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101 self care ideas for when it all gets too much

1. Have a good, long, body-shaking cry.

2. Call a trusted friend or family member and talk it out.

3. Call in sick. Take comp time if you can. Take a mental health day.

4. Say no to extra obligations, chores, or anything that pulls on your precious self-care time.

5. Book a session (or more!) with your therapist.

6. Dial down your expectations of yourself at this time. When you’re going through life’s tough times, I invite you to soften your expectations of yourself and others.

7. Tuck yourself into bed early with a good book and clean sheets.

8. Watch a comforting/silly/funny/lighthearted TV show or movie.

9. Reread your favorite picture and chapter books from childhood.

10. Ask for some love and tenderness from your friends on social media. Let them comment on your post and remind you that you’re loved.

11. Look at some some really gorgeous pieces of art.

12. Watch Youtube videos of Ellen DeGeneres and the adorable kids she has on her show.

13. Look at faith-in-humanity-restoring lists from Buzzfeed.

14. Ask for help. From whoever you need it – your boss, your doctor, your partner, your therapist, your mom. Let people know you need some help.

15. Wrap yourself up in a cozy fleece blanket and sip a cup of hot tea.

16. Breathe. Deeply. Slowly. Four counts in. Six counts out.

17. Hydrate. Have you had enough water today?

18. Eat. Have you eaten something healthy and nourishing today?

19. Sleep. Have you slept 7-9 hours? Is it time for some rest?

20. Shower. Then dry your hair and put on clothes that make you feel good.

21. Go outside and be in the sunshine.

22. Move your body gently in ways that feel good. Maybe aim for 30 minutes. Or 10 if 30 feels like too much.

23. Read a story (or stories) of people who overcame adversity or maybe dealt with mental illness, too. (I personally admire JK Rowling’s story.)

24. Go to a 12-Step meeting. Or any group meeting where support is offered. Check out church listings, hospital listings, school listings for examples.

25. If you suspect something may be physiologically off with you, go see your doctor and/or psychiatrist and talk to them. Medication might help you at this time and they can assist you in assessing this.

26. Take a long, hot bath, light a candle and pamper yourself.

27. Read these inspirational quotes.

28. Cuddle someone or something. Your partner. A pillow. Your friend’s dog.

29. Read past emails/postcards/letters etc. from friends and family reminding you of happier times.

30. Knit. Sculpt. Bake. Engage your hands.

31. Exhaust yourself physically – running, yoga, swimming, whatever helps you feel fatigued.

32. Write it out. Free form in a journal or a Google doc. Get it all out and vent.

33. Create a plan if you’re feeling overwhelmed. List out what you need to do next to tackle and address whatever you’re facing. Chunk it down into manageable and understandable pieces.

34. Remember: You only have to get through the next five minutes. Then the next five. And so on.

35. Take five minutes to meditate.

36. Write out a list of 25 Reasons Why You’ll Be OK.

37. Write out a list of 25 Examples of Things You’ve Overcome or Accomplished.

38. Write out a list of 25 Reasons Why You’re a Good, Lovable Person.

39. Write out a list of 25 Things That Make Your Life Beautiful.

40. Sniff some scents that bring you joy or remind you of happier times.

41. Ask for support from friends and family via text if voice-to-voice contact feels like too much. Ask them to check in with you via text daily/weekly. Whatever you need.

42. Lay down on the ground. Let the earth/floor hold you. You don’t have to hold it all on your own.

43. Clean up a corner of a room of your house. Sometimes tidying up can help calm our minds.

44. Ask yourself: What’s my next most immediate priority? Do that. Then ask the question again.

45. Read some poetry. Rumi, Hafiz, Mary Oliver are all excellent.

46. Take a tech break. Delete or deactivate social media if it feels too triggering right now.

47. Or maybe get on tech. If you’ve been isolating maybe even interacting with friends and family online might feel good.

48. Go out in public and be around others. You don’t have to engage. But maybe go sit in a coffee shop or on a bench at a museum and soak up the humanity around you.

49. Or if you’re feeling too saturated with contact, go home. Cancel plans and tend to the introverted parts of yourself.

50. Ask friends and family to remind you that things will be OK and that what you’re feeling is temporary.

51. Put up some Christmas lights in your bedroom. They often make things more magical.

52. Spend a little money and treat yourself to some self-care and comfort. Maybe take a taxi versus the bus. Buy your lunch instead of forcing yourself to pack it. Buy some flowers that delight you.

53. Make art. Scribble with crayons. Splash some watercolors. Paint a rock. Whatever. Just create something.

54. Go wander around outside in your neighborhood and take a look at all the lovely houses and the way people decorate their gardens. Delight in the diversity of design.

55. Go visit or volunteer at your local animal rescue. Pet some animals.

56. Look at photos of people you love. Set them as the wallpaper of your phone or laptop.

57. Create and listen to a playlist of songs that remind you of happier times.

58. Read some spiritual literature.

59. Scream, pound pillows, tear up paper, shake your body to move the energy out.

60. Eat your favorite, most comforting foods.

61. Watch old Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood videos online.

62. Turn off the lights, sit down, stare into space and do absolutely nothing.

63. Pick one or two things that feel like progress and do them. Make your bed. Put away the dishes. Return an email.

64. Go to a church or spiritual community service. Sit among others and absorb any guidance or grace that feels good to you.

65. Allow yourself to fantasize about what you’re hoping or longing for. There are clues and energy in your reveries and daydreams that are worth paying attention to.

66. Watch Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response videos to help you calm down and fall asleep at night.

67. Listen to monks chanting, singing Tibetan bowls or nature sounds to help soothe you.

68. Color in some adult coloring books.

69. Revisit an old hobby. Even if it feels a little forced, try your hand at things you used to enjoy and see what comes up for you.

70. Go to the ocean. Soak up the negative ions.

71. Go to the mountains. Absorb the strength and security of them.

72. Go to the forest. Drink in the shelter, life and sacredness of the trees.

73. Put down the personal help books and pick up some good old fashioned fiction.

74. Remember: Your only job right now is to put one foot in front of the other.

75. Allow and feel and express your feelings – all of them! – safely and appropriately.Seek out help if you need support in this.

76. Listen to sad songs or watch sad movies if you need a good cry.

77. Dance around wildly to your favorite, most cheesy songs from your high school years.

78. Put your hands in dirt. If you have a garden, go garden. If you have some indoor plants, tend to them. If you don’t have plants or a garden, go outside. Go to a local nursery and touch and smell all the gorgeous plants.

79. If you want to stay in bed all day watching Netflix, do it. Indulge.

80. Watch or listen to some comedy shows or goofy podcasts.

81. Look for and Google up examples of people who have gone through and made it through what you’re currently facing. Seek out models of inspiration.

82. Get expert help with whatever you need. Whether that’s through therapy, psychiatry, a lawyer, clergy, let those trained to support you do it.

83. Educate yourself about what you’re going through. Learn about what you’re facing, what you can expect to feel, and how you can support yourself in this place.

84. Establish a routine and stick to it. Routines can bring so much comfort and grounding in times of life that feel chaotic or out of control.

85. Do some hardcore nesting and make your home or bedroom as  cozy and beautiful and comforting as possible.

86. Get up early and watch a sunrise.

87. Go outside and set up a chair and watch the sunset.

88. Make your own list of self-soothing activities that engage all five of your senses.

89. Develop a supportive morning ritual for yourself.

90. Develop a relaxing evening ritual for yourself.

91. Join a support group for people who are going through what you’re going through. Check out the listings at local hospitals, libraries, churches, and universities to see what’s out there.

92. Volunteer at a local shelter or hospital or nursing home. Practice being of service to others who may also be going through a tough time.

93. Accompany a friend or family member to something. Even if it’s just keeping them company while they run errands, sometimes this kind of contact can feel like good self-care.

94. Take your dog for a walk. Or borrow a friend’s dog and take them for a walk.

95. Challenge your negative thinking.

96. Practice grounding, relaxation techniques.

97. Do something spontaneous. Walk or drive a different way to work. Order something new off the menu.Listen to a Spotify playlist of new songs.

98. Work with your doctor, naturopath or nutritionist to develop a physical exercise plan and food plan that will be supportive to whatever you’re facing right now.

99. Pray. Meditate. Write a letter to God/The Universe/Source/Your Higher Self, whatever you believe in.

100. As much as you can, please try and trust the process.

101. Finally, please remember, what you’re going through right now is temporary. It may not feel like that from inside the tough time you’re in, but this too shall pass and you will feel different again someday. If you can’t have faith in that, let me hold the hope for you

What People Don’t Normally Notice About the Signs Prt I

Aries: You are very caring and loving. You know what to say to make people smile when they’re in a bad mood. You can be very self-destructive, though not many people know that about you. When you get depressed, you tend to shut off all emotions (good or bad). I would say you’re the most loving sign.

 Taurus: You absolutely hate being weak and vulnerable. But you have to let your guard down some time. You’re also very hypocritical and purposely cause problems for yourself. But on the bright side, if anyone is in need for an awakening or advice you should be the first person they go to. I would say you’re the most opinionated.

Gemini: You can surprisingly be very caring. Though you don’t like to let people know you care. You go to other people to see how a person is doing, you never go to that person to see. Lot’s of people think you’re an asshole, but honestly I think you do that to guard yourself. I would say you’re the most emotional.

Cancer: You don’t really fit in with others. Everyone always say how mature and motherly Cancers are. But I don’t know how wrong they could be. You’re a kid at heart despite how old you are. There’s just something so youthful about your aura. I would say you’re the most fun loving and kid-like sign.

Leo: Despite a huge ego, you are probably the most caring out of any of the zodiac. No matter what, you always are there for someone regardless if you’re struggling with someone. Some people may not know that even though you are very extroverted, you have many characteristics of an introvert. 

Virgo: You help so many people. Extremely generous with almost everyone. But you tend to run away and avoid your problems instead of facing them. You never give anytime for yourself. Make time for yourself. Pamper yourself just for the hell of it. I don’t know just do something for yourself. You’re probably the most selfless out of the zodiac.

Libra: You’re attention span is very short. Metaphorically, you’d be playing with one object then drop to out of no where because you see a newer object. Also, you tend to do very dangerous things just for the adrenaline rush/the good feeling. I would have to say you’re the most reckless sign.

Scorpio: You can easily cut people off if you find one thing you don’t like about that person. You don’t allow other to read your emotions, you see that as a sign of weakness. You are a power hungry person and will do absolutely anything to achieve what you want. You are the most cold hearted out of the signs.

Sagittarius: When you aren’t mad over petty stuff, you’re pretty chill. You’re very ambitious and motivated to get you where you want to be. Not to mention, when a family member or friend is feeling down you know how to comfort them. Sagittarius would be the most comforting/welcoming of the zodiac.

Capricorn: You like to act so emotionless all the time. You plan out everything for your future. I believe it’s because you’re scared of the unknown. If something out of the blue happened you would be a wreck on the inside. Yet you’re wise beyond your years. You’re so philosophical and intelligent. I would have to say you’re the wisest of the zodiac.

Aquarius: You like to plan out every detail to every plan to make sure you won’t get blamed for anything. You’re extremely sneaky and cunning. You’ll figure stuff out about people and use it against them. You’re the most manipulative of the zodiac.

Pisces: You’re an adorable little fucker and you use that to your advantage sometimes. You like to hurt someone then tell that person they’re not hurting. Even though you can be very sweet, you can be very cruel for no reason. You stab someone in the back then act like you’re the one who was bleeding. You’re the most victimizing sign.

******NOTE: I AM DOING THIS BASED OFF MY OBSERVATION SKILLS. I DID THE SCORPIO ONE BASED OFF ME SINCE I’M A SCORPIO. I’M SORRY IF YOU DON’T LIKE IT. I JUST WANTED TO POINT OUT STUFF NO ONE ELSE POINTS OUT.

10 of the Hardest Moments Ambiverts Have In Their Lives

If you’re an ambivert, an individual who possess qualities of both introverts and extroverts, try to see if these points relate.

  1. When you go out you wish you were home, and when you stay home you wish you went out. When you are home alone, you get a bad case of FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). Conversely, when you are out you feel that you could be getting much more done (whatever that means) when you are home.
  2. You can never get everything done. You want to meet new people, go to new places and experience new things all while your inner introvert plans a full day of self-education and reflection. Unfortunately there aren’t 48 hours in a day so you tend to be anxious!

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How to like yourself

1. Cultivate self-acceptance. That means you accept yourself for who you are right now. It means you don’t say things like “I would accept myself if … or … I’ll accept myself when.”
2. Stop going over all things you’ve done wrong, the mistakes you’ve made, and your (perceived) inadequacies.
3. Where there’s something in your past that you feel bad about say: “This is what I learned from that situation … And that was THEN and this is NOW.”
4. Don’t compare yourself to others . Instead notice the areas where you’ve grown and changed. Deliberately praise and focus on those positive changes.
5. Don’t fall into the trap of judging others – as that will often lead to being self-critical.

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ORGANIZATION 

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ANTI-PROCRASTINATION 

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in case you didn’t realize how bad my procrastination has been getting, this is a web thing i made earlier this year to help me be less lazy and get more things done. basically you click anywhere and it creates a new Task, which you can edit and set a cycle for - the idea is that you keep the page open in a tab somewhere, and whenever one of your tasks times down to 0, the whole page goes red and starts making a faint but annoying noise until you click on the task to reset it and go actually Do The Thing

this took me a couple days to hack together; unfortunately, as with everything i ever attempt, i somehow never found the energy to add the finishing touches and i’ve basically never really used the thing and it’s been sitting uselessly in a folder ever since

my procrastination is getting so bad it’s become self-aware and is thwarting my attempts to control it

The Psychology of Your Doodles

For any doodlers here.

Originally posted by catee

Triangles, squares , geometrical shapes: Geometrical shapes may indicate that the person has got a rational and logical way of thinking. This person may also be a good planner. Drawing a triangle sometimes signifies the internal desire of going up or advancing in your career or social life.

Arrows, ladders Arrows and ladders may indicate that the person is ambitious, obsessed about some goals and looking forward to some achievements.

Doodling Good Looking Faces: Good looking faces may indicate that the person is social, people loving and optimistic.

Doodling Funny faces: Funny faces may indicate that the person has a good sense of humor

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How to Like Yourself

1. Cultivate self-acceptance. That means you accept yourself for who you are right now. It means you don’t say things like “I would accept myself if … or … I’ll accept myself when.”

2. Stop going over all things you’ve done wrong, the mistakes you’ve made, and your (perceived) inadequacies.

3. Where there’s something in your past that you feel bad about say: “This is what I learned from that situation … And that was THEN and this is NOW.”

4. Don’t compare yourself to others. Instead notice the areas where you’ve grown and changed. Deliberately praise and focus on those positive changes.

5. Don’t fall into the trap of judging others – as that will often lead to being self-critical.

dont put too much pressure on yourself. everything will be okay.

What to do When you get a Bad Grade

1. Don’t mope around and keep beating yourself up. That will only distract you from your studying, and stop you from doing your best in other subjects.

2. Remember a bad grade is only a bad grade. It doesn’t mean you’re worthless or have failed as a person.

3. Try and find a way to let your feelings out through some kind of physical activity. For example, through running, jogging, or going to the gym.

4. Aim to do better on the next test you have. There will still be other tests where you can get a higher mark. Maybe see it as a wake-up call, and change your study habits.

5. Try and figure out why you received the bad grade. Do you need to study more, or to learn some new techniques? Did you not fully understand the course material? Did you just have a bad day, or were you tired or feeling sick?

6. Get extra help from your teachers if you need it. Most of them are happy to answer students’ questions.

7. Be determined to keep going and to persevere. It’s easier to do well with a good attitude.

Wake: a potion for last minute mornings, rough weeks, and all-nighter recovery

As some of you may have noticed, I’ve been a bit absent from this blog since college started back up—mostly due to being completely overwhelmed by a tremendous amount of work in addition to my school duties. I’m sure we’ve all been there; you’re treading water with your normal workload, when suddenly everything else goes belly up and you’re stuck with WAY more than you think you can cope with (and, if you’re like me, you might even get lucky enough to catch a gross cold on top of that!).

Well, the good news is that you probably CAN handle what life is throwing at you. The bad news is it’s probably still going to suck for a while as you get things back under control. A little self care can go a long way at such times, so this and the next few posts will focus on just that! This first recipe (or potion, if you prefer) is quick, dirty, and a lifesaver on rough days.  It’s simple, and can easily be tweaked to replace different ingredients (chai instead of coffee, etc.) as long as they abide by the same goals: keep awake, keep fed, and keep going.

BASE:

Coffee (or another stimulant)

Sugar to taste

Optional, if you have time:

Pinch of cinnamon (energy, good vibes, strength)

Dash of clove (protection)

Peeled ginger (strengthens and intensifies workings it is part of)

Vanilla (restores lost energy)

Pinch of calendula flowers (courage, energy, protection)

If you’re in a rush, just make coffee or caffeinated tea as you normally would and move to the next step. If you have a few minutes—or are prepping ahead of time—you have two options:

1.       Steep the optional herbal ingredients in coffee while gently heating until infused, straining once finished, or

2.       Place herbs in a saucepan with a 2 / 1 mixture of sugar and water, enough to cover the herbs. Heat until sugar is melted and herbs have fully steeped their flavor into the syrup. Strain and bottle to add to your coffee base later.

If you are using vanilla extract, do not add it until the mixtures are cooled from a simmer, as the alcohol will evaporate. If you are very stressed while making this, I recommend stirring counterclockwise to banish negative energy and taking the simmer time to take a few deep breaths, clear your mind, and try to release a little tension.

To your base, add the following:

Milk/cream/soy (adds healthy fat and calcium—milk’s a food, too!)

Powdered nuts; specifically, I like a big scoop of powdered peanut butter for this (peanuts bring prosperity and protection), but there are a lot of different nuts with different properties available on the health market. A big huge jar of powered peanut butter will run you only about nine bucks at most stores.

This part seems like it might taste bad (I know that’s what I was afraid of when I first made it), but it’s honestly kind of good. And most importantly, both the above ingredients—mostly the peanut butter—are full of protein and good fats, which upgrades this from a short-term energy boost to something that will actually sustain you throughout the day.

When mixing the components, I place them all in a jar and shake vigorously. Jars are great for carrying drinks around in (or am I just weird?), and shaking the potion is my favorite point to really focus on its purpose: energy. If you want, this is a solid little chant to do over it as well, especially if accompanied by visualization:

I won’t rest; sleep won’t take me

Daily trials will not shake me

I am still here, standing strong

Time for rest has come and gone.

Throughout the day, this serves as a light power shake and a great way to kill both your hunger and your caffeine addiction at the same time. When I know that I’m not getting back home until late, this is my go-to for powering through the day!

Moon Spells

Each phase of the moon influences with a different type of energy. You can follow the phases of the moon, to converge the energy in favor of the things you wish to accoplish. 


WAXING MOON

To bless something you wanna start, to increase health, to increase success, to increase wealth


FULL MOON:

Related to health, success, charging/consecrating objects, rituals in general, wealth


WANING MOON: 

To get rid of a bad habit, diseases, obstacles, finish something, banish


NEW MOON

To reflect, to expand your consciousness, to learn about your shadow self, work with your subconscious, dream work, let go of fears, change something radically, renew

How to like yourself

1. Cultivate self-acceptance. That means you accept yourself for who you are right now. It means you don’t say things like “I would accept myself if … or … I’ll accept myself when.”

2. Stop going over all things you’ve done wrong, the mistakes you’ve made, and your (perceived) inadequacies.

3. Where there’s something in your past that you feel bad about say: “This is what I learned from that situation … And that was THEN and this is NOW.”

4. Don’t compare yourself to others . Instead notice the areas where you’ve grown and changed. Deliberately praise and focus on those positive changes.

5. Don’t fall into the trap of judging others – as that will often lead to being self-critical.

Repeat after me: you are not obliged to love your family. You are not.
If they don’t have respect for you, if they make you feel inferior, if they bully you, ignore you, abuse you in any way: you are not a bad person for not loving them, or not wanting to stay around. You dont have to do any of those things. You can go and build a family with the people who truly love you and respect you. Okay?
Stay safe, my darlings.

Don’t feel bad if you can’t quite love yourself yet. Self acceptance is a journey. Appreciate how far you’ve come and have faith in how far you will go. You are doing great at your own pace.

Aries: I’m proud of you, God fucking damnit, I’m so proud of you. You’ve come miles and miles and I know not enough people say it so I’m saying it now. I am so proud of you.

Taurus: You are so special. They’re abuse didn’t tarnish that. They’re horrible actions didn’t do any damage to that fucking soul. You’re not broken. You are not shattered remnants. You are whole.

Gemini: I know your piecing together parts of your broken self. Can I just stop and say you did a good job? That among the scars and rubble of your past is something fucking amazing. I know you still have bad days, you’ll be okay

Cancer: Some wounds aren’t meant to heal and some sickness weren’t meant to get better. But learn to live in this shell and make it your home because it’s all we’ve got.

Leo: Smile. Smile until it hurts. Because maybe then the pain that you’re going through will sting just a little bit less. Don’t let them destroy the light in yours eyes.

Virgo: Your world falling to pieces. Sometimes you have to light the powder keg. See what’s standing in the ruble. I know it’s scary, but take your shaking hand and blow it up. Blow it the fuck up.

Libra: Grab the bandages, grab the bleach. Clean up your clothes and wash your hair. Wrap your wounds. You’re a fucking warrior. So fight.

Scorpio: Take the jump. What are you so afraid of? Because the only scary thing I see here is you. You are the scariest thing about this situation. Take pride in that and jump. You’ll land on your feet.

Sagittarius: They aren’t angry. They just miss you. And if you ever decide to come home you will be welcomed with open arms even after all of this time. We hope you are well, and we hope you come home.

Capricorn : Celebrate yourself and the small victories you have. Take in the air and know that nothing thrives all year long in nature and neither do you. So let yourself rest and let yourself recover. And bloom again when you’re ready.

Aquarius : heal. And not because someone else is telling you to but because parts of you are broken and need to be fixed. Let yourself recover. Because in the end, isn’t recovery worth it?

Pisces: Exist. Exist in this moment and take control because it’s all you’ve got. Hold on tight, I know it’s scary. But some rides are worth the wait.

—  This week’s horoscope