries 
  10. Does not lie about the choices he/she makes
  11. Self accepting and self-soothing (does not seek external sources to “make it okay”)
  12. Self-sufficient (thinks and makes decisions independently)
  13. Does not hold grudges
  14. Is persistent in all efforts
  15. Is genuinely grateful
  16. Positive attitude (cup is half full not half empty)
  17. Accepts others
  18. Genuinely pleased for the success of others
  19. Does not compare oneself to others
  20. Directs efforts toward being the best he/she can be (recognizes that life is about continual personal growth with an aim for excellence not perfection)
  21. Lives according to one’s own internal values, principles, and standards
  22. Chooses to see opportunity and challenges instead of problems 
  23. Is spontaneous and enthusiastic about life
  24. Is able to praise oneself and others for efforts and accomplishments
  25. Is able to see the big picture versus being trapped by stumbling blocks (mistakes have value)
  26. Appropriately asks for help and utilizes resources
  27. Is an active participant in life
  28. Is comfortable with self and can enjoy alone time
  29. Is true to oneself
  30. Has quiet self-confidence

you can never have too much self esteem. you can never love yourself TOO much. if you have a lot of self esteem, you just acknowledge how good you’re are at some things and you have the power to keep the bad comments of some people away. keep up like this I love you as much as you love yourself you go lil ray of sunshine ❤️

This picture is from a two years ago, when I was backpacking in Europe.  This was just outside the Austrian town Hallstatt.  I like this picture because I’m doing something that I love doing, traveling and seeing new places.  Also, the little things; my hair is all under a hat, because it was freaking cold, but you can see a bit of the crazy curliness that I love about it.  It doesn’t hurt that I’m wearing my Harry Potter shirt, and that is just a subtle representation of my nerdiness and my obsession with books of any kind!

-Sara Connor

You know what. Nah. Im great. I’m fabulous, I don’t care what weight I am. I don’t care what the doctor says, cause I’m chubby and beautiful.I don’t care if I’m not a target weight, I feel fiiiiine as hell in mah own skin.I am adorable, and every inch of my chubby body is wonderful. I’m not gonna let it get me down, if I lose weight, then cool! If not, OH WELL. I’M STILL AMAZING AND BEAUTIFUL. SO IMA DELETE THAT LAST POST, AND EVERYONE CAN SUCK IT, CAUSE I’M GONNA KEEP THIS BODY POSITIVITY I HAVE. BECAUSE I HAVE WORKED TOO LONG AND HARD FOR TO GIVE IT UP!