Raf didn't lose his virginity until he was enlisted; he was waiting for 'the one', but once he wound up fighting he decided maybe he wouldn't make it back home to find her (or him!). He was on shore leave when he wound up with some pretty, scrappy girl whose name he can't remember to this day. She kept calling him hon — 'You look lost, hon.' 'Gonna buy me a drink, hon?' He wound up picking up the habit and used it with his wife without even realising where he got it from.