Sent to my website email this morning - Subject: Enough Message: Enough of the gay stuff on Bright Sessions. Please we are begging you. Sent on: June 2, 2017.

So here we are, two days into PRIDE month. How’s everybody doing?

I’m going to start off by leaning into the mic and saying with full-throat clarity: “Fuck you…you fucking fuck”.

I am a gay man…and before that, I was a gay kid…a scared and angry kid who had so much internal homophobia brewing inside of him that he thought he might explode because nothing in the world was convincing him, or trying to convince him for that matter, that it was normal and okay to be who he really was. And I can tell you, when I was that scared kid, shows like The Bright Session were almost non-existent; and what a shame.

I would have cried from happiness if The Bright Sessions existed when I was a boy. Shows like The Fosters, Glee, Eye Witness, Riverdale, Shadowhunters…shows where I could see myself on the screen in a way all of my heterosexual friends could without question since birth. 

Today I turn on the radio…and 99.999% of the music is, narratively, written/produced with a straight audience in mind…and in some cases/genres it’s used to target and ridicule me and my sexuality.

I live in a world where gay men are being thrown off of rooftops and “exorcized” in Chechnya because they are seen as aberrations; less than…underserving of love and existence. I live in a world where in my own country, a venomous discriminatory fear-based movement validated by the election of their figurehead sent a resounding message that my rights are actually up for debate.

In a world where there is so little positive reflected back at me…so little out there saying that my truth and the stories that express my life and experiences on this earth are valid…in a world where I feel like every day and every breath is a stand to qualify my existence…In that world, I get a message that tells me “enough of the gay stuff”. 

So…to the person who sent this message, I feel sorry for you; I genuinely do…I truly, genuinely and absolutely do. How terrible your life must be, and how delicate your self-image must be to reach out and say something like that. At first look, the message is mean and evil…but then the shaky-ground of masculine fragility reveals itself, as it always does, and I pity you. 

This is Pride Month…It’s meant to celebrate the LGBT+ community and our allies by opening up to share the beauty and diversity of our lives with everyone. I am proud of who I am…and it took a damn long time to get here.

I can’t really speak for Lauren, our creator/show-runner, or the rest of the cast, but…we have a gay character, a bi character, a lesbian character and a “no labels at this time” character confirmed as canon in The Bright Sessions…and I’m here to tell you we will never “enough with the gay stuff”. We are here to celebrate the people and stories that matter to us…Caleb, Adam, Mark and Rose are my friends; these are the people I have in my life and I think you’d be lucky to know. So yeah, no…not “enough of the gay stuff”. 

*throws glitter in the air and walks off*

- Briggon 

Gil’s Story Is My Nightmare

You know, it normally takes weeks if not months for my feelings to settle on a subject relating to fiction. Like, my first time through, it’ll wash over me, I’ll consider it a while, and then, eventually, I’ll come to a conclusion.

But Gil’s story rubbed me wrong on first run, and I easily figured out why.

Gil’s story is my nightmare as a gay man.

I know I’m not the first to sum it up, but I am SO frustrated and pissed off by this (and Mass Effect Andromeda’s handling of M/M relationships in general), I need to work it out of my system.

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I am endlessly amused that the people who whimper and cry about “sharia law” and how terrible it would be if laws were decided by some religion

Are the same people who will argue that it should be legal to discriminate against gay people because their interpretation of their religion dictates it.
A federal court just made a very big decision for gay rights. Seriously, it’s huge.
It’s the first federal appeals court decision to rule that anti-gay discrimination is banned under existing federal law.
By German Lopez

The ruling concludes that the Civil Rights Act of 1964 also protects workers from discrimination based on sexual orientation.

When the courts recognize your basic rights…

Originally posted by eatwithme75


Gay workers may lose promotions, raises because of bias toward their voice, study suggests

  • Gay men and lesbian women may be passed over for leadership positions, and possibly even raises, because of discrimination related to the sound of their voice, according to new research.
  • During the study, published in March by the Archives of Sexual Behavior, sample groups were provided pictures and recordings of a mix of different speakers, some heterosexual and some not. 
  • The respondents were asked to guess speakers’ sexual orientations based only on the images and voices.
  • Next, researchers chose the speakers who were most likely to be perceived as homosexual and the speakers who were most likely to be perceived as straight: 
  • In a follow-up study, researchers played a short recording of the two “types” of voices and had subjects answer a series of questions about the speakers’ qualifications for an executive job listing. Study participants also had to supply a monthly salary figure they thought was fair.
  • Overall, “applicants” perceived to be gay were assigned lower pay and were more likely to be rated “in adequate” for leadership roles, regardless of whether they were male or female. 
  • The researchers also asked whom subjects would prefer to associate with, and found evidence of bias toward gay men. Read more (3/21/17 3:12 PM)

@ everyone saying biphobia is a subset of homophobia and cant be its own independent concept: please show me where lesbians and gay men are discriminated against for feeling attraction to more than one gender. please show me where lesbians and gay men are told they need to “pick a side” and will “settle down as gay/straight eventually”. please show me where lesbians and gay men are dumped bc their partners think being mga makes them more likely to cheat. please explain to me how lesbians and gay men are erased by the statement “you can only be gay or straight.” 

all of those things are struggles faced specifically by bi ppl. if biphobia is really a subset of homophobia, that means it is homophobia, or at least part of homophobia. 

Suicide Rates of LGBT

LGBT has been targeted for discrimination for a very long time. Homophobes and transphobes hurt us verbally, emotionally, and even physically, and it’s a serious problem.

First it was the gay/lesbian people, then the transgenders, then the nonbinary people, etc. “Being gay is gross,” and “You can’t be a boy/girl,” and “You can’t be a made up gender.” Over the years, it gets worse.

Some people don’t know what kind of pain they’re putting a person through with their words. Words are as powerful as actions. They can be a benefit or nothing useful. The discrimination in this case benefits absolutely nothing.

If you are homophobic or transphobic or are against LGBT and call them attention seekers and snowflake and made up, think about this: What would calling people that do for you and for them? It definitely won’t make them cisgender and/or straight if that’s what you’re trying to accomplish. It’s only going to make them more miserable. Loads of members in LGBT are discriminated for trying to be themselves and trying to live their life in a way that makes them feel the most comfortable with themselves. Depression affects LGBT more than the heterosexual population. Why? Because they’re treated differently. Like they’ve don’t something wrong when they’ve done absolutely nothing. Telling a person these negative things can lead one to take their own life. Think about it: You discriminated a gay person for loving who they want and for being attracted to the same sex. They get enough discrimination already. And one day you hear they’ve killed themselves because they couldn’t take the pain anymore. Think about the grief you would’ve caused their family (homophobic/transphobic or not), and to say your not responsible is ignorant. If you hurt that person verbally for being a fucking human being, then you are a part of their depression, their self harm, their suicide. Depression includes the symptoms of suicidal thoughts, insomnia, fatigue, agitation, emptiness, etc. Self harm can kill a person if they do it enough times and can severely damage your health. And suicide can cause great pain and grief. But sadly the people in this world can’t take the change to try to understand people; to try to be more accepting because they’re more focused on hurting others instead of trying to make this world a little less darker and a little more peaceful. You can’t say anything about someone if you’ve never walked in their shoes and have felt what they’ve felt.

If you know someone who’s against LGBT or someone who discriminates people of the community, I want you to send them this. Please. Or if you’re reading this as a phobic person, please think about what you’re doing to people and how you’re killing them inside. Because this is a problem, bullying and discrimination. You could be a great help in this world by learning about someone’s identity and orientation and accepting the fact that not everyone is going to be a cisgender heterosexual. Not everyone is going to be like you. Imagine yourself as a gay person or a transgender person or both or whatever. Think about what you’d have to go through everyday if you were surrounded by a hateful community. Your family hates you (parents have abused their kids for being gay, trans, etc). Your friends hate you (many have been under peer pressure and negativity because of who they are). No one accepts you for how you want to be. No one accepts you for being human. A person of LGBT isn’t any less human than you are. That’s something people need to realize. And if we can’t ever realize that, then people won’t ever change.

Watch this video. Hopefully it can get to someone’s mind and heart and change them for the better. And reblog this as many times as possible and share this on your social medias.

Originally posted by depression-sadness-madness

Stonewall Riots

“When the first patrol wagon arrived, Inspector Pine recalled that the crowd—most of whom were homosexual—had grown to at least ten times the number of people who were arrested, and they all became very quiet. Confusion over radio communication delayed the arrival of a second wagon. The police began escorting Mafia members into the first wagon, to the cheers of the bystanders. Next, regular employees were loaded into the wagon. A bystander shouted, "Gay power!”, someone began singing “We Shall Overcome”, and the crowd reacted with amusement and general good humor mixed with “growing and intensive hostility”. An officer shoved a transvestite, who responded by hitting him on the head with her purse as the crowd began to boo. Author Edmund White, who had been passing by, recalled, “Everyone’s restless, angry, and high-spirited. No one has a slogan, no one even has an attitude, but something’s brewing." Pennies, then beer bottles, were thrown at the wagon as a rumor spread through the crowd that patrons still inside the bar were being beaten.

A scuffle broke out when a woman in handcuffs was escorted from the door of the bar to the waiting police wagon several times. She escaped repeatedly and fought with four of the police, swearing and shouting, for about ten minutes. Described as "a typical New York butch” and “a dyke–stone butch”, she had been hit on the head by an officer with a baton for, as one witness claimed, complaining that her handcuffs were too tight. Bystanders recalled that the woman, whose identity remains unknown (Stormé DeLarverie has been identified by some, including herself, as the woman, but accounts vary), sparked the crowd to fight when she looked at bystanders and shouted, “Why don’t you guys do something?” After an officer picked her up and heaved her into the back of the wagon, the crowd became a mob and went “berserk”: “It was at that moment that the scene became explosive.” 

Read about the Stonewall riots

anonymous asked:

I love your work and I was so happy to find that to had a Tumblr. I don't know if you're the right person to ask, but I really respect how intelligent you are and I'm hoping you can help. I'm a bisexual woman who is in a long term relationship with a man. I love him dearly. But because I'm in a passing relationship, I'm starting to feel the hate from my fellow queers, who are passively shaming me for who I fell in love with. What should I do? I never got treated like this dating women.

I completely understand. I had exactly the same thing happen to me. Gay women mistakenly think that dating a man magically makes you heterosexual, forgetting of course that men don’t magically cure you of your love for women and other genders, and that all that sleeping with a man makes you is sleeping with a man. 

The ‘passing privilege’ is something I specifically want to address. 

We all have passing privilege. All of us have different levels of passing privilege. Every single one of you will pass at some point in your lives, ranging from either just online to every situation you’re in. For most people, when you walk down the street, people assume you’re cishet. When you interact with someone new they ask you about your ‘husband’ or ‘boyfriend’ (and if you have one!) and any children. People assume you are straight. ‘Passing privilege’ is not something exclusive to bisexual folks, and just because there are a few more situations they can pass in, and a few more obstacles they avoid, doesn’t mean they don’t face most of the discrimination like gay folks do. 

FURTHERMORE, bisexuals may sometimes avoid some of the obstacles gay people face when they date someone that appears to make them look like a cishet couple, but in avoiding those, they face something incredibly isolating that we all understand: being invisible, and feeling like no one understands. 

When I was dating a (lovely) man in my mid-twenties, every time someone would say something homophobic, I felt it. Every time someone would assume I was with a man, even though I was actually with a man, I noticed. Every time the government debated gay marriage and gay rights I intimately felt all that stuff because you know what? I’m still queer. I still love women. That part of me didn’t magically disappear. My boyfriend didn’t understand, either, because he was like, “At least that doesn’t affect you anymore!” Yeah, babe. It actually DOES affect me. I’m not straight. 

Worse: my mother acted like I was ‘cured’ when I was dating him. She was so overjoyed, and that broke my fucking heart because nothing had changed about me. I was the same. She just didn’t like the bisexual truth about me. So the idea that I get to have my parents acceptance and love is false, because that’s not what I had. I had conditional acceptance, and believe me, it hurt. Because it wasn’t for all of me. 

On top of that, every time I dated a guy, my lesbian friends would essentially excommunicate me. They’d stop inviting me out for ‘girl drinks’. They’d talk about me behind my back. They’d all have fun without me and the message was clear: you’re not welcome here anymore. Nothing about me had changed at all, nothing: but by dating a man, somehow I was suddenly ‘impure’ and unwelcome in ‘pure’ lesbian spaces. It was disgusting. I even had a lesbian call me a “sperm recepticle” once, which is not only biphobic, but transphobic to the fucking max. 

Bisexual folks face many (all, if they’re dating someone of the same gender!) of the same obstacles gay folks face with the addition of straight people and gay people dismissing them. 

So: don’t let anyone tell you you’re not queer. Don’t let them passively excommunicate you: CALL them on it. Tell them nothing has changed. You’re still attracted to women, and sleeping with a man doesn’t change that one bit. Don’t let them discriminate against you without (gently, or not gently, if necessary!) calling them on it. 

You’re just as queer as they are. You’re just a different sort of queer. You’re not a lesser queer. You’re not an ‘impure’ queer. You’re a different flavour of queer and the rainbow needs all colours <3

holydissent  asked:

Hey, so i was looking at the french word for lesbian and i noticed that it had both the masculine and feminine versions of it - lesbien and lesbienne. Is there a particular reason for it? I found that problematic as fuck initially but is there any unproblematic context to it?


You’re mixing up the noun and the adjective! 
The noun : une lesbienne = a lesbian
The adjective : lesbien, ne = lesbian, as in : 

Suzie et Louise forment un couple lesbien. 
Suzie and Louise are a lesbian couple. 

Le militantisme lesbien doit être différencié du militantisme gay car les discriminations qu’ils combattent ne sont pas exactement les mêmes. 
Lesbian activism should be differenciated from gay activism since the discrimations they’re fighting aren’t exactly the same. 

Hope it’s clearer now :)

Straight Pride Day

I could really care less about a straight pride day. People should be able to have pride in their sexuality. But there’s some things I don’t get. Why really would their be a pride day? I’m not trying to be an ass but I don’t fully understand it. Here’s my contrast:

Straight People:
- Have had all rights for being straight
- Is considered normal for being straight
- They haven’t really been discriminated

Gay People:
- Haven’t had their rights in some countries
- Considered a sin or not real and such
- Have been discriminated for a long time (maybe not as much as seen anymore but they still are, especially by parents or kids in schools)

Forgive me if this is ignorant. But that’s just what I think. Have pride in what you want. But I don’t exactly understand the concept.

Dating Aranea Headcanons
  • Dating Aranea is an experience
  • Even if you don’t run around Eos with her, she keeps you updated with constant texts and phone calls, some of which are in the middle of a fight
  • If you’re dating her, there’s a 94% chance you’re a gay girl. Aranea doesn’t discriminate, but she does have a preference for women and feminine people in general sapphic queen
  • Aranea loves a pretty face, and if she sees somebody she finds attractive she wants to share with you. You don’t have to worry about her leaving you for Pretty Boy Noctis. To her, a pretty face is no different than a pretty flower!
  • Your girlfriend is like a fire. Not because she’s hot, but because she roasts you
  • Nobody else can make fun of you though or she gets mad. Like red faced, 
  • She’ll send you a picture of a cat taking a shit and say, “This made me think of you… Miss you babe ;(”
  • You take artistic, pretty pictures of her. Pictures of her gazing into the distance, wearing flower crowns, smiling with red cheeks when you’re on a date…
  • But her pictures of you are unflattering. Her lock-screen is a picture of you falling down the stairs, and her home is a picture of you mid sneeze. She thinks you look cute though, so that’s all that really matters
  • If she comes home with Umbra just call Ravus and he’ll pick him up, don’t sweat it. She tries to steal him all the time, Ravus doesn’t even get mad anymore