Goku:ChiChi, I know you've probably suspected this, but over the last month, I've fallen completely in love with you. Now, obviously this was going to happen because you're a goddess with that face, and that hair.
But even if you didn't have a nice face, and even if you had absolutely no hair because of some bizarre medical reason, I'd still adore you.
Before you try and tell someone that they’re not allowed to be upset at how someone treats their favorite character, try to think of the possibilities on why they care so much.
Why do I get upset when people try and argue with me that Chichi is without a doubt an abusive mom? Because Chichi reminds me a lot of my mom. Sure she’s not a perfect match but she still reminds me of her. I understand why she yells because my mom also yells. It’s stress and it’s too much stress being put on her to make sure her child has a good future ahead of them despite the lot in life they were given.
Why do I get upset when people say Goku wasn’t around his family enough for his family to possibly love him? Because Goku reminds me of my own dad. My dad’s absence to do what he needs to to keep our family together coupled with the intense things we would do when he was around to make up for it reminds me of him. I understand why he’s not around. It’s out of love that he stays away and works as hard as he does but he’s not blind to the need to be around so he always does what he can when he can.
Why do I get upset when people say that Gohan is wasting his time with his passion and should instead focus on fighting because it’s what he’s best at? It’s because I am wasting my time trying to be an animator when what I’m really good at is singing.
When you tell me I’m wrong for not thinking Chichi is abusive because she yells at Gohan, I am hearing you tell me I’m wrong for not thinking my own mother is abusive all because she yelled at me.
When you tell me I’m wrong for not thinking Goku is a bad father because he wasn’t around 100% of the time, I am hearing you tell me I’m wrong for not thinking my own father is bad all because he wasn’t around 100% of the time.
When you tell me I’m wrong for thinking Gohan is strong for sticking to his passion despite what talents he has, I am hearing that I’m wrong for wanting to stick to animation even though my life is opening so many doors for me to focus on singing.
I recognize that this is personal resonates and I separate it from my debates. I keep my debates in series and I’m not about to tell people they’re wrong for not thinking like I do. I know that other people resonate with these characters differently, hell, that’s what I love and find so impressive about the series.
But don’t try and tell me that I’m wrong for resonating the way I do or that it doesn’t matter if Goku is a good dad or not, or it doesn’t matter if Chichi is considered an abusive parent or not, or it doesn’t matter what Gohan feels in all this because it’s an action show and all that matters is the fights. This is important to me and goes deep. Don’t yell at me saying “I had my dad walk out on me as a kid so I know what I’m talking about and you don’t so shut up Gohan hates Goku!”(someone has actually said this to me) because what I am hearing is “I had my dad walk out on me and I’m equating that to parents who have to work all day every day in order to keep their family together. Therefore you should hate your dad and if you don’t you’re stupid!”
I resonate with these characters on a deep and personal level. Don’t tell me I’m not allowed to defend them all because “they’re not real”.