Generosity

My handwriting is one of my favorite things about myself, along with my love of reading and learning. And I have always hoped that I am a generous and kind person, and if I can live up to those qualities then that is what I like best about myself. Day 1 of the February challenge by @journaling-junkie

Pen: Pilot Vanishing Point, Pilot Falcon
Ink: De'Atramentis Pine Green

Note to self: flip it

Flip it.

Ex: If your mom is giving you a lot of instructions about something you already know and you start to feel overwhelmed by them, and the nagging evil voices whisper, “she thinks you’re incompetent and stupid and a baby, that’s why she does this” and darkness starts to knock on the door of your heart,

flip it

and immediately pray inside, “God, thank you for giving me a mother who loves me so much that she wants to try and help me and pass on her wisdom”,

“thank you for this chance to grow in patience and humility, Jesus”,

smile, say thank you, objectively assess the advice for truth and goodness, and go about your business.

because the people near you generally do what they BELIEVE is good and helpful, even if/when they’re wrong, and it isn’t

Healthy boundaries with others are different than being rude and hard toward others.

All is grace and God knows better than I do what I need: everything He gives and everything He permits is for my good because I’m not as self sufficient or hyper-competent as I think I am, and all that happens in my day is something He either ALLOWED (like the cruxifixction) or INTENDED (like the annunciation), and thus, works toward a greater good. Always.

Imagine Loki, after discovering about his true heritage, asks to be taken to Jotunheim so that he can discover more about his origins. When in Jotunheim, Loki is initially received rather coldly by everyone. He takes it in stride and slowly charms the populace by his kindness, generosity and willingness to adapt. He discovers Laufey is an unpopular king, and slowly turns the people against him and the rest of the royal family.

In a dramatic turn of events, Laufey is deposed and Loki takes the throne. And then he shows his ruthless side. He takes full control of the kingdom and exiles the royal family. Anyone who opposes him or mocks him is executed without mercy. Loki soon has the kingdom under his iron fist. It amuses him to see all the giants fearing him. He then takes all the weapons from the weapons vault in Asgard, as he knows the secret pathways to it. Asgard falls to Loki while Thor is still banished. Loki unites the two kingdoms, as Odin had planned, but only in the most disparate fashion to Odin’s designs, and it’s the most satisfying victory Loki ever tasted.

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Old-ish art - the party of the group I’m DM-ing! We’re a few sessions in, and I’m loving it.
In order:
Athuriel, chaotic good high elf cleric
Jorrin, neutral good dragonborn fighter
Galain, lawful good half-elf paladin
Skamos, chaotic neutral tiefling sorcerer
Generosity, lawful neutral tiefling rogue
Lorcan, chaotic good halfling bard

They’re a fun group!!

I firmly believe in small gestures: pay for their coffee, hold the door for strangers, over tip, smile or try to be kind even when you don’t feel like it, pay compliments, chase the kid’s runaway ball down the sidewalk and throw it back to him, try to be larger than you are— particularly when it’s difficult. People do notice, people appreciate. I appreciate it when it’s done to (for) me. Small gestures can be an effort, or actually go against our grain (“I’m not a big one for paying compliments…”), but the irony is that almost every time you make them, you feel better about yourself. For a moment life suddenly feels lighter, a bit more Gene Kelly dancing in the rain.
—  Jonathan Carroll
The Essence of Generosity

‘The essence of generosity is letting go. Pain is always a sign that we are holding on to something - usually ourselves. When we feel unhappy, when we feel inadequate, we get stingy; we hold on tight. Generosity is an activity that loosens up. By offering whatever we can - a dollar, a flower, a word of encouragement - we are training in letting go.

There are so many ways to practice generosity. The main point isn’t so much what we give, but that we unlock our habit of clinging. A traditional practice is simply to offer an object that we cherish from one hand to another. A woman I know decided that whatever she was attached to she’d give it away. One man gave money to people begging in the streets every day for six months after the death of his father. It was his way of working with grief. Another woman trained in visualizing giving away whatever she most feared losing.

Giving practice shows us where we’re holding back, where we’re still clinging. We start with our well-laid plans, but life blows them apart. From a gesture of generosity, true letting go will evolve. Our conventional perspective will begin to change. The causes of aggression and fear begin to dissolve by themselves when we move past the poverty of holding back and holding on.

The journey of generosity is one of connecting with the wealth of bodhichitta so profoundly that we are willing to begin to give away whatever blocks it. We open ourselves and let ourselves be touched. We build confidence is all-pervasive richness. At the everyday level, we experience it as flexibility and warmth.’

- Pema Chodron, Comfortable With Uncertainty.

Traditionally, there are three types of generosity. The first one is ordinary generosity, giving material goods or providing comfortable situations for others. The second one is the gift of fearlessness. You reassure others and teach them that they don’t have to feel completely tormented and freaked out about their existence. You help them to see that there is basic goodness and spiritual practice, that there is a way for them to sustain their lives. That is the gift of fearlessness. The third type of generosity is the gift of dharma. You show others that there is a path that consists of discipline, meditation, and intellect or knowledge. Through all three types of generosity, you can open up other people’s minds. In that way their closedness, wretchedness, and small thinking can be turned into a larger vision.
—  Chogyam Trungpa