Happiness

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I don’t know if this is particularly heartwarming but it makes me feel better and I hope someone will see this and feel… Something, I don’t know.

I recently discovered I was moving away from my home. I’ve been living here for a decade now. This has been my only home as far as I’m concerned. I remember nothing before this house. All my friends are here, and I was assigned brilliant teachers this year. Amazing courses were given and made. I was actually looking forward to this year, and just a few days ago, my family told me we were moving away. It isn’t even that far, but it’s far enough that I won’t be able to see my friends that much, and I’m going to totally uncharted territory.

Me, being totally new to this, panic. I’ve told a few of my friends, and some are sad, and some are even ANGRY at me for moving. “It isn’t my choice! I would stay if I could!” I tell them, but they won’t take it.

But, out of all this, there’s one friend that’s being supportive. I don’t even think he knows it, but it’s helping me sleep at night when anxiety and depression take hold. He was initially really bummed, even told me “that’s sad, man. I’m sorry.” I ask him “What’s it like?” our next class period and he says this to me (paraphrasing but the same points and phrases):

“I’ve moved around a lot, and it isn’t that bad…. Actually, it kinda sucks a lot. Especially when you go into a totally different place. I came from Mississippi, went to a few other states before I came here. The first few days you feel sad, with all the unpacking, nothing’s ready. But it’s also the whole getting used to calling a place you’ve never been in before ‘Home’ instead of ‘This place’ or 'This house’. But after a while, however long that may be, you get used to it. 'Home’ comes to mind easier and though you don’t forget the last place, you accept that this place, home, is the same thing. It’s just somewhere else with new people. And I know this is cheesy, but it’s another chance. You’ll still really miss HOME home though. You’ll always miss it, but it doesn’t mean you’ll like your new home any less.”

Now this dude, we aren’t particularly close, but we’ve been pals for 4 years. We’re there for each other at times, we laugh with each other and all. I think this had us grow a little closer though.

It’s really been helping me have a more positive outlook on this, and I’m thankful for him. He didn’t sugar coat it, he was truthful. I needed that truth, not the marshmallow-goo “this place is even better” stuff.

It made me feel like I wasn’t the only one who had trouble with this.

If you want to be happy, you have to let go of the part of you that wants to create melodrama. This is the part that thinks there’s a reason not to be happy. You have to transcend the personal, and as you do, you will naturally awaken to the higher aspects of your being. In the end, enjoying life’s experiences is the only rational thing to do. You’re sitting on a planet spinning around in the middle of absolutely nowhere. Go ahead, take a look at reality. You’re floating in empty space in a universe that goes on forever. If you have to be here, at least be happy and enjoy the experience. You’re going to die anyway. Things are going to happen anyway. Why shouldn’t you be happy? You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer. There’s always going to be something that can bother you, if you let it.
—  Michael A. Singer, The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

anonymous asked:

I am trying to practice Buddhas teachings and be a better person but I find it very difficult sometimes because my mom always puts me down for no reason (I'm only 15) I still love her but I find it to not think about sadness and be angry at times when she calls me useless or says things like I have no friends or continually says things about how she finds things that I like to do stupid. I don't usually mind in the moment but it can eventually get quite tiring and sometimes she's hard to respect

Wow! Your mother is so much kinder compared to mine; I have crossed my teenage, she still believes I know nothing, haha. It’s alright Dear One! We all have days when our practice becomes weak, but that’s the exact time we have to put more effort. Easy situations don’t really require patience, the difficult times are the ones that really test us. And our practice is especially for those times. Don’t break, you’re doing awesome.

Most of our problems with our parents are very childish, and so here we must try our best to get out of the situation without resorting to anger, instead try some humor next time, if you can. It always lightens up the tension. I try and do that, lol. Also, when your mom gets cranky, picture her as a child and you become a parent, be patient with her, this is what my teacher says. This works too. I am so proud of you. You’re just 15 and doing so great. Message me, I might learn a thing or two from you.

Take care Dear One! Peace and love to you. May you find your happiness. Keep reading, reflecting and meditating.