The thing that really gets me about the les mis fandom (and I don’t mean all of it, because there definitely are exceptions) is that Grantaire is depressed, and Joly has hypochondria. Nobody ever puts them down for their mental illnesses. They still deserve love. They are loved. And that’s great. That’s how it should be.
But then these people that write about just how much these two fictional characters deserve love, when they come across real people who go through some of the same things need love, they turn the other cheek. They drop them. Or they give them a pat on the back and tell them it’ll get better and their work is done. Or they offer to be there to vent to, and listen, but as soon as they’re taken up on the offer, they up and leave.
If Grantaire is depressed, and you think he deserves unconditional love, and you want him to be cared about, and reminded time and time again that he’s worth something, give that to real people who relate to Grantaire.
If Joly has hypochondria, and quite possibly OCD, and you think he deserves love, and you can agree that even two people can love him so wholeheartedly, and that he can have someone to help him through the process and how difficult it is, and that people shouldn’t give up on him when he relapses… treat real people the same way.
They set these standards for fictional characters, but don’t want to meet those standards for real people. C’mon, people. You know how to take care of these real people with these real issues. You write about it. You talk about it. Now do it.