i like your blog but you post to many black goths. imho they just dont look right.
They look just as beautiful as any white goths and they have the right to express themselves and exist in this space as much as anyone else.
I’ve said this before but I’ll repeat since it needs to be said:
There is no right skin colour to be goth. Period. Goth is a composite of multiple things and appearance is just one fraction of all that. Skin colour, hair colour, make-up style, gender, and whatnot do not define whether you can be goth or not, and no way is the “right” way to have them.
The pale red-lipped and black-haired girl dressed in all black might be the stereotype of a goth but that is a very shallow and one-sided representation of the people in the community. How many of us actually fit into that stereotype? How many of us strive to look like that because if we don’t, we will get told we don’t look right? Goth has since its beginning featured many ethnicities, and there is nothing weird about non-white goths in the subculture. Research information and photos of the English goth scene in the 80s. There are loads of non-white goths absolutely rocking the original look (not to mention creating other forms of gothy art like alternative music). The main reason it “doesn’t look right” to you is because the stereotype is so strong and over-represented in gothic imagery. But we all know stereotypes can be terribly, terribly wrong, which leads to this kind of racism (yes, that’s what this is).
There are many gothic styles I personally don’t like, but it is not my place to tell those people that I don’t think they look good. I wouldn’t want them telling me that, so why would I do that to others? And I’m talking about styles that someone chooses to wear, so can you even imagine hearing it about something you cannot choose like skin colour? I understand that it is your personal preference and your opinion but is it necessary to bring it up when all it will do is discourage people from being a part of a community they feel they belong to? There’s a ton of people outside the subculture whose ignorance can make being a goth difficult, we shouldn’t be doing that to each other within the subculture too.
Some goths are black, some goths are Asian, some goths wear hijabs, some goths keep their natural hair, the list goes on. And they all look gorgeous and have as much right to express themselves in the subculture as white goths. In reality the subculture is extremely diverse but there is so much gate-keeping from goths who think that you need to look like X and listen to Y that we end up only seeing a glimpse of it all. That shouldn’t be, and as corny as it sounds, we should try to create a comfortable, safe community instead of one that shuns people out because they do not fit a stereotype.
The non-white goths aren’t going anywhere from my blog, they belong there as much as any white goth, classic horror heroine or Addams Family member.
Dear Auntie Jilli, I was wondering what hair dye you use? It always seems to be beautifully bright and doesn't really fade when we get to see your wonderful face! (Is it an Eldergoth Cabal secret? Fab hair only for the Chosen Few? 👿)
Aww, thank you! I think part of the brightness is due to the grey/white strands really grabbing and holding my dye.
I use a 50/50 mix of Manic Panic “Vampire Red” and Special Effects “Burgundy Wine”. I apply it, put a plastic cap on my head, and leave it on for about 3 hours. Then I rinse (rinse, rinse, and rinse some more) with cool water, then do one final rinse with cool water mixed with a bit of apple cider vinegar.
I add about 1-2 teaspoons of my dye mix to my shampoo and conditioner, so I’m refreshing the color when I wash my hair. (Also, I only wash my hair once a week.) (Yes, I’m one of those people. But I don’t actually use a lot of hair products, so I don’t have to worry about product buildup.)
Aaaaand I made myself some custom dry shampoo!
1/2 cup of arrowroot powder (tho’ you can use cornstarch).
A few drops of BPAL Blood Popsicle. (Because of course I want my hair to smell like Blood Popsicle).
A bunch of burgundy, red, and bright pink eye shadow pigments that were not quite the shade I wanted for makeup. (And a dash of pink glitter. Because why not?)
I mixed all of that together in a ziplock bag, then decanted it into an empty jar. I apply it to my roots with a blush brush, then vigorously brush my hair. The burgundy/pink color of my custom dry shampoo means I don’t get that weird ashy-powdery look that regular dry shampoos leave on wacky-colored hair. And leaves the tiniest trace of glitter, which is important, dammit.
Now that I’ve really embraced the idea of dickies/collars/false shirt fronts as a way to make my summer wardrobe even more elaborate and vaguely antique looking, I’ve started eyeing inexpensive blouses with an eye to cutting them apart and making my own dickies.
On the one hand, this would be a SUPER easy project for me. Perfect for working on while watching vampire movies in the evening!
On the other hand, it’s not like I need more projects. I have SO MANY PROJECTS.